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Not a big fan. Well, they seem fun to play with, but not really build things with.
I like cars, looking at them, driving them, but... i'm not fanatical nor do i know much about them.
Electronics i like more. But i'm not the 'wait in line for the new iphone type either.
Even we don't understand that.
Take? No. If you ask then yes. My ex-fiance would ask to wear my shirts. I loved it when she did. But she always asked. One in particular i loved seeing her in, so i always let her wear it.
I have no clue. Sports bore me silly.
I like cars, looking at them, driving them, but... i'm not fanatical nor do i know much about them.
Electronics i like more. But i'm not the 'wait in line for the new iphone type either.
Even we don't understand that.
Take? No. If you ask then yes. My ex-fiance would ask to wear my shirts. I loved it when she did. But she always asked. One in particular i loved seeing her in, so i always let her wear it.
I have no clue. Sports bore me silly.
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1) it is a modern extension of being a powerful hunter gatherer... only most of us can't hunt or gather, so instead we drive fast, build/fix stuff, or push buttons that control our world.
2) Like the colorful plumage of the male avians, our hats are an important extension of who we are. They are used to show status, dominance, membership in a community, and in an attempt to attract allies and (gasp) the opposite gender. We have carefully selected our hats from the near infinite options available, and frequently by the time we have developed an attachment to a hat, it is no longer in retail availability. Hats are further personalized by keeping them in a like new condition or getting them really "broken in," by curling the brim "just so" or by keeping it as flat as possible (I'm a curler). Some choose to wear their hats with the sales stickers still on, others like to tell the stories that each nick or stain speaks of.
3) If we don't get it back, it sucks. Always give fair warning or ask! "Hey, I'm going to borrow your hoodie, OK?" "This shirt is SO soft, Can I take it to sleep in this week?"
Which brings me to...
The Cutest way to do this is to borrow his (item) and then return it a week or two later and swap it for something else... explain that it just doesn't smell as much like him as it used to, and that you like to have that around to reminds you of him... it's either really cute or really psycho.
I've given up on shirts I wanted back because it was worth it to not have to talk to a particular person ever again.
4)To use the old couples counselor phrase... We're in our Nothing Box.
Some men require an outside influence to get to their Nothing Box. We need the Nothing Box to unpack and de-stress. we get those bright ideas in the shower because our brain is in neutral and therefore can think a little about the stuff that is stressing us out.
just some opinions here. not facts.
2) Like the colorful plumage of the male avians, our hats are an important extension of who we are. They are used to show status, dominance, membership in a community, and in an attempt to attract allies and (gasp) the opposite gender. We have carefully selected our hats from the near infinite options available, and frequently by the time we have developed an attachment to a hat, it is no longer in retail availability. Hats are further personalized by keeping them in a like new condition or getting them really "broken in," by curling the brim "just so" or by keeping it as flat as possible (I'm a curler). Some choose to wear their hats with the sales stickers still on, others like to tell the stories that each nick or stain speaks of.
3) If we don't get it back, it sucks. Always give fair warning or ask! "Hey, I'm going to borrow your hoodie, OK?" "This shirt is SO soft, Can I take it to sleep in this week?"
Which brings me to...
The Cutest way to do this is to borrow his (item) and then return it a week or two later and swap it for something else... explain that it just doesn't smell as much like him as it used to, and that you like to have that around to reminds you of him... it's either really cute or really psycho.
I've given up on shirts I wanted back because it was worth it to not have to talk to a particular person ever again.
4)To use the old couples counselor phrase... We're in our Nothing Box.
Some men require an outside influence to get to their Nothing Box. We need the Nothing Box to unpack and de-stress. we get those bright ideas in the shower because our brain is in neutral and therefore can think a little about the stuff that is stressing us out.
just some opinions here. not facts.
why do guys hate it when we touch their hair? 
1) Touching hair in non romantic situations when it is distracting. So, touching hair when playing video games, when watching an important sports match, when trying to be blokey with other guys, using power tools, or otherwise engaged in other activities. In other words, less the fact of touching hair than it is distracting physical contact. You could substitute a whole bunch of other activities into this category (hugging, snuggling, talking, asking about household chores).
2) It's too much like mum fiddling with your hair. Most guys, as boys, would have mum fix hair cause its untidy, or otherwise touch their hair in situations similar to 1). For most boys, this got old from about 10 onwards. This is probably less of a problem the longer you are in a relationship with another woman/when you're in a marriage, but the last thing most guys need when in the presence of an attractive woman is to be reminded of mum cramping their style.
Alright, I'm going to answer your questions as 'nicely' as possible.
1) Power tools/cars/electronics - these are gadgets that 'work'. It is a psychological thing. A man is comfortable working with gadgets because their 'behaviour' is defined.
If I give a +5V to an LED, I know that it will burn. If I connect all the points of an IC 741, I will get an output on pin 6. If I apply a +12V on a 12V-relay, it will switch. The same works with power tools. I know I can use a power-drill to drill a hole in the wall. All the gadgets we work with have well-defined behaviour patterns.
Consider this. Would an LED slap me or kick my shin if I give it a +5V supply? If it did, then I would take it to the shop and get a replacement guarantee (not for an LED, but you get what I mean). But complimenting my gf on her looks really depends on her mood (and on how well I prayed that day). If she is in a pleasant mood she may blush and smile. If she is in one of those I-better-not-see-you-around moods, she may retort "Why? Was I never beautiful until today?"
Now I can't take her to the shop and get a replacement guarantee, can I?
2) I have two hats - one for formal and another for casual wear. It's a pity I can't use them in the place I live though.
Hats are sacred because, as Charcoal said earlier, they complete our plumage (so to speak...). The same holds for suits. Don't ever ask us for a hug when we are suited up. Unless you're getting married, in which case an exception can be made ...
And I have to mention that we are particular about our shoes. Don't step on it and then give us those 'puppy dog eyes'. Nothing puts me off more than a lady who steps on my shoes. I put a lot of effort into polishing and maintaining them, so I would appreciate it if you would not step on them.
3) We like our gfs/wives wearing our stuff because we like seeing them in it. But taking something that belongs to us is NOT cute. Ask, and if we permit, you may borrow it for a while. But that means you have to return it. A man is very particular about his stuff. It may lie unused in a corner, gathering dust and dirt but that doesn't mean you can simply take it.
I liked my gf (my ex, now) when she wore a few of my shirts for our dates. But I made sure I collected it back.
4) A man needs his 'personal space'. Time-out with his buddies, an hour spent in the loo, a half an hour spent singing in the shower, a long walk, a long drive .. we need those. It is vital for our survival. That's our source of strength to carry on with life. That's where we solve our problems, plan our next move or rejuvenate ourselves. Never deprive a man of his 'personal space'.
And another thing.. If a guy takes you along on a long drive and speaks nothing, don't ask him 'What are you thinking?' First of all, it is not polite to disturb him during his 'personal time'. Secondly, He may not even be thinking anything.
why do guys hate it when we touch their hair?
I don't because I never comb my hair. Guys who keep their hair short and ruffled would not hate it. Just don't pull our hair. Or complain that it is curly. Or that it is straight. Or this. Or that.
I have never crushed a lady before. I don't know where to dispose her after crushing..
But I have crushed ON a lady before. "Butterflies in my stomach"? Nope. I know the secret words to approach a lady.
(P.S. To be honest, I think that's a creepy thing to say to a lady. She may appreciate it if she has a sense of humour. Or else you better be ready to explain yourself to the cops.)
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Is it from God, or just chemistry or just dumb luck when people find each other? It's confusing.
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I seem to remember someone bandaging herself based on a youtube vid. Anyone want to claim that?
My GF (not Gluten Free...) agrees with me that IF there is sufficient medical knowledge to properly command the situation, that not having to pay a physician's co-pay is a good thing.
Some folks skip the doc for Stupid reasons (like mistrust of medicine, hatred of Dr's, irrational fears, or - a biggie - lack of self care due to self worth problems). I skip the doc for stupid stuff ("I know how to pick these metal fragments out of my arm & cleanse the wound. I know and will watch for signs of infection and pledge to seek antibiotics IF I need them, but do not desire a prophylactic course of antibiotics. I know that the only thing they can do for the physical discomfort is offer me narcotic medications that as a recovering addict I will refuse to take.")
My GF (not Gluten Free...) agrees with me that IF there is sufficient medical knowledge to properly command the situation, that not having to pay a physician's co-pay is a good thing.
Some folks skip the doc for Stupid reasons (like mistrust of medicine, hatred of Dr's, irrational fears, or - a biggie - lack of self care due to self worth problems). I skip the doc for stupid stuff ("I know how to pick these metal fragments out of my arm & cleanse the wound. I know and will watch for signs of infection and pledge to seek antibiotics IF I need them, but do not desire a prophylactic course of antibiotics. I know that the only thing they can do for the physical discomfort is offer me narcotic medications that as a recovering addict I will refuse to take.")
If it's a cold, stomach bug or the flu, I will get over it in my own time, in my own way which involves sleeping a lot. If it's something more serious, something I don't understand or something that lasts longer than a regular flu or cold I will see a doctor. I don't do regular physicals because my body is running fine right now. I don't know a lot of people who do visit the doctor for regular physicals.
That's our honest answer. To wit: We really don't have an opinion one way or another, so whatever you prefer is good with us. Also we are confused when you ask our opinion, then act as if our honest answer is inadequate somehow.
Beats me. Never happened before. I'll get back to you if and when it happens. My current vote is for dumb luck.
The one thing that I don't really appreciate is the "whatever is cool with you, is cool with me" line....
WHY??????
WHY??????
Is it from God, or just chemistry or just dumb luck when people find each other? It's confusing.
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Maybe some woman actually prefer it when a guy has an opinion. I won't be able to date someone who kept saying: "whatever is cool with you"... I'd go insane
If the woman you date makes you feel inadequate with her responses, then find someone who will lift you up and want to share in your opinions... Just be brave enough to voice your opinions.
If the woman you date makes you feel inadequate with her responses, then find someone who will lift you up and want to share in your opinions... Just be brave enough to voice your opinions.