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I completely agree. If my previous posts gave you the wrong impression, then I apologize. It was not my intention at all.
What I was referring to is that we should look for someone with a similar calling / anointing as our own - whatever that calling might be, which is why I brought up how I find myself attracted to ladies with a heart for missions. It makes sense considering I'm an evangelist at heart.
What I was referring to is that we should look for someone with a similar calling / anointing as our own - whatever that calling might be, which is why I brought up how I find myself attracted to ladies with a heart for missions. It makes sense considering I'm an evangelist at heart.
V
I completely agree. If my previous posts gave you the wrong impression, then I apologize. It was not my intention at all.
What I was referring to is that we should look for someone with a similar calling / anointing as our own - whatever that calling might be, which is why I brought up how I find myself attracted to ladies with a heart for missions. It makes sense considering I'm an evangelist at heart.
What I was referring to is that we should look for someone with a similar calling / anointing as our own - whatever that calling might be, which is why I brought up how I find myself attracted to ladies with a heart for missions. It makes sense considering I'm an evangelist at heart.
U
I'm well aware not all gender concepts apply to every person of a gender. In fact, i have, in more than one post, pointed out the fallacy of making blanket statements about gender. I didn't say, or imply 'all' women do this. I simply asked women a question of the women on this site on a topic. I had no way to direct this question to specific women, so i had no choice but to ask it in a generalized manner.
And yes, there was an element of annoyance in the initial question, because this is something i've been observing, for years. But the fact that i found it to be annoying doesn't make me wrong, or the question invalid either. Neither does it make me 'hostile'.
And yes, there was an element of annoyance in the initial question, because this is something i've been observing, for years. But the fact that i found it to be annoying doesn't make me wrong, or the question invalid either. Neither does it make me 'hostile'.
B
AND while I'm at it, I might as well be honest and say something else that really irks me...a lot of guys won't approach a woman they find very attractive because they automatically assume that she is a shallow, vain, high maintenance witch. There have been several guys I REEEEEEEEEEEEEALLY cared for who didn't want to be in relationship with me because they felt that I was "out of their league" in the looks department. Very painful.
How's THAT for honesty?
How's THAT for honesty?
J
Ok I confess I haven't read every post here. And this is a little off subject but are any ladies here willing to admit that they often find the bad boys attractive? And one step further who has ever been rejected with the line " you aren't my type." It occurs to me that if you have a type and you are still single after dating your type for years and years....wouldn't it make sense to change your type and try a different type? It seems if you stick with one type only....and you keep expecting different results..... well that is one definition of insanity.
When you start talking about attraction there are many psychological, biological, environmental, and cultural variables that come into play. And since beauty is in the eye of the beholder the only people that can say looks don't matter and be telling the truth are the Blind. I would suggest that the next time you have a girl tell you this you should try to challenge her by setting her up on a blind date with a 500 lb guy. The catch is she wouldn't know that until the third date in because you could set the dates up in such a way that neither person sees the other till the third date. So they are behind walls but can hear each other so they can have pleasant conversation and what have you. Then on the third date once she sees him lets see if she still says looks don't matter. Or you could wear a fatsuit or something like that ....idk i am just spitballing here.
When you start talking about attraction there are many psychological, biological, environmental, and cultural variables that come into play. And since beauty is in the eye of the beholder the only people that can say looks don't matter and be telling the truth are the Blind. I would suggest that the next time you have a girl tell you this you should try to challenge her by setting her up on a blind date with a 500 lb guy. The catch is she wouldn't know that until the third date in because you could set the dates up in such a way that neither person sees the other till the third date. So they are behind walls but can hear each other so they can have pleasant conversation and what have you. Then on the third date once she sees him lets see if she still says looks don't matter. Or you could wear a fatsuit or something like that ....idk i am just spitballing here.
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I suppose i should state, there are some women who do seem to place little value on looks. I mean, i can't deny it. I've dated them, hahaha. I've dated a few women that i'm surprised would even get to know my name, let alone date me. Ever walk by that couple and think 'why is SHE with HIM???'... yeah... i been in that couple haha.
Justdave... but, isn't that kind of what its like on the internet? How many times, any of you, have you met someone, chat with them a few times, really connect, and then start thinking 'oh man i hope they are attractive'? I won't deny, more than once i've been disappointed to see someone after getting to know them a bit.
Justdave... but, isn't that kind of what its like on the internet? How many times, any of you, have you met someone, chat with them a few times, really connect, and then start thinking 'oh man i hope they are attractive'? I won't deny, more than once i've been disappointed to see someone after getting to know them a bit.
J
Oh I will also point out I have had a few ladies like....3 who straight up told me that they didn't have that "wow" moment when they saw me and that is what they are looking for. They told me they want someone that they just instantly feel a strong attraction to. I told them I understood and went on my way.... ok well one of them I didn't I tried to persuade her lol but I learned my lesson and didn't the next time.
I"ve been in love about three times in my entire life. None of the men that I was in love with were what any woman would find ''good looking''. Yet they were ''attractive'' because they could attract. They had something about them that attracted (base meaning, ''to pull in, or fuse to) me to be with them. Whether it was their personality or the fact that there was some kind of strange connection, it attracted me to them.
Now, yes, people liken to those who are good looking. It's beyond reason to say that either sex is totally at fault. We're human.......... and a part of being human is that we are members of the primal state of being that is life. In that state of being, we succumb to our very given nature. I don't think we should feel bad about that, but I think we try too hard to eliminate or irradicate our very human urges.
Now, yes, people liken to those who are good looking. It's beyond reason to say that either sex is totally at fault. We're human.......... and a part of being human is that we are members of the primal state of being that is life. In that state of being, we succumb to our very given nature. I don't think we should feel bad about that, but I think we try too hard to eliminate or irradicate our very human urges.
S
I don't know how to answer this.
I like attractive guys, don't get me wrong! But I tend to think I am quite open minded. For me to become attracted to a man I usually find them smart, confident and funny then I think looks come after that.
In fact I am attracted to a guy at work at the minute and most the girls in the office think he is ugly and unattractive. But I have this attraction to him because I find him smart and very interesting. The type of guy you could really have an in depth conversation with, y'know?
So I believe that I don't always go on looks I guess but I'd be lying if I didn't say it had happened before. However if someone is attractive but isn't very smart, doesn't make me laugh etc then that attraction soon vanishes!
I like attractive guys, don't get me wrong! But I tend to think I am quite open minded. For me to become attracted to a man I usually find them smart, confident and funny then I think looks come after that.
In fact I am attracted to a guy at work at the minute and most the girls in the office think he is ugly and unattractive. But I have this attraction to him because I find him smart and very interesting. The type of guy you could really have an in depth conversation with, y'know?
So I believe that I don't always go on looks I guess but I'd be lying if I didn't say it had happened before. However if someone is attractive but isn't very smart, doesn't make me laugh etc then that attraction soon vanishes!