This posts troubles me because you give voice to the lies demons whisper to people but never address and refute the lies with truth....
Counter to the lies..
1. You should love you, your body, your life because God loves you. Which of you would want your son or daughter to hate themselves?
2. You can't serve the Lord and be carnal at the same time.
3.too much self examination does not lead to anything but self righteousness Or condemnation depending on what you find and how honest you are about what God expects....no look to God and His will and have pure undefined religion.,feed the hungry and visit widows and orphans.
4. God convicts hearts and wants humble and contrite hearts that are teachable and willing to learn...not condemnation or harden hearts who are so numb from the pain they have stop beating..
I agree that too much self dwelling and asking questions, rather than letting love take root is not healthy.
My vision of people is what I call emotional wall paper. All our experiences build up this massive patch work of experiences and reactions. It becomes who we are and how we react to things in life. But God takes this and starts through obedience, forgiveness, confession, repentance, faith, love, dwells to build new reactions and new perspectives. We change and simply are not aware of it. But doing, primarily the principles within the sermon on the mount we become a different person.
I remember feeling something that used to hold me back with regard to my family and ideas of rights and what I could or could not share. It struck me that this was no longer true and I have become something different. The key was not analysis but letting love and forgiveness take root in my soul.
Another insight I had was when someone recently said, do not let emotions sway you, consider the issues.
What would have been more insightful, is let all you emotions balance the issues out and consider carefully what you really care about and what matters most.
So much of what you read is about distrust of Gods work in our hearts, and only relying on God. In maturity it is both trusting the work God has done in us and in the communion we have with the Father.
The heart is desperately wicked and deceives us into many things because it just want stability and an easy life.
We can square the circles but only as a body, taking seriously the principles Jesus has laid on us, and not dismiss them as if they are just sent to torment us with failure. God never speaks or behaves like this. He is our Father who wishes we grow up.