Thought I would toss a little humor in. I have no idea what a goad is or what it is you kick against.
Back to the OP and irresistible grace, there is no such thing as irresistible grace in the Bible. To the contrary, the Jews were accused of ALWAYS resisting the Holy Ghost by Stephen (Acts 7:51). And here is the reason from Scripture why all men are not saved:
And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. (John 3:19,20).