Can a battered wife file for divorce?

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stonesoffire

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This just gives satan more energy, all this rage and hate. His actions shouldn't be condoned, but that shouldn't mean that he should be treated the way he is treating his wife. We are called to be peacemakers, not warmongers.
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OneFaith

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People are always talking about battered wives, but there's a good number of battered men as well.

Men that has been raised to treat women respectfully, and can't get themselves to stop their wife from physically attacking them, even though they could stop her with their one hand if they were not so mentally abused and worn out by her.

I guess society isn't ready for this knowledge yet.
This is true, and what I said applies whether you are male or female.

 

OneFaith

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I am not without sympathy. I know this situation full well, I was in it. And that’s why I studied it, and why I know that there are shelters and other ways out other than divorce. If you have a problem with me saying that there is only one reason for divorce, then you have a problem with the Master- because they are His words, it is His command, I am only the messenger.


 
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This just gives satan more energy, all this rage and hate. His actions shouldn't be condoned, but that shouldn't mean that he should be treated the way he is treating his wife. We are called to be peacemakers, not warmongers.

Yeah....ok......you remind me of another dude....if he seen his girlfriend being raped he would have prayed....get real.....and get some understanding...serious
 

joaniemarie

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This kind of man is a selfish slob who doesn't get to have the good consequences of keeping a wife. He has forfeited his wife. And she is not bound to stay unmarried because of the behavior of such a coward. She didn't deserve to be beat by a man. And certainly God would not compound her misery by forcing her to be alone for the rest of her life.

Not sure why Christians think God would uphold a man in a position of husband who hurts one of His daughters. God doesn't work that way but human religion does.

That same husband who hits his wife out of anger is angry at lots of people but doesn't hit them. Odd how he avoids even to speak to the fellow worker who weighs 300 pounds with 8 tattoos.

Some Christians are more "religious" than God forcing a woman to be 'punished' for her husbands choices. ....Enduring punishment on behalf of someone guilty.... ..... Didn't Jesus already endure such punishment? Yes.. He did.
 

Zmouth

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Not to go off topic, but if the man doesn't beat the help mate after they are joined together then should they technically be judged as a 'wife beater' since they weren't married?

In case the monster is "faithful" what would be the biblical basis for divorce?
Jesus taught that from the beginning of man on earth that they were made male and female, and for that cause the children of this world marry, and are given in marriage: But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain enterance into the Kingdom of Heaven and resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: So what is biblical basis of 'faithful' in that case?

 
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joefizz

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Oh...am I in that corner of CC again? How did I end up here... :/
alt+control+delete perhaps!? or maybe you were just cruising on through the threads,anyways,now that you are here I would advise to...
Vacate this thread and watch or play something pokemon,else you get involved in some strange conversation to help further to distract you from this weirdness observe these pokemon instead...

observe that they all have one thing in common they are "running",running from this thread is what I am doing and would advise you do the same.
 
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7seasrekeyed

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can a battered wife attend a self defense course and take care of the...er...'problem' herself?
 

Innerfire89

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can a battered wife attend a self defense course and take care of the...er...'problem' herself?
That or get a gun. The human body isn't made to be punched and kicked, assault can end a persons life easily, someone who threatens with violence is a threat to living.
 

lastofall

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[for me anyway] the only exception by the Lord Jesus Christ is for fornication, but fornication does have an expanded meaning beyond just infidelity: for fornication is the immoral behavior in relations; but its prime meaning is immoral behavior, and immoral behavior certainly defines abuse, and is just as unrighteous as infidelity (or even more so); and the person who commits immoral behavior in a marriage has departed from the sanctification of it: and a wife (or husband) is not under imprisonment of such, because it is the abuser who has departed from the marriage, and not the faithful.
 

trofimus

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Why divorce? Why not separation?

Divorce will not make her "free" to marry another, if this is the question...
 

blue_ladybug

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Even if she does leave and go to a shelter or somewhere, there's always the chance he will go after her and kill her anyway.. Surely God understands that the wife really has no other viable option. Jesus NEVER meant for us to be a punching bag for our spouses. THAT is NOT His idea of a faithful marriage..

Don't you people ever watch all the true-life movies on Lifetime, about this very subject?
 

OneFaith

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Even if she does leave and go to a shelter or somewhere, there's always the chance he will go after her and kill her anyway.. Surely God understands that the wife really has no other viable option. Jesus NEVER meant for us to be a punching bag for our spouses. THAT is NOT His idea of a faithful marriage..

Don't you people ever watch all the true-life movies on Lifetime, about this very subject?
If he’s going to try to murder her, he will try whether or not there’s a divorce. A divorce is not going to stop him, just infuriate him more, and bring him in contact with her so that he can do it. If the threat is that bad, it’s best to go into hiding, not come to court where he can find you.
 

EarnestQ

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Oh...am I in that corner of CC again? How did I end up here... :/

Winerose, (and others like her) I sincerely pray you never have to deal with a problem like this.
 

EarnestQ

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can a battered wife attend a self defense course and take care of the...er...'problem' herself?

It is possible but not easy. It would take months to learn how to defend herself from such monsters. Even then he would still have weight and strength on his side. Furthermore, if he found he could not safely beat her anymore, he would probably shoot her or use a baseball bat, etc. He could easily attack her in her sleep. These monsters do not have the concept of fairness. Many will not hesitate to torture and murder if they can't have their way.

It is far more safe and practical to GET AWAY from monsters rather than try to beat them at their own game. Their creativity and capacity for evil cannot be overestimated.