Need advice for my marriage

[tourist]

2 Ti 1:7, Eph 4:14

"Truth is hate to those who hate the truth." ~ Bob Enyart Jn 14:6

Reading your posts give me a headache.

 

[laura_charlotte]

Serpent Dove: it is in very poor taste to dot all those kinds of emojis next to scripture. I'd encourage you to show some reverence for the Lord's word. He is our Lord and Saviour.

 

[kaylagrl]

Reading your posts give me a headache.

They give us all a headache.

 

[serpentdove]

Do you have a pertinent piece of scripture for a man that beats his wife?

Would you like to start a thread about men who beat their wives?

Eph 4:14 This thread is about an adulterer/concubus beating his adulteress/concubine (Rom. 7:2, 3). He happens to call her his

wife (Heb 13:4).

Recommend reading:

The Divorce Myth by J. Carl Laney

 

[toinena]

We have been in counseling since December and it is helping.

If counselling is helping, continue down that path. You can work on trying to build up trust. But take care, sister. Have zero tolerance for violence and cheating. If there is a break of confidence you have to leave. Be careful. Don't provoke. But don't be afraid of speaking the truth either. Try praying together. Reading scripture. Be prepared to leave him (or I would prefer if you kicked his butt, but that is not a very meek thing to do) if he is violent again.

 

[blue_ladybug]

She's living with an abusive man. She can't afford to be a meek person..

If counselling is helping, continue down that path. You can work on trying to build up trust. But take care, sister. Have zero tolerance for violence and cheating. If there is a break of confidence you have to leave. Be careful. Don't provoke. But don't be afraid of speaking the truth either. Try praying together. Reading scripture. Be prepared to leave him (or I would prefer if you kicked his butt, but that is not a very meek thing to do) if he is violent again.

 

[serpentdove]

She's living with an abusive man. She can't afford to be a meek person..

She's an unrepentant sinner (Rom. 7:2, 3) who would like us to redefine marriage (Heb 13:4).

 

[kaylagrl]

She's living with an abusive man. She can't afford to be a meek person..

It seems counseling is helping and as long as it does she can remain with him. But I agree with both of you that if he starts the abuse again its time to walk.

 

[blue_ladybug]

You are assuming that she is unrepentant.. You have no proof to the contrary. Just because she wasn't a Christian then, does NOT mean that she hasn't repented. I'd say it's HUBBY who needs to repent..

She's an unrepentant sinner (Rom. 7:2, 3) who would like us to redefine marriage (Heb 13:4).

 

[tourist]

Would you like to start a thread about men who beat their wives?

Eph 4:14 This thread is about an adulterer/concubus beating his adulteress/concubine (Rom. 7:2, 3). He happens to call her his

wife (Heb 13:4).

Recommend reading:

The Divorce Myth by J. Carl Laney

I'll take a pass on the recommended reading and the scripture verses you always quote that have little or nothing to do with the topic or post that you quote. I believe that you are committing spiritual malpractice in these instances. Personally, I have nothing against you and will say a prayer for God to soften your heart for your own benefit and for you to become a more effective servant of the Lord.

 

[serpentdove]

Have zero tolerance for violence and cheating.

She's committed adultery on her husband (Ex 20:14). Her concubus committed adultery on his wife (Ex 20:14). She names the name of Christ so her church must know about this (Mt 18). They: corrupt our land (Hos. 4:1–3), are excluded from God's kingdom (1 Cor. 6:9, 10) and merit God's judgment (Heb. 13:4).

 

[blue_ladybug]

Their respective ex-spouses cheated on THEM. Not the other way around..

She's committed adultery on her husband (Ex 20:14). Her concubus committed adultery on his wife (Ex 20:14). She names the name of Christ so her church must know about this (Mt 18). They: corrupt our land (Hos. 4:1–3), are excluded from God's kingdom (1 Cor. 6:9, 10) and merit God's judgment (Heb. 13:4).

 

[serpentdove]

You are assuming that she is unrepentant...

She made a truth claim.

Fb1973 quote: I don't have to justify my remarriage to you.

She is not responsible for her behavior (Heb 13:4) after naming the name of Christ (Ex 20:7).

Does her church know what sits in their sanctuary (we are the sanctuary

)? Mt 18. Do others know that they lift up their prayers with this person?

 

[blue_ladybug]

She DOES'NT have to justify OR explain her re-marriage to you.. A person who's been cheated on CAN remarry..

She made a truth claim.

Fb1973 quote: I don't have to justify my remarriage to you.

She is not responsible for her behavior (Heb 13:4) after naming the name of Christ (Ex 20:7).

Does her church know what sits in their sanctuary (we are the sanctuary

)? Mt 18. Do others know that they lift up their prayers with this person?

 

[serpentdove]

I believe that you are committing spiritual malpractice...

Ro 14:4, Eph 4:14 , Ps 105:15

I have nothing against you and will say a prayer for God to soften your heart for your own benefit...

Pr 15:29

 

[blue_ladybug]

Jesus knew who he was sitting with at the well. He knew who He was sitting with at the last supper. He knew who He was praying with.. A prostitute, liars and betrayers. But yet HE sat with THEM.

And you're just evil to suggest that the OP isn't good enough to say prayers with, or worship with...

She made a truth claim.

Fb1973 quote: I don't have to justify my remarriage to you.

She is not responsible for her behavior (Heb 13:4) after naming the name of Christ (Ex 20:7).

Does her church know what sits in their sanctuary (we are the sanctuary

)? Mt 18. Do others know that they lift up their prayers with this person?

 

[toinena]

This is not the time and place to guilt trip a person in crisis. The crisis is real and has to be dealt with with compassion, understanding and love. And reason. Sure. But here is a woman that need our prayers and support.

I pray for you, sister. That you will receive wisdom and assurance in this time of trouble. That you will seek the Lord and his divine counsel. And find mercy, peace and love in abundance. In Jesus' name. Amen

 

[serpentdove]

... you're just evil to suggest that the OP isn't good enough to say prayers with, or worship with...

You're evil to not avail yourself of Mt 18. Good thing you don't shepherd a church. The wolves would have a hay day. You're wiser than God (Is 5:20).

 

[kaylagrl]

She DOES'NT have to justify OR explain her re-marriage to you.. A person who's been cheated on CAN remarry..

I Cor. 7 -[FONT=&quot]But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances;


Seems serpent missed this verse...[/FONT]

 

[resurrection33]

I have been married for almost 1 year and I am considering divorce. I will give a chronological account of why I am considering divorce.
1. 26 days after we got married my husband asked his ex girlfriend to send him "pictures" of herself when she said no he said well what about seeing each other in person. I did not find out about this until about 2 months later.
2. My husband's best friend prior to our marriage was a woman. I never met her until our wedding. After almost 2.months of marriage he asked if he could spend a day alone with her. I suggested that I get to know her better before they did that. This caused a constant 2 week long argument that ended in physical violence on his part. He has told me I would never be more important than her and if I couldn't handle that I should leave. He has since stopped talking to her but it took 3 months in counseling to get him to do that.
3. At just over 4 months of marriage he hit me again over the same female. He went to jail which is what started the counseling. I did leave buy after 3 months of counseling I went back.
4. Now my issue is that I can't get over all the pain he caused me emotionally and I truly want to.
Any advice would be appreciated I am truly lost on what to do. I do have an appointment with our counselor. I would just like some insight from someone who might have gone through something similar.

If you husband is guilty of unchastity, you apparently are free to divorce him:

"And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery." Matt 19:9 RSV