I've given this same thing considerable thought.
And my conclusion is that there are no good examples. Who are people that I'm suppose to be like? Joel Osteen? Ted Haggard? Shane Claiborne? Rick Warren? Ray Comfort? Who? But just because I'm a Christian doesn't mean I'm going to fit in. In fact sometimes, being a Christian means not making a whole lot of friends at church.
I say this not asking for a Role Model but to point out that the expectation for what a Christian Male is suppose to look like is Very different than what he actually is. Most of the Women that I've met in church seem to want this guy...
Biff McHugs-a-lot.
Worship Pastor .
Biff is everywhere. EV RE WHERE. You'll find him sipping Lattes, strumming his acoustic guitar, reading Francis Chan, talking about struggles and lots of sharing.
Biff somehow seems to make more Biffs. Until there are whole churches filled with Biff. But Biff is the standard, the expectation, the example. Biff is what a Male Christian is suppose to look like. And I guess it must work, as long as you are willing to Be Biff.
As for the rest of us who have no desire to be like Biff, we are single.
Am I going to be attracted to a 25 year old woman who is trying to model her life after the most prominent Christian women in America, like Joyce Meyer or Beth Moore?
I can't speak for most men, but I'm not attracted to women like Joyce and Beth. But we do have Churches filled with Courtneys.
Went off to Christian College, was looking for a Young Michael W. Smith Lookalike. That didn't work out. Now just deciding on which of the Biffs to settle down with. *giggle*
So then there is the rest of us, the ones who wanted more depth than Book of the Month, Instagram and Coffee that the Courtneys had to offer.
The girls who wanted to be more like Christ than fit in, simply didn't see the appeal of Biff. So they too stayed Single.