Wives and submissiveness

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DinoDillinger

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aspen said:
We are not supposed to serve our wives?

If Paul had only said - love each other it would have been so much clearer....

Og course how was he supposed to know that there was going to be so many literalists in the future
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Love your wives as Christ loved the church, Jesus said He did not come to be served but to serve. So yes the husband is to also serve his wife, BUT the man is responsible for certian things and the woman is responsible for others, the man has to answer for the both of them, (see adam in the garden), So you are responisble for your wife, that doesn't mean you can't get her advice, it means the buck stops with you.

You are both supposed to give 100%, BUT the percent your spouse gives does not effect the percent you give, it is the command of God to do this. Paul gives an example of a wife of an unbelieving husband winning him without a word by her submission. Yes it is easier if the other spouse does the same, do not be yoked with an unbeliever, but if you are, or you get fooled into marrying one, tough cookie. That is what the scripture says anyways.
 
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zavok said:
a little confused here but are you basicly saying the man should be higher than the woman ??
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Not higher, but the final authority in the marriage. The whole christianity thing might be lookin a little better to ya hey zavok! Sorry but not all Christian ladies agree with the bible and some still wanna be totally in charge. My point on here is the instruction to the husband to love his wife is as valid as the instruction to the wife in submissiveness. If the man loves his wife, there really is no problem with submission because there is respect & harmony there.
 
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Well, I wanted to marry an equal partner, and 15 years ago I found my wife.

She was raised in a very conservative Protestant Church - Independent Fundamentalists of America. She was exploring some feminist ideas at the time, but she was also saturated with the ideology of her church. I remember her telling me that she was ready to accept my leadership and final word, but she would blame me if I got it wrong! I remember that I was really turned off by that idea. It seemed so childish; I wanted to marry an adult, not a child.

So as the years rolled by we both became more and more independent and our religious views changed....I am so proud of her for earning her doctorate - something her church definitely frowned upon. We have always been a bit unconventional, I cook, and clean the bathrooms - she works on her own car. I trust her to make the best decisions in her areas of expertise - she has rarely disappointed me. I am just glad that neither of us want to get into power struggles with each other.
 
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imoss

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eieiei zavok... careful cause we have rules in here about how we discuss things, k.

I suppose like Aspen, my husband & I are partners but I do let him have the final say & it always works out for good. We are blessed.
 
zavok

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i wasnt being that rude just a joke :p cant take life to seriously
 
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imoss said:
eieiei zavok... careful cause we have rules in here about how we discuss things, k.

I suppose like Aspen, my husband & I are partners but I do let him have the final say & it always works out for good. We are blessed.
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I've seen some of the best marriages where the man has the final say - in both cases though; the couple have 6 or more kids, so the wife really has her work cut out for her and actually makes a lot of the daily decision and is simply tired of making anymore then she has too.
 
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:eek: I know zavock, I get your humour, just a warning cause they do make sure its clean round here & I wasnt quite sure where the next post would take us.
 
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Maddog

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Absolutely. I was never any good at making the bed.
 
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imoss

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hahahahahahaha all them pillows confuse my husband too.
 
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Harley_Angel

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Lol when I got married I told my husband straight up...I don't put up laundry and I don't make the bed. I've got my clean clothes pile, an my dirty clothes pile. I'll DO the laundry but if he wants his shirts pressed, ironed, and hung up, he gets to do that himself. I'm not his maid, lol. I never could figure out why people make their bed. I'm the only one who sees my bedroom, and I'm just gonna ruin the bed later that night anyhow. Lucky for me, my hsband couldn't care either way, and one time he actually gave me a great big kiss because I don't match socks up, I just throw them in the drawer. For some reason he hates having his socks paired and folded together. Ah, the little things.
 
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Harley_Angel said:
Lol when I got married I told my husband straight up...I don't put up laundry and I don't make the bed. I've got my clean clothes pile, an my dirty clothes pile. I'll DO the laundry but if he wants his shirts pressed, ironed, and hung up, he gets to do that himself. I'm not his maid, lol. I never could figure out why people make their bed. I'm the only one who sees my bedroom, and I'm just gonna ruin the bed later that night anyhow. Lucky for me, my hsband couldn't care either way, and one time he actually gave me a great big kiss because I don't match socks up, I just throw them in the drawer. For some reason he hates having his socks paired and folded together. Ah, the little things.
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Wow. I actually agree - I hate making my bed! Never do it. Never saw the sense in it, really. Same with socks. I'll dig around my sock drawer until I find the matching pairs, or I'll just wear two different socks. Who cares? Honestly :p
 
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pairing socks, or at least folding them up one inside the other stretches the elastic and wears them out faster.
 
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Harley_Angel

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:) Yay, someone agrees! It means I'm not crazy!
 
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imoss

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oh no it definitely doesnt mean that as its snail agreeing hee hee...
 
pickles

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I guess the hard question is one that I often hear, what do you say to the wife whos husband is not saved, or is unwilling to respect this scripture for what it is?
I did find a scripture for this but would love to hear your answers.
Smiles and God bless, pickles
 
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all my life i have felt inadequate because i did not make my bed :D:D:D

i feel good now
 
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Thats a good question pickles.

Coo Caw, What is this, the unmade bed support group?? lol I make my bed most days & have 8 pillows its all very overwhelming to the men of the house.
 
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charisenexcelcis

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pickles said:
I guess the hard question is one that I often hear, what do you say to the wife whos husband is not saved, or is unwilling to respect this scripture for what it is?
I did find a scripture for this but would love to hear your answers.
Smiles and God bless, pickles
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God put boundaries around each of the "estates" of society. As long as the husband stays within those boundaries the wife must find a way to respect and honor him. If he breaks the marriage covenant, she is free. If he goes outside the boundary of the estate of marriage, she need not submit to him in that matter. So, if he decides to put a meth lab in the garage, she is not under obligation to follow him in that matter as he has broken the law of the land.
 
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charisenexcelcis

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imoss said:
Thats a good question pickles.

Coo Caw, What is this, the unmade bed support group?? lol I make my bed most days & have 8 pillows its all very overwhelming to the men of the house.
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Eight pillows? [Thinks about refering her to thread on fetishes. Decides against it. Thinks about doing a poll on pillows. Decides that he can't find a Bible verse to reference.]
 
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