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Wow! My first thoughts were, "you sure can pick'em!" But seriously, that happens to a lot of women in these sites.
Ya know, you could take these " lemons" & make lemonade for the rest of the girls. Start a blog on here listing every guy still on here that did this to you. Other ladies could read it & maybe post theirs also, creating a warning list of those to look out for. This could help all of you in the end.
Ya know, you could take these " lemons" & make lemonade for the rest of the girls. Start a blog on here listing every guy still on here that did this to you. Other ladies could read it & maybe post theirs also, creating a warning list of those to look out for. This could help all of you in the end.
I've read all of these posts, & most of them are true about finding a "christian" boyfriend/girlfriend. There are many singles in the church that are messed-up-from-the floor-up. But it's not just singles. It's plumb near impossible just to find a friend in church to go fishing with, let alone find that special someone.
Speaking of messed-up-from-the floor-up, STAY AWAY from the Biffs & Courtneys. They're no different than rock stars & their groupies in the world, except they are very christianese. They're into the same sins.
2 Timothy 3:1-7 (KJV) [SUP]1 [/SUP]This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. [SUP]2 [/SUP]For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, [SUP]3 [/SUP]Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, [SUP]4 [/SUP]Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; [SUP]5 [/SUP]Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. [SUP]6[/SUP]For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, [SUP]7 [/SUP]Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
Those "houses" today are church houses.
Those Biffs & Courtneys are in the church for one thing, & it's not God. Satan uses them to steal souls.
In all honesty, I'm telling you if I were in your position today with what I've learned the hard way, I would fast & pray for a soulmate & if I couldn't find one, I'd get fixed. That sounds rough I know, but know this: times are going to get worse.
Matthew 24:24 (KJV) [SUP]24 [/SUP]For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if it were possible, they shall deceive the very elect.
This isn't what we always what we think it is. Not just the big leaders at the top of the leadership chain......... but those like Biff, with charisma & charm, wooing the elect while performing on the church stage.
Speaking of messed-up-from-the floor-up, STAY AWAY from the Biffs & Courtneys. They're no different than rock stars & their groupies in the world, except they are very christianese. They're into the same sins.
2 Timothy 3:1-7 (KJV) [SUP]1 [/SUP]This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. [SUP]2 [/SUP]For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, [SUP]3 [/SUP]Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, [SUP]4 [/SUP]Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; [SUP]5 [/SUP]Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. [SUP]6[/SUP]For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, [SUP]7 [/SUP]Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
Those "houses" today are church houses.
Those Biffs & Courtneys are in the church for one thing, & it's not God. Satan uses them to steal souls.
In all honesty, I'm telling you if I were in your position today with what I've learned the hard way, I would fast & pray for a soulmate & if I couldn't find one, I'd get fixed. That sounds rough I know, but know this: times are going to get worse.
Matthew 24:24 (KJV) [SUP]24 [/SUP]For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if it were possible, they shall deceive the very elect.
This isn't what we always what we think it is. Not just the big leaders at the top of the leadership chain......... but those like Biff, with charisma & charm, wooing the elect while performing on the church stage.
I've read all of these posts, & most of them are true about finding a "christian" boyfriend/girlfriend. There are many singles in the church that are messed-up-from-the floor-up. But it's not just singles. It's plumb near impossible just to find a friend in church to go fishing with, let alone find that special someone.
Speaking of messed-up-from-the floor-up, STAY AWAY from the Biffs & Courtneys. They're no different than rock stars & their groupies in the world, except they are very christianese. They're into the same sins.
2 Timothy 3:1-7 (KJV) [SUP]1 [/SUP]This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. [SUP]2 [/SUP]For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, [SUP]3 [/SUP]Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, [SUP]4 [/SUP]Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; [SUP]5 [/SUP]Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. [SUP]6[/SUP]For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, [SUP]7 [/SUP]Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
Silly - weak, foolish
*They will lead away weak men also.
Those "houses" in today's society are church houses as well as homes.
Those Biffs & Courtneys are in the church for one thing, & it's not God. Satan uses them to steal souls.
In all honesty, I'm telling you if I were in your position today with what I've learned the hard way, I would fast & pray for a soulmate & if I couldn't find one, I'd get fixed. That sounds rough I know, but know this: times are going to get worse.
Matthew 24:24 (KJV) [SUP]24 [/SUP]For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if it were possible, they shall deceive the very elect.
This isn't what we always what we think it is. Not just the big leaders at the top of the leadership chain......... but those like Biff, with charisma & charm, wooing the elect while performing on the church stage. And like Courtney, leading others to be popular like them & that it's ok to go hunting for Biffs in church.
Speaking of messed-up-from-the floor-up, STAY AWAY from the Biffs & Courtneys. They're no different than rock stars & their groupies in the world, except they are very christianese. They're into the same sins.
2 Timothy 3:1-7 (KJV) [SUP]1 [/SUP]This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. [SUP]2 [/SUP]For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, [SUP]3 [/SUP]Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, [SUP]4 [/SUP]Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; [SUP]5 [/SUP]Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. [SUP]6[/SUP]For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, [SUP]7 [/SUP]Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
Silly - weak, foolish
*They will lead away weak men also.
Those "houses" in today's society are church houses as well as homes.
Those Biffs & Courtneys are in the church for one thing, & it's not God. Satan uses them to steal souls.
In all honesty, I'm telling you if I were in your position today with what I've learned the hard way, I would fast & pray for a soulmate & if I couldn't find one, I'd get fixed. That sounds rough I know, but know this: times are going to get worse.
Matthew 24:24 (KJV) [SUP]24 [/SUP]For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if it were possible, they shall deceive the very elect.
This isn't what we always what we think it is. Not just the big leaders at the top of the leadership chain......... but those like Biff, with charisma & charm, wooing the elect while performing on the church stage. And like Courtney, leading others to be popular like them & that it's ok to go hunting for Biffs in church.
Because we must focus on becoming who God is calling us to be. A blessing to be given, instead of trying to find the "One" that we want for ourselves... in this process of focusing on God and running after Him and being transformed by His love and goodness it is in this process that we will see those who are running next to us. Who have the same desires, passions, and fire...
I'm still single myself, but its by choice. There are some business things I want to get nailed down first before hand. However, when I'm ready I will start taking girls I like out on "coffee hang-outs" etc. See what makes them tick, see if they change the topic when I talk about God, see what they are moving their life towards and see if we click.
If we do click, then I'll hang out with them again and again... if we don't click I'll keep doing what God is calling me to do. And keep on looking around along the way, I've met so many amazing brothers and sisters in my life. It's like I just wanna be a match maker haha.
Here's a little thing I used to share to guys who wanted to meet more girls (I think it will work for girls too, but usually they don't have this issue lol)... when you meet someone you think you might be a good match, simply say... you seem pretty cool, we should hang out sometime.
If they say yes, cool, just get the number to set it up, or set up a time there.
If they say, why am I cool, tell them why you think they are cool (have a reason for this, you do right? After all you want to get to know them for a reason haha)
Anyways that at least will telegraph your intention to get to know them better, if they are not interested no problem, at least you know and guys you will be seen as quite confident because you did this and you complimented her which is never a bad thing as long as its true.
But regardless, chase God, look who's running next to you, and transition to getting to know them better to see if there's a match, be yourself... don't be anything else, because you want to be attractive to the right person, not someone that in 2 weeks you'll wonder why you pretended to be something you're not or they'll wonder that about you.
If you want an athletic person, be athletic, if you want an on fire for God person, be on fire! If you want someone to share deep meaningful things, start writing down deep meaningful things to share.
And don't ignore red flags, they get redder and flaggier. Trust me.
C.
I'm still single myself, but its by choice. There are some business things I want to get nailed down first before hand. However, when I'm ready I will start taking girls I like out on "coffee hang-outs" etc. See what makes them tick, see if they change the topic when I talk about God, see what they are moving their life towards and see if we click.
If we do click, then I'll hang out with them again and again... if we don't click I'll keep doing what God is calling me to do. And keep on looking around along the way, I've met so many amazing brothers and sisters in my life. It's like I just wanna be a match maker haha.
Here's a little thing I used to share to guys who wanted to meet more girls (I think it will work for girls too, but usually they don't have this issue lol)... when you meet someone you think you might be a good match, simply say... you seem pretty cool, we should hang out sometime.
If they say yes, cool, just get the number to set it up, or set up a time there.
If they say, why am I cool, tell them why you think they are cool (have a reason for this, you do right? After all you want to get to know them for a reason haha)
Anyways that at least will telegraph your intention to get to know them better, if they are not interested no problem, at least you know and guys you will be seen as quite confident because you did this and you complimented her which is never a bad thing as long as its true.
But regardless, chase God, look who's running next to you, and transition to getting to know them better to see if there's a match, be yourself... don't be anything else, because you want to be attractive to the right person, not someone that in 2 weeks you'll wonder why you pretended to be something you're not or they'll wonder that about you.
If you want an athletic person, be athletic, if you want an on fire for God person, be on fire! If you want someone to share deep meaningful things, start writing down deep meaningful things to share.
And don't ignore red flags, they get redder and flaggier. Trust me.
C.
J
Sometimes we get it in our heads that if we can find a "good Christian man/woman", everything will be fine and we'll live happily ever after. Every guy I have ever dated was a declared believer. I don't know whether some of them didn't understand what that meant, they deliberately deceived me or simply were not far enough along to show it in their deeds/actions. SOME of them I think were true believers, but the reasons for the relationships not working were no different than the reasons non-Christians give for things not working out. Things that had more to do with personalities/personal development than with Christianity.
I'm not ignoring my own personality/development when I say this. I'm probably far more curious/adventurous/intense than most guys can handle, whether Christian or not. I've tried to change this from time to time, but I've recently learned that God designed me as He did for reasons of His own. Some of the things I have been struggling to change within myself are not things HE wants me to change. I need those things for the work He has called me to do and I would not survive physically/emotionally without them.
My life has become far less stressful now that I have learned that I need to stop trying to change these things to "fit" a guy, be he a Christian or not. I had forgotten something very important the past couple of years - There are men who are not intimidated by those things, men who actually appreciate them and whose lives are complemented by them.
As we look for Christian people to date, we need to remember that people are people. Christian or not, we all have our flaws and failings, strengths and gifts. We need to learn what they are and take that into consideration when we are interested in being with someone. Ignoring these things causes someone pain in the long run, whether that person is you or someone else.
I'm not ignoring my own personality/development when I say this. I'm probably far more curious/adventurous/intense than most guys can handle, whether Christian or not. I've tried to change this from time to time, but I've recently learned that God designed me as He did for reasons of His own. Some of the things I have been struggling to change within myself are not things HE wants me to change. I need those things for the work He has called me to do and I would not survive physically/emotionally without them.
My life has become far less stressful now that I have learned that I need to stop trying to change these things to "fit" a guy, be he a Christian or not. I had forgotten something very important the past couple of years - There are men who are not intimidated by those things, men who actually appreciate them and whose lives are complemented by them.
As we look for Christian people to date, we need to remember that people are people. Christian or not, we all have our flaws and failings, strengths and gifts. We need to learn what they are and take that into consideration when we are interested in being with someone. Ignoring these things causes someone pain in the long run, whether that person is you or someone else.
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The reason why it's so difficult to find a good Christian man to date is because women don't know the directions to my house.
Please allow me to provide the directions below to reach me.
First, get on the express train to "Hots-ville", then when you arrive at "Hots-ville" hail a cab and ask him to take you to the "Gorgeous District", and get him to drop you off at "Too Handsome Lane", and look for the house that has the "Not For Sale" sign on the lawn (because looks as good as mine are priceless).
I hope these directions can help the women here find a good Christian man to date.
On a side note, if you're looking for a humble Christian man to date, I'm sorry but I don't have those directions!!!
Please allow me to provide the directions below to reach me.
First, get on the express train to "Hots-ville", then when you arrive at "Hots-ville" hail a cab and ask him to take you to the "Gorgeous District", and get him to drop you off at "Too Handsome Lane", and look for the house that has the "Not For Sale" sign on the lawn (because looks as good as mine are priceless).
I hope these directions can help the women here find a good Christian man to date.
On a side note, if you're looking for a humble Christian man to date, I'm sorry but I don't have those directions!!!
Refrain from judging any book by its cover. A book is no more that a block of paper if not read with discernment from God to you personally. Be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove. For only God can teach this to us each personally.
Now sometimes, I do hear not to read and therefore don't. And times I hear to read and do not understand why until after the read.
This is not only true in reading books, but in life here and now, just in all one does please go to God for discernment and be taught by God personally, to be free in God.
Now sometimes, I do hear not to read and therefore don't. And times I hear to read and do not understand why until after the read.
This is not only true in reading books, but in life here and now, just in all one does please go to God for discernment and be taught by God personally, to be free in God.
Dread_Zepplin1, you should be witnessing to others. You should have a desire to win souls for the Lord Jesus Christ. We are to be ambassadors for Jesus Christ and we have been given the ministry of reconciliation (2 Cor. 5:17-21).
Witnessing to others is something that every Christian should be doing.
If we believe what the Bible says about Hell and the Lake of Fire, then we should have an urgency, compassion, and a strong desire to want to see lost sinners get saved by coming to repentance and by believing on the Lord Jesus Christ.
Definitely consider what has been said.
And in regard to sex; sex is only to be done within the Biblical parameters of marriage. I know your flesh doesn't like hearing this. But it is the truth. And if you read the Bible, then you should already know that this is the case.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.