Hey everyone,
Just thought I'd get some opinions here... I know there have been several threads about age differences when dating... but, how does everyone feel when push comes to shove?
What I mean is, I placed a personal ad on a small, Christian dating site... wrote a few short emails to a few guys in my age range (which I consider to be about five years, up or down... not as a hard and fast rule but in general) who sounded interesting, fun, and had some common hobbies... and heard back from none of them.
But do you want to know about the guys who wrote me, saying they'd "love to share the Word" or "pray" with me? So far the ages have been 46, 54, and 57.
Come on!!! 57??? (I'm 35.) Please forgive me for not exactly believing they just want to be a good Christian friend to me.
But I know to some people, that wouldn't be a problem. Everyone has their own personal preference (a close friend of mine used to ONLY date guys 10-30 years older than herself.)
As for me, I prefer guys "within my own age range" because:
1. I see way too many men leaving their wives for much younger women (I'm NOT trying to bash guys here, I'm just saying that I personally see it a lot--my own ex-husband left me for someone about 5 years younger when I was married 12 years ago).
2. I would like to give other women hope that they can find a good Christian guy within their own age ranges, too.
3. I've been hit on by men old enough to be my Dad and Grandpa starting when I was about 12 years old (including a teacher at a parochial school), so please forgive me if I just can't seem to get past that and can't find that attention flattering at all.
Some of my friends tell me I'm being to picky or judgmental... I like to say, there's such a thing as being judgmental, which God doesn't want us to do... and using good judgment, which He does want us to do. And the last time I caved in to their criticisms about "not being open-minded enough" or a "Christian snob", I wound up with an alcoholic (8 years older) and was raising his two children because he couldn't do it himself.
And just out of curiosity... why is it that so many people nowadays (I know it can be both men and women--I'm not trying to pick on just the men here) are dating people so much younger or older?
What do you all think? And if anyone out there has dated someone 20 years older or younger than themselves, please let me know how it went. I know it works out for some people and I'd love to hear your story.
Please share your thoughts, opinions, and experiences.
Just thought I'd get some opinions here... I know there have been several threads about age differences when dating... but, how does everyone feel when push comes to shove?
What I mean is, I placed a personal ad on a small, Christian dating site... wrote a few short emails to a few guys in my age range (which I consider to be about five years, up or down... not as a hard and fast rule but in general) who sounded interesting, fun, and had some common hobbies... and heard back from none of them.
But do you want to know about the guys who wrote me, saying they'd "love to share the Word" or "pray" with me? So far the ages have been 46, 54, and 57.
Come on!!! 57??? (I'm 35.) Please forgive me for not exactly believing they just want to be a good Christian friend to me.
But I know to some people, that wouldn't be a problem. Everyone has their own personal preference (a close friend of mine used to ONLY date guys 10-30 years older than herself.)
As for me, I prefer guys "within my own age range" because:
1. I see way too many men leaving their wives for much younger women (I'm NOT trying to bash guys here, I'm just saying that I personally see it a lot--my own ex-husband left me for someone about 5 years younger when I was married 12 years ago).
2. I would like to give other women hope that they can find a good Christian guy within their own age ranges, too.
3. I've been hit on by men old enough to be my Dad and Grandpa starting when I was about 12 years old (including a teacher at a parochial school), so please forgive me if I just can't seem to get past that and can't find that attention flattering at all.
Some of my friends tell me I'm being to picky or judgmental... I like to say, there's such a thing as being judgmental, which God doesn't want us to do... and using good judgment, which He does want us to do. And the last time I caved in to their criticisms about "not being open-minded enough" or a "Christian snob", I wound up with an alcoholic (8 years older) and was raising his two children because he couldn't do it himself.
And just out of curiosity... why is it that so many people nowadays (I know it can be both men and women--I'm not trying to pick on just the men here) are dating people so much younger or older?
What do you all think? And if anyone out there has dated someone 20 years older or younger than themselves, please let me know how it went. I know it works out for some people and I'd love to hear your story.
Please share your thoughts, opinions, and experiences.
That just screams sugar daddy...and that is sooooooo not attractive to me!!
