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So I am quickly scanning through these posts, and I think, I understand your question; and I think I understand most of the answers given. May I add a different perspective to the answers your receiving. Namely;
Have you considered what dating means to a christian?
Have you considered what dating means to YOU as a christian?
What does dating mean to HER as a christian?
Is YOUR and HER perspective on dating the same.
If you can answer all or even most of these questions, then you can probably answer YOUR question.
In the times that the old and new testament were written, "dating" was very small amount of time that inevitably lead to an "engagement" or "disengagement". In today's modern world dating is considered little more than a recreational activity. This is quite a difference.
Does she consider dating nothing more than a recreational "good time" with a friend?
Do you consider dating a first step in finding a lifelong christian mate?
ASK HER as a christian mentor or friend, "How should a christian view dating". Regardless of the difference in maturity levels; if she is expecting a lot less committment out a date than you expect, OR You are expecting a lot more committment from the dating step than she does; then you have an answer to your question, the difference in expectations will leave one or both of you hurt.
Don't ignore, hide, evade, change or misrepresent your differences with her; if you do any of these things, then one or both of you are going to end up hurt. Not because you were not transparent, but because you are compromising allready to bridge the differences.
There are many many scripture outlining much of what is discussed here. A entire post could be made for each one; but I just list a few of them in brief here.
Matthew 5:28, 2 Samuel 11:2 to 12:14, Job 31:1, Job 31:9, 1 Corithians 7:1, 2 Corithians 6:14, 2 Corithians 5:11.
Hope some or all of this helps.
Have you considered what dating means to a christian?
Have you considered what dating means to YOU as a christian?
What does dating mean to HER as a christian?
Is YOUR and HER perspective on dating the same.
If you can answer all or even most of these questions, then you can probably answer YOUR question.
In the times that the old and new testament were written, "dating" was very small amount of time that inevitably lead to an "engagement" or "disengagement". In today's modern world dating is considered little more than a recreational activity. This is quite a difference.
Does she consider dating nothing more than a recreational "good time" with a friend?
Do you consider dating a first step in finding a lifelong christian mate?
ASK HER as a christian mentor or friend, "How should a christian view dating". Regardless of the difference in maturity levels; if she is expecting a lot less committment out a date than you expect, OR You are expecting a lot more committment from the dating step than she does; then you have an answer to your question, the difference in expectations will leave one or both of you hurt.
Don't ignore, hide, evade, change or misrepresent your differences with her; if you do any of these things, then one or both of you are going to end up hurt. Not because you were not transparent, but because you are compromising allready to bridge the differences.
There are many many scripture outlining much of what is discussed here. A entire post could be made for each one; but I just list a few of them in brief here.
Matthew 5:28, 2 Samuel 11:2 to 12:14, Job 31:1, Job 31:9, 1 Corithians 7:1, 2 Corithians 6:14, 2 Corithians 5:11.
Hope some or all of this helps.
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