Females....WHY?!

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MidniteWelder

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2 day 3 day 1 week waiting rules?
sounds like a game has already initiated
If you miss the person just callllllllll them :D
 
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arwen-undomiel

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
If you'd really liked him though... how would that have changed your thinking on the two day rule? :cool:
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Couldn't say. I usually need time to process it though, so I might feel pressured and need that space even if I liked him.
 
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Ugly

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Lecrae said:
So, there was this girl that admitted to liking me. And I told her I liked her back. We started talking a lot for a few days...but then she just ignores me. I give her some space by not talking to her for 3-4 days. I send her a short, lighthearted message, she views it, but then doesn't respond.

Just....why? Nothing was said to offend her, as the conversations were all pretty humorous and lighthearted. If she's playing hard to get, she knows that I hate when people "play games" with the opposite sex. But yet she still does it. It makes me not want to talk to her again.

So, any advice from the ladies? Why would a girl do this? It seems to happen in any situation where a girl admits to liking me and I start talking to her more.
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This isn't a 'girl' thing. I've seen posts on here by women asking why men do this.

Reality is, people can make suggestions, but no one here actually knows her motives or reason. Perhaps try asking her. But if this is how she behaves, she's probably not worth pursuing anyways.
 
Roh_Chris

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Your question is one that has stumped men of renown and the philosophers of yester-years. What complicates the question is why were they called "Women"? Was it - Woe + Men = Women? :p

To answer your question. I don't think you sounded desperate. There is nothing wrong in coming back home and sending a polite message 'Hey, it was nice to meet you.' But after that, wait for her to respond. If she didn't reply for a few days, you can text her and ask her what's going on. If she doesn't respond, then don't bother. Delete her number, and move on, mate.

But my feeling is that she is probably 'not into you, right now'. Maybe it was just a crush, and she has moved on. If you feel you like, find out what is up with her.
 
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MisterHarmony

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She probably started flirting with someone else of lesser morals. And no religious views. That's happened to me every time.
 
Lynx

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Roh_Chris said:
Your question is one that has stumped men of renown and the philosophers of yester-years. What complicates the question is why were they called "Women"? Was it - Woe + Men = Women? :p
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I heard one guy say when God fashioned woman He finished, stepped back and looked at what He had made, and said "Whoa, man!"
 
JesusLives

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Lecrae said:
So, there was this girl that admitted to liking me. And I told her I liked her back. We started talking a lot for a few days...but then she just ignores me. I give her some space by not talking to her for 3-4 days. I send her a short, lighthearted message, she views it, but then doesn't respond.

Just....why? Nothing was said to offend her, as the conversations were all pretty humorous and lighthearted. If she's playing hard to get, she knows that I hate when people "play games" with the opposite sex. But yet she still does it. It makes me not want to talk to her again.

So, any advice from the ladies? Why would a girl do this? It seems to happen in any situation where a girl admits to liking me and I start talking to her more.
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Plenty of fish/ladies in the sea/world.....Look elsewhere as there is another cute, fun, great personality lady out there for you. They always said me you have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince.... Of course this would be reverse for you. Point is throw your fishnet out and talk to a lot of ladies and I promise you will find one who likes to talk back with you. Practice you are young maybe shy but as you do this your self confidence builds and it becomes easier and then natural for you and the worst that happens is that you are known as a really friendly guy. Girls like that.

So go an conquer ...... try out a few ladies with your conversations and see if some don't warm up to you. They also told me not to put all my eggs in one basket....again meaning you just keep trying until you find the one that sticks around. She is out there go hunt for her... Good luck in your search and have fun while doing it...

P.S. Sometimes when someone gets ignored their interest picks up like maybe he wasn't half bad after all... ya never know...
 
secularhermit

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Lecrae said:
So, there was this girl that admitted to liking me. And I told her I liked her back. We started talking a lot for a few days...but then she just ignores me. I give her some space by not talking to her for 3-4 days. I send her a short, lighthearted message, she views it, but then doesn't respond.

Just....why? Nothing was said to offend her, as the conversations were all pretty humorous and lighthearted. If she's playing hard to get, she knows that I hate when people "play games" with the opposite sex. But yet she still does it. It makes me not want to talk to her again.

So, any advice from the ladies? Why would a girl do this? It seems to happen in any situation where a girl admits to liking me and I start talking to her more.
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Don´t feel that bad! This time you´d learn for the best: If she badly needed you, she would drop you a line, at least. Remember there´s an emotional market place everywhere and probably she´s seeking what she wants, expects or needs... We ALSO do the same and, if she is busy picking what she thinks she deserves, give yourself time to go after the people U would also like (to be liked). Don´t feel despised! (please). That´s the way life goes on. Everyone seeks after what they like and, for your own benefit, ASK HER if she saw something wrong in you YOU NEED TO CORRECT (just to check and avoid the same mistake (in case you did something wrong) but mostly WE people follow what we like, same way birds do, when you see them in a park or the air. Cheer up! and respectfuly write to grasp a thing you ´d need to correct (to spare you future troubles).

:)
 
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MidniteWelder said:
2 day 3 day 1 week waiting rules?
sounds like a game has already initiated
If you miss the person just callllllllll them :D
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That is how I operate too. I don't care for rules. When the missing becomes too hard to take you take the next step and actually see the one that you love. This is what I am going to do tonight. Once you are with the one that you love the next step is to pick out the rings. This is how the game is played but it is more important than that. Forget about the rules as that is a game in itself. No Rules - Just Right - Be Happy
 
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jogoldie

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Been a long time for me.....I have an 18yr. old daughter........
The thing about woman I know.......we dont call men.....so if thats what
your waiting for.......pick up the phone and ask her right out......
your asking us.....but who you should be asking is her....
Dont be afraid of rejection.......when you said you heard she likes you.....
are you sure the info was correct.......its best to go to the source......and if
she is still indifferent........ move on.....and like has been said already......find a christian
girl.......she will understand and accept your lifestyle.......peace ....jo

I also know sometimes my daughter says she takes boys numbers just so she
doesnt hurt their feelings......but she never really liked them in the first place......
Is it right ......no...you didnt ask for right.....you asked how girls think.......
And always remember......we will know them by their fruits.......
 
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MisterHarmony said:
She probably started flirting with someone else of lesser morals. And no religious views. That's happened to me every time.
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People here have discussed how long to wait after a date to make contact. Why wait? Because waiting makes it look like you have other things to do and other people to see. And, if you have other things to do, it means you're more valuable. Even if your value isn't in question, still, people don't appreciate that which comes easily.

There's a saying, banks don't give loans to people who need the money. Equally, girls don't date boys who need dates.
 
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sassylady

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I don't know what she is doing but she will probably always play games; it's not worth it. Wait for somebody who is more straightforward and honest. I'm 58 but girls didn't do as much of that 40 years ago as they do now. There are still plenty out there that don't play games.
 
Fenner

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Lecrae said:
So, there was this girl that admitted to liking me. And I told her I liked her back. We started talking a lot for a few days...but then she just ignores me. I give her some space by not talking to her for 3-4 days. I send her a short, lighthearted message, she views it, but then doesn't respond.

Just....why? Nothing was said to offend her, as the conversations were all pretty humorous and lighthearted. If she's playing hard to get, she knows that I hate when people "play games" with the opposite sex. But yet she still does it. It makes me not want to talk to her again.

So, any advice from the ladies? Why would a girl do this? It seems to happen in any situation where a girl admits to liking me and I start talking to her more.
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It's kind of hard to say why she did that to you, without knowing her or you. I would ask her if you said something that bothered her or if she's not interested. If she doesn't respond don't waste your time worrying about it. Good luck.
 
Trailblazer

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arwen-undomiel said:
Wait 2 days.
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Seems to me that the two date rule could be dangerous for the potential of a good relationship or friendship.
Speaking for myself!.. If it was obvious that we really clicked and had chemistry. I would maybe want to give a courtesy call that I enjoyed being out with her.

My Motivation for maybe a follow up call the next day? Nothing needy I assure you Its a courtesy call. I do not want the woman maybe thinking that I was not interested in her. If a woman has a bunch of hidden rules, and wants to play games. My interest in her pegs to zero on the spot
 
Trailblazer

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Lecrae said:
It makes me not want to talk to her again.
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This is your intuition. Obey it.
If she then comes to you later. You can then decide if she is worth the risk of more emotional hurt from her.
 
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Lecrae

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Thanks for all the responses so far, a lot to think about. And the humorous posts lifted me up a little. :) I haven't messaged her back, she knows I sent her an earlier message so I will wait for her to respond to it before I initiate contact with her again. If she never talks to me again...then that's her choice.
 
Markum1972

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MidniteWelder said:
2 day 3 day 1 week waiting rules?
sounds like a game has already initiated
If you miss the person just callllllllll them :D
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Right. Every game has its rules and it is therefore easy to identify who is playing them.

If you feel like calling a person because you like their conversation, call them. If they don't like it, don't call them again. Honesty and sincerity keeps things simple. lol
 
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