Which is more important: Correct doctrine or a godly attitude toward others?

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Chester

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As I reflect on it, I think the reason for my starting this thread was because in the BDF I saw a lot of self-presumed "spiritual authority" without any sign of what I would call spiritual maturity.

Anyone (including long term intelligent believers) can presume to have "perfect" doctrine. They can then justify their abusive attitude toward others by saying that even Jesus insulted the Pharisees and drove the money changers from the temple. (But Jesus didn't use the whip on the money changers. He used it on the animals.)

But Jesus Himself said that the greatest commandment was to love God, and the second was to love others.

I believe that if one truly loves God, he will love what God loves and therefore will naturally love others the way God does. But we're so dull that Jesus had to spell out the result of loving God, otherwise we would argue about it and never do it.

The BDF proves that far too many Christians presume to be so spiritually mature that they self designate themselves to teach others the error of their ways with all the arrogance of the Pharisees.

This is not spiritual maturity. Spiritual maturity is to be like Jesus. Jesus rarely argued doctrine with anyone. Instead, He demonstrated God's love for those around Him.

I am convinced that, once one is truly saved, it is more important to reflect Jesus' love to others than argue doctrine. This is not to say that there is not to be a fundamental passion for the truth of things. That is the second characteristic I consider to be most important for a growing Christian.

It is the observation of myself and others who have posted on the subject, that the hallmark of a spiritually mature Christian - demonstrating the love of God toward others, - is too often neglected by self righteous abusive posters.

I regret this and wish there were some way they (we all) could be encouraged to love God and others more than to be abusive to those who disagree with their doctrine.

But this is a characteristic of us fallen humans and I was one of the ignorant abusive people just not too long, and still am in some ways.

Lord have mercy on us all, please.
Amen, amen, amen, amen, and amen!
 
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Ariel82

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I often reflect upon the difference between godly wisdom and demonic earthly wisdom as described in James 3.

If it causes strife and bitterness that leads to ungodly action like reading apart a sibling....then something is wrong.

Spiritually mature people don't have to win debates...,they know the Holy spirit speaks and can lead others to the wisdom that they learnt.

I remember when I first started studying the Bible, I thought I knew a lot and most of the answers.

Now I realise how much I still don't know but that God reveals enough for me to live my life for His glory and that is enough
 

CS1

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Christian Chat (especially the BDF) is rife with heated arguments about one doctrinal point or another. Some posts are well thought out and presented respectfully. Far too many posts, however, are attacks on a previous poster's character and personality.

The later responses appear to me to present an ungodly attitude toward others. I believe these to be (giving them the benefit of the doubt) from immature Christians, whether their doctrine is correct or not.

So, my question is, "Is it more important to have a 'correct' doctrine and treat your brothers and sisters insultingly, disrespectfully, and ungodly, or, is is better to have a God honoring attitude that reflects the love of Jesus to others and not necessarily have the 'correct' doctrinal position.

A second related question is: "Is Christian maturity measured by 'correct' doctrine or a God honoring character?"

(We will assume a true belief and acceptance of God's Son, Jesus, as ones Lord and Savior on the part of the offending poster.)

Thank you for your comments.

Both are ,
 
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Ariel82

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Correct doctrine = godly attitude towards others.

If you don't have brotherly kindness and agape love then you fall short and lie if you think yourself a mature Christian.

1 John 4:20 ►
New International Version
Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.
 
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AuntieAnt

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If you are Christ's, He rules in your heart, so you already have the right "doctrine" and He will teach you how to love others by His own Spirit within you. Just keep your eyes on Jesus and He will show you the way. :D
 

Dan58

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I'm not sure the two can be separated? Jesus used doctrine (scriptures) to define a correct Godly attitude. The Pharisees misconstrued scriptures to suit themselves, Jesus redefined it to reflect its true meaning and purpose.

What if a person post something like; "The 10 commandments don't matter, we can throw them out because we're saved by faith". I don't think a Godly attitude to that comment is
... While I agree that its important to be nice by responding with a good attitude, there's nothing Godly about endorsing incorrect doctrine and going along with a blatant falsehood.
 
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Ralph-

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I often reflect upon the difference between godly wisdom and demonic earthly wisdom as described in James 3.

If it causes strife and bitterness that leads to ungodly action like reading apart a sibling....then something is wrong.

Spiritually mature people don't have to win debates...,they know the Holy spirit speaks and can lead others to the wisdom that they learnt.

I remember when I first started studying the Bible, I thought I knew a lot and most of the answers.

Now I realise how much I still don't know but that God reveals enough for me to live my life for His glory and that is enough
I'm glad you brought this verse up.

I think what James is saying is you show how wise and understanding you are by how you act.


"Who among you is wise and understanding? Let him show by his good behavior his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom. "-James 3:13


This teaching is from Deuteronomy 4:6...


"Observe them carefully (the decrees and laws the Lord my God commanded me-vs.5), for this will show your wisdom and understanding to the nations, who will hear about all these decrees and say, “Surely this great nation is a wise and understanding people.”


It's interesting to see people here in cc who seem to be wise and understanding but who show by their behavior how unwise they are and how little understanding they actually have.

The connection between behavior and what a person's knows probably doesn't compute for a lot of Christians. But it will one day. God is not taking us to heights of doctrinal excellence. He is taking us to heights of behavioral excellence. We tend to want to think that correct doctrine shows how close to God we are. No. How you act shows how close to God you are.
 
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The connection between behavior and what a person's knows probably doesn't compute for a lot of Christians. But it will one day. God is not taking us to heights of doctrinal excellence. He is taking us to heights of behavioral excellence. We tend to want to think that correct doctrine shows how close to God we are. No. How you act shows how close to God you are.
That sounds nice in theory, but I've seen too much fake, superficial Christian love to believe that approach actually works. The holy spirit doesn't operate independently of the word, ie., correct doctrine.
 

Didymous

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That sounds nice in theory, but I've seen too much fake, superficial Christian love to believe that approach actually works. The holy spirit doesn't operate independently of the word, ie., correct doctrine.
Even though both of your opinions are just conjecture, I'd believe the one that seems to line up with the bible. In this case, it's the former opinion, rather than the latter.
 

Mem

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People in the church are deceived into thinking their service shows they 'know' Christ. But it is one's obedience that shows that you are born again and know Christ.


"22Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’23Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’"-Matthew 7:22-23


‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’-Matthew 9:13


Obedience is better than sacrifice.
Matthew 7:22-23 refers to a faith in works that will be rejected.

Also, along with a clarification of whom Jesus has come to call, sinners, Matthew 9:13 includes His directive to "go and learn what this means:..." which refers us to Hosea 6:6 contained within the context of the response to God's rebuke to return to, and press on, to know the LORD (with additional revelation of the character of the Benefactor of our salvation).

Looking back at Hosea 5 gives us further insight as to the rebuke which prompted this Hosea 6:6 answer, "For I desire [chesed] rather than sacrifice, and in the knowledge of God rather than burnt offerings." [Lovingkindness, or any one other English word, does not adequately encompass the entire meaning of 'chesed.'] Note Hosea 5:11, "Ephraim is oppressed and broken in judgment, because he willingly walked after the commandment."

And, I see "Obedience is better than sacrifices." is from Samuel 15:22 where 'obedience' is denoted as hearing (shama) and listening to the voice of the LORD, which is a passive action complimentary to the Lord's active voice.

Considering this is probably an entirely different view of the same scripture, wouldn't this demonstrate why doctrine does matter as much?
 
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LaurieB

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Jesus two greatest commandments:

1. Love God with all your heart and soul
2. Love your neighbor as yourself (this means EVERYONE EVERYWHERE).

Yes, of course Jesus trumps Doctrine. Faith is important, but it is just a starter ... it is what you DO with that Faith that make all the difference. I have known lots of christians who were nasty and mean.
 
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That sounds nice in theory, but I've seen too much fake, superficial Christian love to believe that approach actually works. The holy spirit doesn't operate independently of the word, ie., correct doctrine.
Let me illustrate the difference between the superiority of behavior over doctrine:

It's better that the Christian treat others here in this forum with the love of God than it is that they know what "wherever there is a carcass, there the vultures will gather"-Matthew 24:28 means in Bible prophecy.

It may give one a feeling of closeness and knowledge of God to know what that verse means but, actually, how one treats people is the measure of being close to God.
 

LaurieB

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[QUOTE=Ralph-;3545826]Let me illustrate the difference between the superiority of behavior over doctrine:

It's better that the Christian treat others here in this forum with the love of God than it is that they know what "wherever there is a carcass, there the vultures will gather"-Matthew 24:28 means in Bible prophecy.

It may give one a feeling of closeness and knowledge of God to know what that verse means but, actually, how one treats people is the measure of being close to God.[/QUOTE]

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Amen, Ralph. You have stated this perfectly. And this is the HARDEST thing to do. No one comes close to the command, but, that is the point. We are a work in progress.
 
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Let me illustrate the difference between the superiority of behavior over doctrine:

It's better that the Christian treat others here in this forum with the love of God than it is that they know what "wherever there is a carcass, there the vultures will gather"-Matthew 24:28 means in Bible prophecy.

It may give one a feeling of closeness and knowledge of God to know what that verse means but, actually, how one treats people is the measure of being close to God.
Bickering over something like that reveals that persons are laboring under bad doctrine, in this case paying more attention to eschatology than one's own heart.
 
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Ralph-

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Matthew 7:22-23 refers to a faith in works that will be rejected.
I think it refers to the fact that our religious works of service for God will be rejected and will not make up for living in disobedience to the commands of God.

We Christians do tend to think our sacrifices make up for our lack of obedience. But we can't be mean to people and expect our sacrifices for God to make up for it. That's what the prophet chastises the Israelites about in Isaiah 58. Their fasting and festival observances were meaningless because they did not obey God in what really matters--how they treat each other:


"2For day after day they seek me out;they seem eager to know my ways,
as if they were a nation that does what is right
and has not forsaken the commands of its God.
They ask me for just decisions
and seem eager for God to come near them.
3‘Why have we fasted,’ they say,
‘and you have not seen it?
Why have we humbled ourselves,
and you have not noticed?’

“Yet on the day of your fasting, you do as you please
and exploit all your workers.
4Your fasting ends in quarreling and strife,
and in striking each other with wicked fists.
You cannot fast as you do today
and expect your voice to be heard on high.
5Is this the kind of fast I have chosen,
only a day for people to humble themselves?
Is it only for bowing one’s head like a reed
and for lying in sackcloth and ashes?
Is that what you call a fast,
a day acceptable to the Lord?

6“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen:
to loose the chains of injustice
and untie the cords of the yoke,
to set the oppressed free
and break every yoke?
7Is it not to share your food with the hungry
and to provide the poor wanderer with shelter—
when you see the naked, to clothe them,
and not to turn away from your own flesh and blood?
8Then your light will break forth like the dawn,
and your healing will quickly appear;
then your righteousness[SUP]a[/SUP] will go before you,
and the glory of the Lord will be your rear guard.
9Then you will call, and the Lord will answer;
you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I.

If you do away with the yoke of oppression,
with the pointing finger and malicious talk,
10and if you spend yourselves in behalf of the hungry
and satisfy the needs of the oppressed,
then your light will rise in the darkness,
and your night will become like the noonday.
11The Lord will guide you always;
he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land
and will strengthen your frame.
You will be like a well-watered garden,

like a spring whose waters never fail."-Isaiah 58:2-11


And that's how it was with all their feasts and sabbaths and religious activities and doctrines about those things. They were meaningless observances and instructions because they didn't first obey the law to love each other. That was the most important thing.

And that is how it is with the church today. We take false comfort out of the sacrifice of our church attendance, our ministries and our service for God, all our learning, thinking that is the measure of our relationship with God, all the while we are in vicious conflict and strife with the people around us.

When we are obedient to that which really matters (treating other people kindly) that is when we lay hold of God's promises and we live and dwell close to him in his goodness and our prayers are answered and we get the life we long for and desire from God. Accurate doctrine and the abundance of our studies and ministries does not do that for us. That's not what God says. Obedience is better than the sacrifice of our service and the depth of our knowledge. Love is what counts, not doctrinal excellence.
 
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Bickering over something like that reveals that persons are laboring under bad doctrine, in this case paying more attention to eschatology than one's own heart.
They don't even have to be bickering about it. The point is, they are deceived if they think depth of knowledge and accuracy of understanding is the measure of a relationship with God.

Doctrine doesn't equate to knowing God, how you treat other people is. That is the more important thing.
 
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Ralph-

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Amen, Ralph. You have stated this perfectly. And this is the HARDEST thing to do. No one comes close to the command, but, that is the point. We are a work in progress.
Yes, progress, not perfection.

The most important thing is to have the compass of our faith set to 'love your neighbor as yourself' and that we are moving in that direction. That's what it's ALL about.
 
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They don't even have to be bickering about it. The point is, they are deceived if they think depth of knowledge and accuracy of understanding is the measure of a relationship with God.

Doctrine doesn't equate to knowing God, how you treat other people is. That is the more important thing.
Knowing GOD is doing his commandments (1 John 2:3-4), which are doctrine.
 
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Jesus two greatest commandments:

1. Love God with all your heart and soul
2. Love your neighbor as yourself (this means EVERYONE EVERYWHERE).

Yes, of course Jesus trumps Doctrine. Faith is important, but it is just a starter ... it is what you DO with that Faith that make all the difference. I have known lots of christians who were nasty and mean.
Is it love to tell a neighbor that it's OK for a Christian to practice homosexuality? I mention this specifically because you said somewhere that you have gay Christian friends.
 

LaurieB

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Knowing GOD is doing his commandments (1 John 2:3-4), which are doctrine.
Doctrine: a set of beliefs
Commandments: a set of rules to obey.

Loving thy neighbor .... you dont obey this one ... YOU LIVE IT!