Since you have decided to re-enter the conversation, I, too, have something to say now that you know the whole story. It would appear to me that a “stupid, weak” woman would not pause to take a step back and learn the whole story before deciding upon the wisest course of action; but would jump to conclusions with both feet and possible say judgmental things that can be forgiven, but not undone, and my friendship with him could have been irreparably damaged. As it is, my friendship with him remains intact. A side benefit is that an issue that is a huge red flag to me about entering into a relationship with him has been exposed. Perhaps this is why the scriptures say:
James 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath
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I Yes , allfunfor, I concur, or, is that, 'agree,' I so in my green brains get things so mussed sometimes
I agree that for a girl to 'chase' after a guy is USUALLY not the Lord's leading (are we agreeing?)
And, that said, the showing 'interest,' as you alzó said allfunfor, is totally different.
By all means, show interest, and I would keep email out of it, simply say something like 'hey, nice talking to you , nice guy, see you soon,' or , and, IF that right there isn't a major HINT for nice guy then it's true, well of at least this nice guy...he wil finish last
. Sorry, sadness had to be followed by humor green and nice face.
So, Yes, julieannie, don't just out foot in mouth and have situation crumble as Proverbs verses say a few times I think and James verse you said.
And, 'red flag ' is good to see, that is, if one compares it to a red light...
Working at same placer as someone you like too is a potential slow boil 'frog put in cold pot and then heat slowly turned up.so slowly that Frog boils to death without even trying to jump from pot' story comes to mind.
Be very careful dating co-workers. As is said, there are a lot of fish in the sea and LOSING a good job over a sexual harassmrnt lawsuit she (or could even be 'he' I 'spose ) would be a tough fish to swallow (sushi 'yellowtail comes to mind . Gag!).