Age...Too Old or Too Young?

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iTOREtheSKY

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What are your limits for age when considering a partner? Obviously we all know peeps 18 & under are off limits. Married people plz share as well...what's your age difference with your spouse?
When I was married,my ex-wife was 2 years older than me. Which was a first for her. She'd never dated nor had any interest in dating a guy younger than her,they'd all been at least 5 yrs older than her. The youngest girl I ever dated was when I was in my 20's..I think I was 24 & she was 19...that's the biggest gap I've ever had. I am 42 now,but I would have no problem dating a woman older than me...even into her 50's. I'm not sure how young I'd be willing to go..but that's really more because I just don't know how much I'd have in common with a girl who's 20. Although I do act a bit ridiculous,as you can see in starting this thread.:p
So what's yer' cut off point singles???? I'm bored/curious to know.LOL
..and let's face it people,you've responded to threads a lot stupider than this one.:)
 
Fenner

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Dave is going to be 45 on May 22nd and I'm 43, so 2 years. I could have just said that.

My Best friend married a man 10 years younger then she is. I think when you click, you click. As long as you're both of legal age.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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Indeed! (clicking is good) :)
 
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MissCris

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I used to only date or even consider dating older guys. Like, 3 or more years older, though I was more attracted to...guys more like 10 years older than me.

So then I married my husband, who is 3 weeks older. And it's worked out for the last 7 (really? 7? Wait, is it 8...) years. Well, 9 (or 8?!) if you count dating. I got it now- yes, this summer will be 8 years married. Not that that has anything to do with this thread. OR THIS FORUM.

*wanders out of thread looking guilty*
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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3 weeks...man..you live on the edge Cris. LOLz;)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I would go for someone older i think. No one in their 20's.
 
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Catlynn

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I've...err...never mind. It just got awkward up in my brain.

My fiancé was 3 years older and the last person I dated was 2 years older, but I'd be okay with dating someone up to 10 years older and prooooobably not any younger unless they were extremely mature.
 
DuchessAimee

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I'd probably not go any more than 10 years older or 5 years younger. When I make pop culture references, I want them to get it.
 
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Powemm

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I found significant generation " value gaps" dating too young or too old ..
The connection or "clicking" for me will most likely be with someone more my age .. Maybe no less than three years up or down .
 
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Chrissy77

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My ex was 6 months younger than me. I've dated guys between 8 to 13 years older than me.
I know people say age is a factor but I've met some men younger than myself who have their stuff more together than a lot of men who are ten years their senior. It all depends on when someone decides they are going to finally grow up. To sum it up, I'm joining a convent.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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joining a convent....such a shame. lol
 
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Ugly

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When younger i dated women 10 and 11 years older. Not on purpose, just happened. But now, i'd say 5 older, or 10 younger.
 
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Hmm, this is a tough one, I'd say 10 years older is the max for me and I wouldn't want to think about younger now since I'm only 21... so for now I'd say a couple of years younger max... but when I'm older I could add a couple of more years to that. lol
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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OceanGrl said:
Hmm, this is a tough one, I'd say 10 years older is the max for me and I wouldn't want to think about younger now since I'm only 21... so for now I'd say a couple of years younger max... but when I'm older I could add a couple of more years to that. lol
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Yeah,cause you don't wanna introduce him to yer' parents & then say..."but he's a really mature 14" LOL
 
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iTOREtheSKY said:
Yeah,cause you don't wanna introduce him to yer' parents & then say..."but he's a really mature 14" LOL
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Yikes, that would be creepy and gross. lol
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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Indeed. LOL
 
CatHerder

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Ideally, I'd like a woman who is within 5 years of my age either way. but the single women my age that I've met seem so.....angry
 
seoulsearch

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Chrissy77 said:
My ex was 6 months younger than me. I've dated guys between 8 to 13 years older than me.
I know people say age is a factor but I've met some men younger than myself who have their stuff more together than a lot of men who are ten years their senior. It all depends on when someone decides they are going to finally grow up. To sum it up, I'm joining a convent.
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I can totally relate to Chrissy's post. It all depends on the person. In the past two years, I went out a few times with someone 22 and then someone 23 (NOT at the same time of course!!! LOL!!! It was almost a year apart) and they were the ones who approached me--I would have never gone after them. And they each had it more together (full-time jobs, place,vehicle, good relationships with family) than the boyfriend I had 10 years ago who was 8 years older.

To me, it's more about compatible places in life... Though I agree with Aimee, there are issues with cultural gaps and so forth. We also didn't go out long enough to meet each other's friends, etc., so I'm not sure how well I'd fare in a group of 20-something-year-olds but I'd try to keep an open mind.

I have two younger siblings and have always had closer friends who were younger than me, so younger (maybe not quite THAT young but you know) feels more comfortable to me. Funny thing -- a guy on a dating site wrote me and asked if I like younger guys because I "want to be a mommy to someone." HA. One thing that runs across the border is that I like INDEPENDENCE and SELF-SUFFICIENCY. I want a situation in which two adults are living life together, not where one of them dragging the other along.

But I'd also feel pretty uncomfortable around a group of say, 50-year-olds as well. I can be friends with any age group. But dating, blending in, and becoming a part of someone's world with a large age gap? Eh... I'm a little hesitant but that doesn't mean I wouldn't give it a try.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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CatHerder said:
Ideally, I'd like a woman who is within 5 years of my age either way. but the single women my age that I've met seem so.....angry
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That's because they have been waiting so long for you ask them out,they get the vibe yer' not interested. Ummm have you tried offering them a piece of chocolate when chatting? lol
 
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