Need advice for my marriage

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May 18, 2017
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[If you're both already married why are you
marrying again? Rom. 7:2, 3] Seems an irrelevant question.
In
Sodom
aka America it's irrelevant (Is 5:20). To God it's very relevant (Heb 13:4).

Her husband committed adultery (Ex 20:14) and her solution was to defile herself?
Rom. 7:2, 3 If you can't beat 'em join 'em?
Is that what the bible says?


...[W]hy not offer something useful...?
We can't unscramble eggs. She's married (not the to man beating her). Ro 6:1

Recommend reading:

The Divorce Myth by J. Carl Laney
 
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kaylagrl

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#24
We knew each other over a year. The whole time we see dating he never saw his female friend alone and she is the one who mentioned it after we got married. He has realized that any friends either of us have should he supportive of our marriage and not try to tear it down. He has honestly made a lot of progress but I am having a really hard time forgiving the things he did.
Its good that you have seen a change,that means he's serious about your relationship. Forgiveness is not easy when we have been so deeply hurt. And it will take time to get past it. The thing is that God forgives us and so we must try to forgive others. Really time and reading His Word is the best cure.
 

blue_ladybug

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All the OP has to do is look to her bible for answers. Not to whatever lies beyond the links that you're posting..
 
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JoDel

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We have been in counseling since December and it is helping.
Hi Fb... firstly, I'm sorry for what your heart and mind are experiencing right now. The confusion and searching out the "good points" about someone you love. What's the new saying..."Been there, done that, threw away the T-shirt"? I think counselling has its place, but ... it only works for people who WANT TO CHANGE. I don't know your husband, but I'm very familiar with the "character"... I'm betting he finds nothing wrong with what he's doing. And IF ... IF he has convinced you he's not seeing someone whom he told you 'You would never be more important than"... I'm sure he's found a way. The only way character flaws are ever changed, is by the one who sees it, owns it, and hates it. * Also, any 'male' who hits a woman is NO MAN.
 
May 18, 2017
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If you don't have any advice to help me then please stop offering condemnation. I don't have to justify my remarriage to you. I was not a Christian when I married and divorced the first time. My God is a just and forgiving God.
You haven't repented of your sin (Heb 13:4).


Herodias was angered by the truth (Matt. 14:3–12) about her illegal marriage (Mark 6:17, 18), too. Try sinning more
so grace can abound (Ro 6:1).
Listen to the ear ticklers (Is 30:10, 2 Ti 4:3).
Show up at the Great White Throne without your husband and lecture God about what marriage was (Mt 19:6).
 
May 18, 2017
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... I was not a Christian when I married and divorced the first time...
God gave marriage for the pagan, as well (Gen. 2:18–24).

We have been in counseling since December and it is helping.
God can't bless serial adultery (Rom. 7:2, 3).

Jesus loves you (Jn 3:16). Jesus is willing to save you (2 Pe 3:9). Repent (Eze 18:30-32; Ac 17:30). Believe (Mk 9:23).
 
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kaylagrl

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Crucify him, crucify him (Lk 23:21).
You'll give an account (Mt 12:36) for your denial of marriage (Jer. 16:2).


Didn't deny marriage, twisting,twisting...
 

tourist

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If you don't have any advice to help me then please stop offering condemnation. I don't have to justify my remarriage to you. I was not a Christian when I married and divorced the first time. My God is a just and forgiving God.
Please disregard the mean spirited posts from serpentdove. Her views do not reflect those of most of the members of this site. If you go to her profile page you can put her on ignore. Most of the members that offer counsel do so with the best of intentions, especially if they post based on their own personal experiences.
 
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kaylagrl

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#37


Acts 7-Which of the prophets did your fathers not persecute? And they killed those who foretold the coming of the Just One, of whom you now have become the betrayers and murderers,


Prov. 23-For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

“Eat and drink!” he says to you,
But his heart is not with you.



Can you explain to us what those verses have to do with the subject and what these verses mean in context?

 
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kaylagrl

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In my opinion you are not well and your type of mean spirited posts reflect that and as such are to be expected.

She comes into a thread,says the most outrageous thing she can think of and makes the thread about herself and not the OP of the thread.Does it every time. Twist what you say and then throw out random verses that have nothing to do with anything.