Need advice for my marriage

[Rachmiel]

Was he a man after God's own heart because he committed adultery?

Ps 32, 51

David was a man after God's own heart
Was it his mercy? Was it his courage?
Was it is his wisdom? Or was it his justice?
How many others stood up to Goliath?
Behold how he spared the life of King Saul
Or consider the way he took back and put away Michal
Consider how his own son rose up against him
And he still sought to spare his life
And take a note of Joab whom took Absalom's breath
And Joab's hoar head would not go peacefully into death
And true he had to pay for what he did to Uriah
But out of Bathsheba came Solomon to reign
And he built the Temple on Mount Moriah

Nevertheless
We have far too much digressed
These are good things to think
That you have brought up
Perhaps something to explore
For another topic

 

[JoDel]

He was commending the OP, not YOU..

Blue_... let's not forget that the spirit of confusion accompanies Satan... so OF COURSE serpentdove would be holding hands with it. She is known by the spirit she exudes...confusion is the least of her problems.

 

[serpentdove]

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Ad hominem (Eph 4:14)] I would not say that you're irrelevant because you've got great worth in the eyes of God.

Men are made in his image and likeness (Gen. 9:6).

David asked the Lord for forgiveness, "Against you, and you alone, have I sinned; I have done what is evil in your sight (Ps 51:4)." Sinning against Uriah, the Hittite (2 Sam. 11:1–27) and Bathsheba (2 Sam. 11:4, 5) was bad. Sinning against God was worse. David is in heaven today. Those who believe he's there because he's an adulterer

and they can do the same and get away with it because David did

are in for a rude awakening (Mt 7:23, Ga 6:7, Jud 4).

I can read a book about George Bush and think that I know him. I can read every book about George Bush. If George Bush were to walk into a room and I claimed that I know him,

he would say that he didn't know me (Winfrey).

Intellectual ascension to the facts of the bible does not save. Jesus saves (Phil 3:10).

 

[JoDel]

I would not say that you're irrelevant because you've got great worth in the eyes of God.

We are known by our "fruit. Serpentdove produces some of the most rotten fruit an evil person could. Because the god of this world is her father, I would say she's irrelevant just as the venomous posts are irrelevant.

 

[MattforJesus]

King David messed up big time at times,but he is a man after God's own heart,that he was persistent to keep a hold on God,not give Him up,and when He messed up he repented of it,and kept going ahead,where Solomon had many wives that caused him to sacrifice unto their gods,and did not follow after God as David did.

Peter was like that,one that messed up quite a bit,and even after he was saved,Paul got in his face and said Peter did not walk uprightly according to the truth of the Gospel,but Peter was like David,persistent to keep a hold on God,and not give Him up,and repented of the wrong,which he he was so zealous concerning Jesus that he was given the keys to the kingdom of heaven,and preached the first message to the public,and Jesus said to Peter upon this rock I will build my Church,and there is no other foundation that can be laid than Jesus Christ the chief cornerstone,and Peter was the first person added to the kingdom,built upon Christ,and all the rest of the saints built upon Peter,who is built upon Christ.

 

[serpentdove]

He messed up he repented

Should adulterers repent on this side of the grave? Acts 2:37, 38. Would David today agree with God and advise anyone, "Don't do what I did."

Ex 20:14

 

[tourist]

I am irrelevant. Jesus is relevant (Eph 4:14).

On second thought, perhaps you were irrelevant and now you've been banished.

 

[PRoy]

Wow, I empathize. First I will tell you that you can't expect your emotions to get straight until you feel safe emotionally and physically around your husband. That will take time. I'd be reading every book I could get my hands on about healing and healthy relationships. That is what I did and-in time-my feelings returned as I saw my husband change. Hopeful because "all things are possible with God".

 

[godhasmynumber]

i am very sorry to hear what ur going through. discernment is needed on your part 4sure and Godly discernment will get you through it all. the hurt you feel will pass as you forgive your husband, i assume ur a christian and he is not???? married men especially christian men should not be doing what he is doing, especially towards another woman. we all make mistakes for sure and must learn from them and move on 2 a more mature way of life. pray and ask God to strengthen you in having forgiveness towards your husband and look at him through the eyes of Jesus and tell your husband your feelings and thoughts of what a Godly marriage should be like.

if he does not agree then i suggest you go to your prayer closet and seek Gods face on this whole matter. may God open your eyes and heart in all you are going through.

 

[Fb1973]

We are both Christian's but he most definitely didn't have his heart right with God early in our marriage. He has done everything asked of him and more to work on his own personal problems and our marital problems. I am having a hard time forgetting the pain.

 

[PRoy]

I'm sorry. The emotional stuff took longer for me than I want to admit. I was told in counseling 6 months to 3 years. It took me longer. Probably because I had teen kids and I was watching them struggle. I did get to where there is zero emotional distress but, as I said, it took time. We stayed together.

 

[jenniferand2]

Thank you already did the self defense training and own and know how to use a gun. I'm not afraid if him. My problem is getting over the emotional pain.

Go to local battered woman's group meetings they help alot. And also you have to decide to be mad very mad. You have grounds for a divorce he cheated on you so I say dump him and get away. Because it will be your worst mistake of you stay. Been there done that hate every minute of it.

 

[Yoseph]

Just the name serpentdove is confusion.
Carnal mind OR Spiritual but double minded ?Choose one girl , all life is a choice.Choose Darkness OR choose light ,
only one is promised peace.Just Choose!

 

[HoneyDew]

Just the name serpentdove is confusion.
Carnal mind OR Spiritual but double minded ?Choose one girl , all life is a choice.Choose Darkness OR choose light ,
only one is promised peace.Just Choose!

I am by no means excusing her behavior but I think maybe she got her name from this Matthew 10:16 Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.

 

[Yoseph]

Honeydew,agree Jesus said
He that is not with us is against
us
!! I'with David♡

 

[Leftheri]

If you don't have any advice to help me then please stop offering condemnation. I don't have to justify my remarriage to you. I was not a Christian when I married and divorced the first time. My God is a just and forgiving God.

Christians get divorced too. That other person's statement is hypocrisy and condemning, nothing more then legalism with no knowledge of the circumstances, like a random outburst.. kinda like a fart...and both stink.

 

[Leftheri]

I'm just wondering. Is this Christian counseling?

Violence should never be tolerated. There should never have been a second d time. I think it's good you're still together and things are improving but the hardest part is being honest about what is and isn't true about the situation. By this time I assume there's been a good amount of counselling. I hope it's really working. I hope you're both saved.

 

[Fb1973]

Yes it has been a Christian counselor and we are both saved. He definitely has cycles that he goes through. I am leaning more towards divorce on some days especially the bad days. He has not hit me anymore bit the emotional abuse is still happening.