First, God gives us the faith to repent of our sins and believe. He does not expect us to wash ourselves up first, and then he saves us. Once he saves us, he begins the work of sanctifying us. That means convicting us of sin, developing the fruits of the Spirit in our lives, receving his gifts so we might better serve God, the body of Christ and bring the lost to an understarnding of the gospel. And prayer! God teaches us how to pray, so that we might be transformed, and our very lives and the changes in them will lead others to realize the parts of their lives that are so empty when they see the difference Christ makes in our lives.
A homosexual is no different. Athough the propaganda has for years been that there is a "gay" gene (not so - not a single study or article has uncovered this) or that once people are damaged by sexual abuse, esp. as children, there is no help for them. A further bit of nonsense is this "gender fluidity" junk, which says that you can be any gender or no gender. Or have your cake and eat it too! Like Bruce Jenner being woman of the year when he kept his "junk." Talk about dysmorphia.
I've said this before. We have a man in our church, very flamboyant, and a marvelous musician and spiritual leader. He has been married to a woman for 26 years and they are very happy. I don't know if God has delivered him totally from homosexual temptation, but he is certainly a person chosen by God.
I think we do need to share the gospel, and pray for people who have lost their way with regards to sexual expression as it is allowed in the Bible. I was just reading the book "Divine Conspiracy" by Dallas Willard today, and he speaks of when Jesus is talking on the Sermon on the Mount, against even lusting for a woman. He also noted by extension, these commands of Jesus (written on our hearts, of course!) apply to all manner of sexual perversions.
The problem we have today, is that the world, the media, and certainly the LGBTQ community are pushing an agenda which is in direct conflict with the Bible. They are seeking to normalize homosexual behaviour, and anyone who says it is sin, is then judged and condemned. So sadly, many people do not even know this kind of behaviour is sin, and must be given up.
I still maintain we need to share the gospel, including sin and repentance, but also the amazing love and grace of God, who died to save a wretch like me! Let the Holy Spirit do the work of saving them, and then be prepared to love, but also to share the way to go with regards to ALL sin! And that is to repent and confess our sins!
I think you have a difficult road to walk, Mike. I will be praying for you!