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We've had some threads about good guys/bad guys, but this one is a little different (I hope).
I was talking with someone a few nights ago about something and wanted to know whether this happens to other ladies: You are talking with a really great guy who makes you think, laugh, etc., but then some studly dooright guy who can't put two words together comes up and interrupts the conversation, and the great smart nice guy just gives up, walks off and leaves me thinking NO! Don't LEAVE! Come back!
*sigh*
I've been led to believe that nice christian ladies don't go after them, but if they are going to give up so easily, should we or not?
I was talking with someone a few nights ago about something and wanted to know whether this happens to other ladies: You are talking with a really great guy who makes you think, laugh, etc., but then some studly dooright guy who can't put two words together comes up and interrupts the conversation, and the great smart nice guy just gives up, walks off and leaves me thinking NO! Don't LEAVE! Come back!
*sigh*I've been led to believe that nice christian ladies don't go after them, but if they are going to give up so easily, should we or not?
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I Yes , allfunfor, I concur, or, is that, 'agree,' I so in my green brains get things so mussed sometimes
I agree that for a girl to 'chase' after a guy is USUALLY not the Lord's leading (are we agreeing?)
And, that said, the showing 'interest,' as you alzó said allfunfor, is totally different.
By all means, show interest, and I would keep email out of it, simply say something like 'hey, nice talking to you , nice guy, see you soon,' or , and, IF that right there isn't a major HINT for nice guy then it's true, well of at least this nice guy...he wil finish last . Sorry, sadness had to be followed by humor green and nice face.
So, Yes, julieannie, don't just out foot in mouth and have situation crumble as Proverbs verses say a few times I think and James verse you said.
And, 'red flag ' is good to see, that is, if one compares it to a red light...
Working at same placer as someone you like too is a potential slow boil 'frog put in cold pot and then heat slowly turned up.so slowly that Frog boils to death without even trying to jump from pot' story comes to mind.
Be very careful dating co-workers. As is said, there are a lot of fish in the sea and LOSING a good job over a sexual harassmrnt lawsuit she (or could even be 'he' I 'spose ) would be a tough fish to swallow (sushi 'yellowtail comes to mind . Gag!).
I Yes , allfunfor, I concur, or, is that, 'agree,' I so in my green brains get things so mussed sometimes
I agree that for a girl to 'chase' after a guy is USUALLY not the Lord's leading (are we agreeing?)
And, that said, the showing 'interest,' as you alzó said allfunfor, is totally different.
By all means, show interest, and I would keep email out of it, simply say something like 'hey, nice talking to you , nice guy, see you soon,' or , and, IF that right there isn't a major HINT for nice guy then it's true, well of at least this nice guy...he wil finish last
. Sorry, sadness had to be followed by humor green and nice face. So, Yes, julieannie, don't just out foot in mouth and have situation crumble as Proverbs verses say a few times I think and James verse you said.
And, 'red flag ' is good to see, that is, if one compares it to a red light...
Working at same placer as someone you like too is a potential slow boil 'frog put in cold pot and then heat slowly turned up.so slowly that Frog boils to death without even trying to jump from pot' story comes to mind.
Be very careful dating co-workers. As is said, there are a lot of fish in the sea and LOSING a good job over a sexual harassmrnt lawsuit she (or could even be 'he' I 'spose ) would be a tough fish to swallow (sushi 'yellowtail comes to mind . Gag!).
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Well I am glad you feel vilified in whatever action you took. You got the pat on the back that you were looking for. But what you have missed by ALL of my posts and not just in this thread that over and over again from my perception you have implied any woman who does anything beyond smile and nod is a hussy and a "good lady" just sits back and shuts up. I stand by my statement. If a person interrupted a pleasant conversation I was having, I would intervene in that. I wouldn't just sit there and take it. I am glad you would and think it is wise. I wouldn't, but I refuse to think women like myself who would speak up are brainwashed feminists because we do something else.
This isn't about "swift judgements", it is about a person interrupting my personal space. I have the choice to make that not happen and to blame it on "bad boy" "good" boy" is a cop out in my opinion.
I'm glad you feel like all's well that ends well for you. But it really is about what was implied that is so grievous.
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It's the principle of the matter that matters most.
But, maybe, allfunfor, julieannie sees rudeguy more than niceguy or power is at play where if julieannie apeaks out she is making her workplace more sour.
Julieannie did say that nice guy said that he and rudeguy had some run-ins before ....
So, that said, it sounds to me like there was some envy going on, maybe.
It's getting late, my green wee brains thinking less and less straight, so, I understand that ítem grievous for rudeness to be tolerated by julieannie but... Sometimes not tolerating it, especially making a scene in a courtroom environment, could set off bitterness, hostility, étc in workplace. The
Lord leads
It's the principle of the matter that matters most.
But, maybe, allfunfor, julieannie sees rudeguy more than niceguy or power is at play where if julieannie apeaks out she is making her workplace more sour.
Julieannie did say that nice guy said that he and rudeguy had some run-ins before ....
So, that said, it sounds to me like there was some envy going on, maybe.
It's getting late, my green wee brains thinking less and less straight, so, I understand that ítem grievous for rudeness to be tolerated by julieannie but... Sometimes not tolerating it, especially making a scene in a courtroom environment, could set off bitterness, hostility, étc in workplace. The
Lord leads
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That's very gallant of you, GreenNnice. You are a true gentleman. What I did and did not say is clear to anyone who reads this thread, so don't worry about it. When someone chooses to judge how I live my life, it's still not right for me to reciprocate in that regard.
The situation I had asked about was pleasantly resolved to my satisfaction and I won't be cyberbullied into bowing to the feminist party line, so there's really nothing left to say here. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree, put your big girls pants on and move on.
When someone chooses to judge how I live my life, it's still not right for me to reciprocate in that regard. The situation I had asked about was pleasantly resolved to my satisfaction and I won't be cyberbullied into bowing to the feminist party line, so there's really nothing left to say here. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree, put your big girls pants on and move on.
We've had some threads about good guys/bad guys, but this one is a little different (I hope).
I was talking with someone a few nights ago about something and wanted to know whether this happens to other ladies: You are talking with a really great guy who makes you think, laugh, etc., but then some studly dooright guy who can't put two words together comes up and interrupts the conversation, and the great smart nice guy just gives up, walks off and leaves me thinking NO! Don't LEAVE! Come back! *sigh*
I've been led to believe that nice christian ladies don't go after them, but if they are going to give up so easily, should we or not?
I was talking with someone a few nights ago about something and wanted to know whether this happens to other ladies: You are talking with a really great guy who makes you think, laugh, etc., but then some studly dooright guy who can't put two words together comes up and interrupts the conversation, and the great smart nice guy just gives up, walks off and leaves me thinking NO! Don't LEAVE! Come back!
*sigh*I've been led to believe that nice christian ladies don't go after them, but if they are going to give up so easily, should we or not?
I try not to do that, but then...everyone is different.
Now, if she takes huge interest in the guy and basically ends our conversation to talk with him, then obviously he's a higher priority for her.
Lol. One thing girls and guys both have to learn is that we all think and feel very differently.
While one guy might think that's a test, the next might see it as rejection, and the next as a potential conflict he wants to avoid. It just depends on the person.
Now when you ask," should we?"...that's up to you.
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