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obligation 
: An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment.
Though marriage does include a moral and legal binding, marriage isn't ABOUT them. In a marriage, they really only have meaning when the marriage is dissolving. Even acknowledging them before marriage is kind of like assuming that the marriage will fail. Definitely not a good way to go about things.
If instead you view marriage as it was intended, the most pure example of love that can be achieved on earth; focus on loving and finding someone that you can love. The rest is just the procedure to get to where you want to go. It is no more an obligation than getting a birth certificate is an obligation for being born.
: An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment.Though marriage does include a moral and legal binding, marriage isn't ABOUT them. In a marriage, they really only have meaning when the marriage is dissolving. Even acknowledging them before marriage is kind of like assuming that the marriage will fail. Definitely not a good way to go about things.
If instead you view marriage as it was intended, the most pure example of love that can be achieved on earth; focus on loving and finding someone that you can love. The rest is just the procedure to get to where you want to go. It is no more an obligation than getting a birth certificate is an obligation for being born.
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obligation : An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment.
Though marriage does include a moral and legal binding, marriage isn't ABOUT them. In a marriage, they really only have meaning when the marriage is dissolving. Even acknowledging them before marriage is kind of like assuming that the marriage will fail. Definitely not a good way to go about things.
If instead you view marriage as it was intended, the most pure example of love that can be achieved on earth; focus on loving and finding someone that you can love. The rest is just the procedure to get to where you want to go. It is no more an obligation than getting a birth certificate is an obligation for being born.
: An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment.Though marriage does include a moral and legal binding, marriage isn't ABOUT them. In a marriage, they really only have meaning when the marriage is dissolving. Even acknowledging them before marriage is kind of like assuming that the marriage will fail. Definitely not a good way to go about things.
If instead you view marriage as it was intended, the most pure example of love that can be achieved on earth; focus on loving and finding someone that you can love. The rest is just the procedure to get to where you want to go. It is no more an obligation than getting a birth certificate is an obligation for being born.
Marriage is different for christians than non-christians, or, at least it should be. The moral law is followed but the spiritual law if followed all the more.
Husband and wife are to submit to each other. Wives are to follow their husband's leading as he is led by the Lord. And, good news, the husband is, in fact, literally, the husband is supposed to have the fear of the Lord in Him. Read Eph. 5 and Col. 3 for verses to back above thoughts.
So, IF you are scared about marrying someone and not being able to follow the legal and moral bond, don't be. Be EVEN MORE WORRIED because when YOU choose marriage you are following laws of God (spiritual laws) that transcend the basic matrimony laws that bind a marriage.
It really IS beautiful, those spiritual laws, consume the Word of God for answers to what a PERFECT marriage following God is
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Finding out that the person you married is not the same person you thought you were marrying!
I'm absolutely horrified by the thought of it seeing as it happened to my older brother with his second wife and it has almost destroyed his relationship with his son.
On the positive side of things, even though I don't have any children of my own, I have a pretty good idea what it feels like to have a son because my nephew and I are pretty tight. One day I hope to have / adopt a little girl.
I'm absolutely horrified by the thought of it seeing as it happened to my older brother with his second wife and it has almost destroyed his relationship with his son.
On the positive side of things, even though I don't have any children of my own, I have a pretty good idea what it feels like to have a son because my nephew and I are pretty tight. One day I hope to have / adopt a little girl.
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Commitment and lots or married women i know have dealt with spouse abuse that really scares me also having a bunch of hot guys wanting me after finding out that i am taken i will then be tempted
whether to not to remain faithful to my mate and that scares and depresses me because i don't like cheaters and i don't want to be come one eighter.
whether to not to remain faithful to my mate and that scares and depresses me because i don't like cheaters and i don't want to be come one eighter.
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Finding out that the person you married is not the same person you thought you were marrying!
I'm absolutely horrified by the thought of it seeing as it happened to my older brother with his second wife and it has almost destroyed his relationship with his son.
On the positive side of things, even though I don't have any children of my own, I have a pretty good idea what it feels like to have a son because my nephew and I are pretty tight. One day I hope to have / adopt a little girl.
I'm absolutely horrified by the thought of it seeing as it happened to my older brother with his second wife and it has almost destroyed his relationship with his son.
On the positive side of things, even though I don't have any children of my own, I have a pretty good idea what it feels like to have a son because my nephew and I are pretty tight. One day I hope to have / adopt a little girl.
Crossfire, you're a mature understander of the faith, and, I just encourage you to let the Lord lead, as, He will NOT allow you to be put into a situation that is not BLESSING Him , so, that fear you have is unfounded. The ONLY fear you need to have is that WHEN you get married, you are to treat your wife with the utmost respect of a loving husband and you are to LIVE with the fear of God in you. Scripture is clear, either Ephesians 5 or Col. 3 says this clearly.
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With the right woman -- absolutely nothing!
The only concern - "which scares me the most" - is or would be, "Do I have the right woman?"...
If I can get past that, then I am O.K.
The only concern - "which scares me the most" - is or would be, "Do I have the right woman?"...
If I can get past that, then I am O.K.
Good thoughts, light'sdarkangel, there will much darkness you will see in your teen years, and, IF you inside yourself, having talked to God, said you are going to do things a certain way, like I told God at 14 about age I was going to wait until marriage for intimatest relations a man and woman can have, you will do it because God HEARS your thoughts and prayers and wants to be loyal and committed to ONE guy when other 'hot' guys, as you said, are after you, and, you can bet, they will be. A RING (engagement or otherwise does NOT turn off some guys, in fact, it turns them on
So, pray to God and hmm, what was I saying before, did I complete my thought?
) Hmmm, my green brains, I'm telling ya, Christ peeps, you don't want 'em, you JUST don't want 'em
Yes, get an education, milady, let the Lord teach you much things, you never know, maybe you are the type of girl that gets married at 16 and just a wife raising a whole bunch of kids popped out of you. The Lord leads. But, I say get a 2-year community college degree, for sure, and, ,so you can fall back on a something IF guy ditches you AFTER you are hitched.
So, yes, take your thoughts to God of how you want to be AFTER you are engaged, tell God that you want to STAY pure until marriage, and, you will be surprised how effective that conviction you've made to yourself along with the Holy Spirit's Loving correction as you go along in life is for you
Be accountable with others, but, above all else, be accountable with God, keep Him on the drawstrings of your heart
This use to terrify me as well. One day, God told me, "Not all men hit." His truth calmed the storm of fear in my soul.
Surrendering your heart and life to God, truly and completely, and laying facedown before Him and telling Him, "Father, You know me better than I know myself...You choose." removes the rest of the fear.
Surrendering your heart and life to God, truly and completely, and laying facedown before Him and telling Him, "Father, You know me better than I know myself...You choose." removes the rest of the fear.
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Marriage is different for christians than non-christians, or, at least it should be. The moral law is followed but the spiritual law if followed all the more.
Husband and wife are to submit to each other. Wives are to follow their husband's leading as he is led by the Lord. And, good news, the husband is, in fact, literally, the husband is supposed to have the fear of the Lord in Him. Read Eph. 5 and Col. 3 for verses to back above thoughts.
So, IF you are scared about marrying someone and not being able to follow the legal and moral bond, don't be. Be EVEN MORE WORRIED because when YOU choose marriage you are following laws of God (spiritual laws) that transcend the basic matrimony laws that bind a marriage.
It really IS beautiful, those spiritual laws, consume the Word of God for answers to what a PERFECT marriage following God is
Marriage is different for christians than non-christians, or, at least it should be. The moral law is followed but the spiritual law if followed all the more.
Husband and wife are to submit to each other. Wives are to follow their husband's leading as he is led by the Lord. And, good news, the husband is, in fact, literally, the husband is supposed to have the fear of the Lord in Him. Read Eph. 5 and Col. 3 for verses to back above thoughts.
So, IF you are scared about marrying someone and not being able to follow the legal and moral bond, don't be. Be EVEN MORE WORRIED because when YOU choose marriage you are following laws of God (spiritual laws) that transcend the basic matrimony laws that bind a marriage.
It really IS beautiful, those spiritual laws, consume the Word of God for answers to what a PERFECT marriage following God is