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LaurenTM

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Dude653 said:
no... but when you have been in a relationship with someone who is bipolar you know the behavior to look for.
1. Severe ups and downs
2. Constant mood swings
3. Fabricated allegations.. flight when my ex girlfriend accused her dad of molesting her son... but the person who is bipolar will believe that the incident happened despite the fact that it did not
4. Compulsive Behavior..
5 emotional abuse. One minute you're the best thing that ever happened to her in the next minute she can't stand you
6. Alienating others who are close to you. They will try to convince you that they are the only person who loves you and that everyone else is out to get you.
Being in this type of relationship is emotionally exhausting
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that could be several different things going on

in her case, maybe bi-polar...IF she was diagnosed by someone who has DR in front of their moniker

you are not a doctor and you are not an expert

my ex husband qualified for 4 out of the 6 you mention and the other 2 from time to time...he was just an abusive jerk

and BTW? I have not called him any names in years...I do so now to qualify what he was suffering from...

I forgave him but that does not mean he changed any...that's what you don't understand...YOU change...you cannot make another change
 
Dude653

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LaurenTM said:
that could be several different things going on

in her case, maybe bi-polar...IF she was diagnosed by someone who has DR in front of their moniker

you are not a doctor and you are not an expert

my ex husband qualified for 4 out of the 6 you mention and the other 2 from time to time...he was just an abusive jerk

and BTW? I have not called him any names in years...I do so now to qualify what he was suffering from...

I forgave him but that does not mean he changed any...that's what you don't understand...YOU change...you cannot make another change
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She had multiple diagnoses. Bipolar, OCD, borderline personality disorder. I knew she had mental issues but I didn't know the full extent of it until I was actually in a relationship with her. I remember when she and I first started talking she was in a custody battle for her daughter. I found out later that her mental illness was the reason she lost her daughter. In the course of six years, she moved 15 times. This is not something a mentally stable person does
 
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Tommy379 said:
Who hates who in this scenario?
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Did you know that when you see something disgusting like someone eating a poop sandwich, it triggers the same part of the brain as when someone offends your sense of morality.
 
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Dude653 said:
Did you know that when you see something disgusting like someone eating a poop sandwich, it triggers the same part of the brain as when someone offends your sense of morality.
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Yeah, but like a normal person, I loose all my indignant outrage 3 seconds later.
 
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Tommy379 said:
Yeah, but like a normal person, I loose all my indignant outrage 3 seconds later.
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There are certain things you should be outraged about. This is one of them..m what if I went to work tomorrow and said."i think Hitler was a great guy and I wish he had killed all the Jews"......or...." I think child pornography is awesome"... that would definitely warrant a certain amount of outrage
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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Dude653 said:
There are certain things you should be outraged about. This is one of them..m what if I went to work tomorrow and said."i think Hitler was a great guy and I wish he had killed all the Jews"......or...." I think child pornography is awesome"... that would definitely warrant a certain amount of outrage
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Why should I be outraged for something you do? Unless it directly impacts my life, then I couldn't really care less. There are a lot of injustices and ugliness in the world, but like most people, there is very little I can do to change anyone's behavior but my own. I see you're passionate about this topic, but it's something I just don't get worked up over, regardless of how others believe I should feel about it. That doesn't mean I condone it at all, but I'm not going to be following you down the street with a torch and pitchfork to change the world. I've got other things to worry about right now.
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious said:
Why should I be outraged for something you do? Unless it directly impacts my life, then I couldn't really care less. There are a lot of injustices and ugliness in the world, but like most people, there is very little I can do to change anyone's behavior but my own. I see you're passionate about this topic, but it's something I just don't get worked up over, regardless of how others believe I should feel about it. That doesn't mean I condone it at all, but I'm not going to be following you down the street with a torch and pitchfork to change the world. I've got other things to worry about right now.
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I'm not either but you're not going to use that language in my presence either
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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Dude653 said:
I'm not either but you're not going to use that language in my presence either
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Why would I? I have no reason to use the "n" word. I've been curious though why it's alright for black people to use it with and among each other.

As much as I don't like racist terms, mainly because I've heard them so much and I've known for so long it isn't the right way to act, I'm still not going to take up the mantle of being a social justice warrior against racism. I'm definitely in NO position to be telling anyone on this Earth how to act appropriately. Anything I tell someone not to do just shows my hypocrisy, and while I accept I am a raging hypocrite, I'd rather keep it veiled most of the time.
 
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Dude653 said:
There are certain things you should be outraged about. This is one of them..m what if I went to work tomorrow and said."i think Hitler was a great guy and I wish he had killed all the Jews"......or...." I think child pornography is awesome"... that would definitely warrant a certain amount of outrage
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That's interesting that you should bring up Child Pornography. Because, for decades I have been doing something about it while I watched thousands of noisy "ranters" do nothing but draw attention to themselves with their supposed "incensed outrage."
 
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LaurenTM

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Dude653 said:
She had multiple diagnoses. Bipolar, OCD, borderline personality disorder. I knew she had mental issues but I didn't know the full extent of it until I was actually in a relationship with her. I remember when she and I first started talking she was in a custody battle for her daughter. I found out later that her mental illness was the reason she lost her daughter. In the course of six years, she moved 15 times. This is not something a mentally stable person does
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uh

how does that relate to the op?

or make you a diagnostician of mental disorders?

I maintain you started the op because your own actions need some propping up

don't think it's working
 
Dude653

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LaurenTM said:
uh

how does that relate to the op?

or make you a diagnostician of mental disorders?

I maintain you started the op because your own actions need some propping up

don't think it's working
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I see you're still trying to analyze me and failing... it relates to the op because once I know that someone has a poisonous nature that I know to avoid that person from here on out
 
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Dude653 said:
So you have never in your entire life been tempted to punch someone?
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What we have here is failure to communicate. Re-read what I shared with you, especially the last few words.
 
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LaurenTM said:
nah

you sound like a racist

I don't act...I am or I am not

at least people know what they are getting :rolleyes:
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Because I'm offended by the n-word I'm racist?..
 
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CeileDe

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Dude653 said:
Because I'm offended by the n-word I'm racist?..
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Nah, I believe the N word brings out the hate in you. You are allowing one hateful word dictate hate in yourself. We don't have to like something but you are showing hate toward an individual when you should be showing some concern.
 
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LaurenTM

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Dude653 said:
I see you're still trying to analyze me and failing... it relates to the op because once I know that someone has a poisonous nature that I know to avoid that person from here on out
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no one makes a thread like this if they are self satisfied they did good

I'm not trying to do anything with you

read my posts...I state what I see/saw/whatever

you know one single person...an expert, you are not

actually, this thread is about you though and not your co-worker

and it's really getting boring
 
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