Its a tricky one this, as I have thought about this as well. I think it isn't so much a case of having sympathy, but more the fact that after a lifetime of being told to forgive your enemies, when that's hard sometimes if they are truly wicked, then its hard to see how one can change from this compassion, to almost feel nothing when even the idea of something so dreadful is brought to mind to anyone's end seems horrific. It seems to be the extreme other spectrum of forgiveness - off the scale even.
I personally am not one who would find any satisfaction in knowing people suffer, whoever they are, so if its done for my sake, I cant imagine getting any pleasure from it (although I know some do in crime cases wanting to see the perpetrator die etc). Or maybe it is because it hard to imagine the people that are "not that bad" (not truly wicked) having something so horrific. Surely there cant be just two groups of people, good or bad. Hard to say. I even find the word "obliterate" horrific actually when used in that sense. But then if anyone was destined to be "obliterated" why does it say that for some "it would be better if they had never been born"? I still don't get it. Surely to some non believers being "obliterated" isn't much different an end to dying as they expect to anyhow, so don't see the difference. Maybe I just don't get it!
I personally am not one who would find any satisfaction in knowing people suffer, whoever they are, so if its done for my sake, I cant imagine getting any pleasure from it (although I know some do in crime cases wanting to see the perpetrator die etc). Or maybe it is because it hard to imagine the people that are "not that bad" (not truly wicked) having something so horrific. Surely there cant be just two groups of people, good or bad. Hard to say. I even find the word "obliterate" horrific actually when used in that sense. But then if anyone was destined to be "obliterated" why does it say that for some "it would be better if they had never been born"? I still don't get it. Surely to some non believers being "obliterated" isn't much different an end to dying as they expect to anyhow, so don't see the difference. Maybe I just don't get it!
The point in my posts has been that annihilationists are viewing the types of eternal punishment (Sodom and Gomorrah, Valley of Hinnom, etcetera) as the reality, whereas the reality is eternal punishment and is much worse.
Additionally, I would ask why annihilationists are so attentive to the suffering of the enemies of God, because, in reality, they are enemies of God and he glorifies in their defeat and punishment for their persecution of his people.
I think part of it is that people haven't read Psalms so they don't understand God's mind on this. Additionally, they have not connected these themes with the book of Revelation or Thessalonians, which clearly describe God taking vengeance upon his enemies, who are also the enemies of his peoples.
I can see why annihilationists believe what they do, since I was an annihilationist myself at one time, but if they really look closely on how death, destruction, perishing is used in Scripture, they should be able to see that the usage doesn't necessarily mean annihilationism but can relate to spiritual ruin, whether the being is conscious afterwards or not. Additionally, there is a failure to recognize the types between the holy places of the Garden of Eden, the camp of Israel, the city of Jerusalem, and the New Earth, each of which have individuals "cast out" from them (yet still conscious) due to their unholy lives.
As a former annihilationist, I can see why the Church has upheld the eternal torment view over an annihilationist view. And, it is not due to "tradition" and "Roman Catholic teaching" like annihilationists sometimes claim. It is because Scripture definitely supports the eternal torment view if one fully understands the word usage as well as the typological relationships I mentioned.
My guess is that many annihilationists really don't appreciate the gravity of our sins, and the sins of unsaved family members, though. They want annihilationism to be true. My sister, who is not an evangelical Christian, got angry with me due to telling her I no longer believed annihilationism because she didn't want to think about our brother suffering eternal torment. She isn't even a Christian, but won't even consider the eternal torment view (she was raised in a cultic household like myself and still believes that part of their false teachings).