I do not agree with the conclusions you make about this Angela, since they are not in line with the tradition that Paul upheld. It is wrong to assume that anyone is "reducing" the role of women by insisting that this tradition is to be kept, the discussion is not about that at all. Nobody here have yet to deny that women can not do this or that in the Kingdom of God. That's not what is discussed actually. It's about the order set forth even in the OT, being continued by Paul, and not intended to be changed. However you do argue seriously for your case, which is good, we are just not in agreement on this one.
Both Paul and Jesus warned against this!! In fact, Jesus goes so far as to say that the Pharisees were invalidating or voiding the word of God with their "traditions of men".
"Thus making void the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And many such things you do.” Mark 7:13
Paul said those who follow the "traditions of men" were not following after Christ. (Although here, the ESV has a much better translation of the phrase, την παραδοσιν των ανθρωπων, (tain paradosin tone anthropone) "the traditions of humans" or "human tradition.")
"Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ." Col. 2:8 KJV
"See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ." Col. 2:8 ESV
I guess to me, this really is the crux of the argument.
Are we upholding the human tradition, or Biblical truth??
I have studied this for years, in the original languages, and I have read probably 50 books on the topic, both for and against women in ministry. The Biblical conclusion, based on the text, (not bad translations!) is that women are not only called, but ordained and used by God as pastors, chaplains, evangelists, preachers, teachers, servants, helpers, and anything else that God calls them to be.