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chri5tdrumm3r

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Maybe some woman actually prefer it when a guy has an opinion. I won't be able to date someone who kept saying: "whatever is cool with you"... I'd go insane :rolleyes:

If the woman you date makes you feel inadequate with her responses, then find someone who will lift you up and want to share in your opinions... Just be brave enough to voice your opinions. :)
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For me, if a woman I'm with asks for my opinion on something, and then acts like it doesn't fit, or is inadequate in some way, my response would be: don't ask then. I don't want the person I'm with judging my based on my opinions, especially if you ask for it in the first place.
 
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chri5tdrumm3r

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tourist said:
Yes, it's a falling in love type of feeling and it's not altogether unpleasant.
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In respnse to the question... I do have that feeling (as stated earlier), but it's mainly geared towards women that I would not feel comfortable talking to. I'm naturally shy, and get incredibly nervous speaking to someone of the opposite sex, who I find attractive.
 
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chri5tdrumm3r said:
For me, if a woman I'm with asks for my opinion on something, and then acts like it doesn't fit, or is inadequate in some way, my response would be: don't ask then. I don't want the person I'm with judging my based on my opinions, especially if you ask for it in the first place.
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I guess that's why courtship is there; to help you find someone that shares in your opinions and even when they don't, they still respect your difference in opinion.
 
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chri5tdrumm3r

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I guess that's why courtship is there; to help you find someone that shares in your opinions and even when they don't, they still respect your difference in opinion.
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That's very true. For me, though, it's getting to the courtship phase that seems to be the difficult part.
 
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Power tools/cars/electronics fascination...?! Why?

Why are your hats so sacred?

Some women think it's cute to take something that belongs to their boyfriend...hoodie, t-shirt, etc...but more often than not, I've heard guys say this really annoys them. So, is it annoying, or cute?

What is it that allows men to get sooooo focused on games (football games, video games, whatever...)? It's like some of y'all have a switch in your brains that shuts everything else off for the duration of said game.
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Power tools are great if you need them to perform a task but they hold no fascination for me and the same goes for electronics. For me a computer is just a means for me to access information and a means of communication. I used to wear various hats when I was younger but really don't care about them anymore. It is more than alright for a woman I love to wear my hoodie or shirt as that is a good sign that woman is interested in me as a man and is claiming a little piece of me for herself. I enjoy following sports but I am by no means a fanatic. What I enjoy most is spending time with the woman that I love.
 
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Inu said:
Maybe some woman actually prefer it when a guy has an opinion. I won't be able to date someone who kept saying: "whatever is cool with you"... I'd go insane :rolleyes:

If the woman you date makes you feel inadequate with her responses, then find someone who will lift you up and want to share in your opinions... Just be brave enough to voice your opinions. :)
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Well if he KEEPS using that line, that just means he's afraid you'll object to the opinion he has, so he's taking what he thinks is the safest route. I thought you were talking about if he really doesn't have an opinion about a certain subject. If he seems to not have an opinion about ANYTHING then he doesn't want to give you his opinion for some reason.
 
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Well if he KEEPS using that line, that just means he's afraid you'll object to the opinion he has, so he's taking what he thinks is the safest route. I thought you were talking about if he really doesn't have an opinion about a certain subject. If he seems to not have an opinion about ANYTHING then he doesn't want to give you his opinion for some reason.
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I actually prefer guys to be opinionated :rolleyes: Sometimes it just comes across as lazy to think or initiate something.... To me, it says that the guy is probably not interested and can't make decisions. To be honest, it's a red flag for me.
 
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An addendum to #3.
If there is some item (shirt, hat, etc) that is a signature to us, and if we like you enough to let you Borrow it (ahem... BORROW), then seeing you wear it is like seeing you wear a sign that you are proclaiming love and devotion to us.
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That is the vibe that I am going with too. It is a fairly accurate barometer of a woman's feelings towards the man of her interest. If she were to actually return said item I would recommend washing her perfume off if you intend to wear that particular item of clothing outside of the home. Otherwise it is kinda sweet.
 
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Inu said:
I actually prefer guys to be opinionated :rolleyes: Sometimes it just comes across as lazy to think or initiate something.... To me, it says that the guy is probably not interested and can't make decisions. To be honest, it's a red flag for me.
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I don't have an opinion on this post.
 
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Inu said:
I guess that's why courtship is there; to help you find someone that shares in your opinions and even when they don't, they still respect your difference in opinion.
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Yes, courtship is the discovery and evaluation phase of a relationship to see if there is something there that is worth pursuing. For me the most important aspects are honesty, respect and trust. If any of these are absent it would be a 'no-go' situation for me.
 
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Inu said:
Lol.... but why???? :rolleyes:
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Oh, I'm sorry. What was the question again? Just kidding, it is most important to actually listen to what is being said instead of just nodding your head yes or saying you are sorry for something that you may or may not have done. This is just my opinion.
 
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Oh, I'm sorry. What was the question again? Just kidding, it is most important to actually listen to what is being said instead of just nodding your head yes or saying you are sorry for something that you may or may not have done. This is just my opinion.
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I agree...

Another question:

When guys say sorry, do they even know what they are actually apologising for in the first place? It seems like every time I got an apology, I was the one who had to explain why he was sorry cause he had no clue:rolleyes:

And I have got the excuse of: "Oh, I'm a MAN baby, what do you expect" :confused:
 
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Originally Posted by Inu
I actually prefer guys to be opinionated :rolleyes: Sometimes it just comes across as lazy to think or initiate something.... To me, it says that the guy is probably not interested and can't make decisions. To be honest, it's a red flag for me.
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I don't have an opinion on this post.
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That's o.k. Honey I have enough opinions for both of us....You just make decisions on the important stuff o.k.? After 35 years of singledom I defer/submit to you.
 
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I don't like women taking my hat because my hair looks dirty when I wear a hat. It is all vanity. But really, are we not all a little vain.

With the hair it is the same.

Makeup is the same.

Telling your woman "Yes she looks fat in that dress" totally depends on the woman and your relationship. We are all different with different baggage. Don't fall for the Hitler syndrome where all women are.... All Jews are.... All men are.... We are all different and all react differently. Education, past hurts, relationship with each other, relationship with parents or siblings, relationship with God (what did I miss?) All have influence on our actions and reactions.

Love is pure, kind, gentle, long-suffering, trusts all, is not judgmental, is forgiving, full of grace, understanding, (What did I miss?)
 
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