No offense intended, but you are mistaken on this thread "
http://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/120184-comfort-those-who-speak-tongues.html " the OP is NOT stating that if you don't speak in tongues, you aren't saved.
Here's what's going on with that thread/group: She claims to have the gift of tongues, others claim the gift of tongues is a dead gift -- she's attempting to defend this (because she has the gift), others are attempting to debunk her (because of their beliefs from studying scripture and history).
So, I guess, I find that
misunderstandings create a lot of arguments here on CC -- especially those who argue a point, then move on to points 2, 3, 4... Without FIRST determining whether it is necessary to even argue "point 1".