Divorce is unbiblical

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SantoSubito

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What??!!! So because there are some nasty people in the world, God gives innocent babies birth defects, and makes people gay??!! How is that fair!!!??

Why not just give birth defects to evil people? What possible benefit can come from punishing the innocent for the crimes of others? Why does God give birth defects to the righteous??

I refuse to worship any deity who knowingly causes suffering to innocents because of the sins of others.

Thankfully, my interpretation of the Bible is different to yours - the God I worship is kind and loving!
That does not change the fact that because of Adam's sin we all bear his guilt and are all subject to the corruptive nature it brought into the world. We all have crosses to bear and for some of us that is homosexuality, birth defects, and other results of the corruption original sin brought. Also I will point out that people aren't born predestined to be evil or righteous (good ol' jimmy may disagree with me here).

Finally are you part of the Church of England by chance?
 
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SantoSubito

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Please don't quote me out of context - you make me sound like an idiot! I was merely making a reductio ad absurdum argument against TheGrungeDiva and SantoSubito, who both equated homosexualy with an illness or disorder.
For the record that was a terrible argument for you to make as it doesn't work well at all. It would work if I proposed that "homosexuality in and of itself is sinful", but it's not, homosexuality is sinful if a person acts on homosexual impulses. In other words the behaviour is sinful and not the condition itself, but both are still the result of a fallen and corrupted creation.
 

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For the record that was a terrible argument for you to make as it doesn't work well at all. It would work if I proposed that "homosexuality in and of itself is sinful", but it's not, homosexuality is sinful if a person acts on homosexual impulses. In other words the behaviour is sinful and not the condition itself, but both are still the result of a fallen and corrupted creation.

sinful desires are not sin but only sinful behaviour is sin?

I think the Lord Jesus teaches differently, doesn't He?
 

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"Being tempted is not sin", is perhaps what SantoSubito was saying?
 
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syborg

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If a church expels members for being sinners, at least it is being consistent, and expelling all sinners, rather than saying there are some sins that would exclude you from membership and others that would not.

Some churches say if you're gay, you can't be a member unless and until you repent from that lifestyle. Yet they don't have the same standards for heterosexuals who are living in sin. I'm just saying a church should be consistent. Personally, I know I am no less a sinner than anyone else. If we have to be perfect before we commit our lives to Christ, then there's no hope for me!

ok - but clearly it is not being consistent is it? after all I am in the church and have sin. .as does the leaders. .so im conmfused as to how you think the church is being consistent and honest?
 
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SantoSubito

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"Being tempted is not sin", is perhaps what SantoSubito was saying?
Yes, that what I'm saying. Being attracted to the same sex is a temptation that becomes sin when you act upon it.
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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This is not about promiscuity any more than the account of Sodom and Gomorrah was about promiscuity and not homosexuality.
Ummmm .... According to Scripture, the sin of Sodom and Gomorrah was neither promiscuity nor homosexuality. According to the prophet Ezekiel (chapter 16), the sin of Sodom was that they were unkind to the needy in their midst. God would have been just as angry if the visitors were female as male. It wasn't the gay sex God was upset with, but the evil way they treated them.

Of course, that's if you think the Bible is correct. You could say Ezekiel is wrong, and your own interpretation is correct. I think I'll stick with Ezekiel's interpretation.

I don't have a response to the rest of your post, but I did need to point this out.
 
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luciddream1982

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Ummmm .... According to Scripture, the sin of Sodom and Gomorrah was neither promiscuity nor homosexuality. According to the prophet Ezekiel (chapter 16), the sin of Sodom was that they were unkind to the needy in their midst. God would have been just as angry if the visitors were female as male. It wasn't the gay sex God was upset with, but the evil way they treated them.

Of course, that's if you think the Bible is correct. You could say Ezekiel is wrong, and your own interpretation is correct. I think I'll stick with Ezekiel's interpretation.

I don't have a response to the rest of your post, but I did need to point this out.
Jud 1:7 Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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Granting homosexual couples the same benefits as married couples was offered and rejected by the homosexual community.
Actually, this has not been offered universally. So far there has only one state that has offered "everything but name" as you say -- where gay couples can get unions with every right except for the name "marriage." In most states, the only thing offered has been "civil unions" which do not offer the same rights, often thousands fewer rights than married couples have (and that is not an exaggeration ... ask a lawyer some time how many benefits are based on the title of "marriage"). In many states, "the gay community" as you say has compromised with this, and even then it gets voted down.

Like I said, we need to get rid of the word "marriage" completely. Couples who want legal rights should get "unions" -- legal, secular rights bestowed therein, based on contractual laws and not religion. Couples who wish their unions to be blessed by God can be united in Holy Matrimony, and then whatever church they attend can make whatever restrictions it likes -- banning gays, banning divorced couples, saying that barren couples cannot marry ... whatever. Or if a church wants to allow polygamy, then it may, in that church ... as long as the secular laws are a separate deal.

Well, we now have "common law" marriages to partially cover that one for legal purposes.
Some states have this. Not all. Yes, it is all confusing. But it's the difference between legal rights and religion. That is the point I'm making. Yes, a couple who is just "shaking up" is not wedding in Holy Matrimony, in God's eyes, but they may want the legal rights, and should be allowed to have those, if they want, even if they're atheist. In this country, it is constitutional that rights are not based on religious status. Period.
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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Everyone chooses their lifestyle. You are not born with a lifestyle. The may not have chosen to have homosexual desires but they choose whether or not to act on it.
This is an excellent point. Thank you. I would say the same goes for heterosexuals.
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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That might make sense in the political sense of the day, however I see no reason as a christian to give homosexuals an inch of recognition or the impression that their sin is OK to a tiniest degree.
I see what you're saying. However, in my experience, most people who identify themselves as gay honestly don't care what the church says is "sin" or not. We could pass a law allowing gays to get married, and even call it a "sinful marriage," and as long as it had all the legal rights, they wouldn't care. Do you know what I mean? I mean, yes, it's sad that they don't care about going to hell ... and yes, we should absolutely talk to them about the Good News of Jesus Christ, and never stop preaching, with the hope that some day they will repent and be saved. But between today and the day they are saved, they deserve civil rights. They should not be denied civil rights just because they're sinners.

However, as for homosexuality is concerned on all the level it affects one needs to remember that it's not only mentioned as a sin in scripture, but also as something that is an abomination,
Sorry, but I've got YOU on this one.

You know what other sins are labeled as "abominations"? Among other things, eating unclean foods, and wearing cloth of mixed fibers (such as cotton-poly blend, or anything with a zipper or snap). Do you really want to go there?

So you say that eating bacon is worse than murder? Really?
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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What I'm trying to argue is that perhaps the Bible is outdated when it comes to certain customs. It was written over a thousand years ago, when people lived very different lives to very different standards. Although much of the Bible is still very relevant today, I'm not sure we should be applying all of its moralities onto present day life. After all, Lot himself had incestuous relationships with his own duaghters - the very same family who were deemed by God to be worth saving from Sodom & Gomorrah (even ahead of the innocent babies and children who must also have perished with the two cities). Does this mean it's right to have sex with our own family members, because it's an action performed by the chosen of God? Of course not!!! As I say - different times, different moral codes.
Well said, my friend. Can I get an "Amen"?!
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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You're comparing apples to diesel trucks. The bible has no condemnations of only having one arm, nor can any argument be inferred.
Some people asked Jesus about this. A man was born blind. Who was a sinner to cause that: him or his parents? Nothing new under the sun, huh?

We're really not "more enlightened".
You may be right.
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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I would say the Bible is way more than a "myth." That is not to say that it is always intended to be taken literally.

1. Jesus is God.
2. Jesus spoke in Parables.
3. God wrote the Bible, including the Old Testament.
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4. The Bible, including the Old Testament, is full of stories, allegories, parables, and yes, myth. It is beautiful myth, because its author is the Most High. To call it Myth is not to diminish or belittle it. On the contrary, it is highest praise.

Now, if you don't think the Bible includes myth, please explain to me which of statements 1-3 above is false. If 1-3 are true, there is no reason to doubt #4.

If you wish to believe the Bible is literal, you are certainly welcome to believe so. I will even fight for your right to believe that. We have freedom of religion in this nation, and if your religion includes a literal interpretation of Scripture, then you should absolutely worship and believe as you see fit. I simply wish to point out that it is completely consistent with orthodox Christianity to accept a non-literal interpretation of Scripture. To reject literalism is not to reject Scripture.

As I said before, as an apologist, I won't throw out Scripture just because I don't like it. However, if something in Scripture contradicts something else, I will seek an interpretation that allows consistency and congruence.
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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ok - but clearly it is not being consistent is it? after all I am in the church and have sin. .as does the leaders. .so im conmfused as to how you think the church is being consistent and honest?
That's a good point. So which sins are not okay, and which are?
 

tribesman

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I see what you're saying. However, in my experience, most people who identify themselves as gay honestly don't care what the church says is "sin" or not. We could pass a law allowing gays to get married, and even call it a "sinful marriage," and as long as it had all the legal rights, they wouldn't care. Do you know what I mean? I mean, yes, it's sad that they don't care about going to hell ... and yes, we should absolutely talk to them about the Good News of Jesus Christ, and never stop preaching, with the hope that some day they will repent and be saved. But between today and the day they are saved, they deserve civil rights. They should not be denied civil rights just because they're sinners.
I cannot see any "deserve" here at all, although I can certainly hear what you are saying. In a liberal, secular, modern, pluralist, democratic society it could be argued that why should not gays have the same rights as every other minority and eventually as the majority, since modern democracy usually rests on the idea that all should be "equal". However, there are numerous problems with this position even in a society such as mentioned. Some of which have been discussed already. So this suggestion is not justified or proven valid just because of circumstances in the society where it is to be implicated. All the negative effects of recognizing gay behavior as an acceptable alternative lifestyle will undoubtly surface regardless of which form of political and social system a society is based on. My view is pretty theonomic so I'm biased of course, but I believe any reasonable christian view ought to be that the more civil society is based on biblical law the better.

Sorry, but I've got YOU on this one.

You know what other sins are labeled as "abominations"? Among other things, eating unclean foods, and wearing cloth of mixed fibers (such as cotton-poly blend, or anything with a zipper or snap). Do you really want to go there?

So you say that eating bacon is worse than murder? Really?
Ahh, I just waited for this kind of argument ... I see what you are saying, but you are wrong here. One cannot use scripture this way you have did it above without making much injustice both to scripture itself and a plausible exegesis of it. The word translated abomination in the OT of the english bibles (stemming from two different words in hebrew, with variations) is used in various contexts and with diverse implications. Mixing fabric (primarily in garments used in worship) is not said to be an abomination, although indeed there's a law against it. But as you've also mentioned unclean meats, they are named such for example in Lev.11. Those who touch or eat same would become unclean. But notice that this uncleaness will only last until evening, and such person could eat even of the "holy things" if having a purifying bath (Lev.22:5-7). It is not said that those who eat such would become abominations. And there is no talk of such person having any blood guilt, being worthy of the death penalty, or that such behavior indicates reprobation (sent as a punishment by God for his sins). So to compare this, albeit sin, with practised homosexual sin is not making up an equal. Eating bacon is not also equal with murder, since eating bacon did not cause blood guilt or made someone worthy of the death penalty.

Other examples there be of abomination in scripture of course, one such is souls who justify the wicked, and condemn the just (Prov.17:15). One example of this is undoubtly people who JUSTIFY wicked souls who proudly live in homosexual sin. Such persons becomes abominations before God and are as such equally guilty as the wicked that they justify. Automatically these abominable souls, who justify the wicked, will of course also condemn the just. That is, they will condemn those who rightly tells the truth about the sins of the wicked and who condemn these sins. Paul (in NT) said that souls who lived in homosexual sins are "worthy of death", also notice that the same goes for them that "have pleasure in them that do them", including those who justify and enable these abominations (Rom.1:32). Serious indeed.

Maybe we need to look briefly at relevant application of biblical law. It could be argued that all laws applying to morality would stand even after the cross and thus apply to all people,.not only jews, and that the sinaitic laws (primarily dealing with ceremonial issues) were specifically for the jews as long as they had the temple standing and also after that not to cause a stumbling block to their non-believing kinsmen. The question then is what are these moral laws? Are sexual behaviors applicable? Yes. Food? Yes, it could be argued, but there's also a good argument for a variety between jew and gentile here. As a side note, I personally don't eat unclean foods (for health reasons there are many blessings and benefits with that), however I do not see this as binding upon people who are not jews or israelites. The first apostles were almost all jews. At the time of Paul they gathered in Jerusalem to discuss how the gentile believers should relate themselves to the ceremonial aspect of the law. There it was concluded that gentile believers did not have to abide by the same principles as the jewish believers did in all. But it was said that they were not to eat food offered to idols, not to eat blood, not to eat strangled food and not fornicating (Acts 15:19-20) WIth this said, the rest is easy to spot as the NT frequently repeats commandments that were given in NT. As we can see homosexual sin is condemned in several instances in NT, for example in Rom.1 and 1Cor.6:9-10,1Tim.1:10, Rev.22:15 etc.

So here it has been shown that active homosexual behavior is sin (Lev.18:22), an abomination (Lev.18:22), something that causes blood guilt (Lev.20:13), something that God requires the physical death penalty for (Lev.20:13, Rom.1.32) and sometimes it's even a sign of reprobation (Rom.1:18-32). Five negatives that it does not share with any other sin in scripture (correct me if this be wrong). This means that this sin is something of a dividing line in many fields. Will you understand the seriousness of advocating such "gay rights" as suggested, just because much of contemporary christianity is hypocrital as it singles out homosexual sin while being dead silent about other sins, and just because modern secular society at large has sprinkled down "rights" on almost every thing, person or group imaginable? No christian should be indifferent let alone positive about it.

Fear God. Maybe that's something to consider?
 
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TheGrungeDiva

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The thing is, we DO live in a democratic republic. If you want to live in a theocracy, I invite you to move to one. Israel is one. So is Saudi Arabia. There are a few out there you might enjoy. But the US is not one, and I am reasonably certain that the more you try to push it that way, the more pushing you'll see, not just from atheists and other non-Christians, but also from Christians who belong to minority Christian denominations who founded this nation exactly to get away from the Church-State issues.

As far as the Biblical gymnastics you must go through to justify your interpretation, I have no further comment. I don't know if you realize how far you are twisting Scripture, ignoring some passages, twisting others, re-interpreting to fit your personal bias, but I do know that honest Biblical scholars recognize that for what it is.

As others have said, as far as I have read, no one in this thread have argued that homosexuality is not a sin. But to try to "rank" some sins as worse than others, claiming that you're not as bad as "that guy over there" because your sins aren't so bad, that reeks of self-righteousness. And Jesus had a lot to say about that.
 

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The thing is, we DO live in a democratic republic. If you want to live in a theocracy, I invite you to move to one. Israel is one. So is Saudi Arabia. There are a few out there you might enjoy. But the US is not one, and I am reasonably certain that the more you try to push it that way, the more pushing you'll see, not just from atheists and other non-Christians, but also from Christians who belong to minority Christian denominations who founded this nation exactly to get away from the Church-State issues.
Is this how you want to defend your suggestion that gay marriages are OK?

As far as the Biblical gymnastics you must go through to justify your interpretation, I have no further comment. I don't know if you realize how far you are twisting Scripture, ignoring some passages, twisting others, re-interpreting to fit your personal bias, but I do know that honest Biblical scholars recognize that for what it is.
No gymnastics at all, it's a systematical take on what the Bible says on the issue. Many scholars would affirm the same thing. Then there are those who have different opinion, of course. But check out when these people came up on the scene in church history, and do the math. By the way, why do you say you have "no further comment" and then the next thing you say is that I am twisting scripture to suit my own bias etc. If you think I am wrong and you think you know what is right, then you should SHOW clearly what is right to help those who you think err. Otherwise it's just fair to plainly say you have given nothing but your own opinion.

As others have said, as far as I have read, no one in this thread have argued that homosexuality is not a sin. But to try to "rank" some sins as worse than others, claiming that you're not as bad as "that guy over there" because your sins aren't so bad, that reeks of self-righteousness. And Jesus had a lot to say about that.
Not ranking it at all. And certainly not saying I am not as bad as "that guy over there". Nonsense! Straw man. No sin should be justified, that's how I see it. It is not me but you who are saying that active homosexuals should be no problem as so many other sins are tolerated. I am simply saying what the scripture is saying. What we are discussing here is this suggestion you have come up with. And to that I say that it makes no sense to come up with anything short of such if you really believe that practised homosexuality is a sin. If you believe that then you should not want to justify it in any way, shape or form. As long as you suggest "gay rights", then you are justifying such sins, whatever you say.
 
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mori

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However, in my experience, most people who identify themselves as gay honestly don't care what the church says is "sin" or not. We could pass a law allowing gays to get married, and even call it a "sinful marriage," and as long as it had all the legal rights, they wouldn't care.
I don't want to disagree with you in a thread in which you're doing the majority of the heavy lifting on our behalf, but I think this deserves a note.

I can't speak for everyone, obviously. Personally, however, I want the legal protections and acceptance from my neighbors. If I have to choose one over the other, and I feel I do, I want the legal protections. I suspect this is what most people mean when they say they "don't care." I do care deeply, as I hope my continued presence here demonstrates, but I'm also pragmatic.

Do you know what I mean? I mean, yes, it's sad that they don't care about going to hell ... and yes, we should absolutely talk to them about the Good News of Jesus Christ, and never stop preaching, with the hope that some day they will repent and be saved.
The Christian message to homosexuals lacks authenticity and power for a variety of reasons, so repetition won't accomplish much, I imagine.

First, Christians expect us to respond favorably to a script. I think about the young Christian who discovers apologetics, learns a handful of arguments, and ends up never again having a real conversation with another human being. It's terrible to watch as his universe becomes nothing more than an opportunity to try out his version of the telephone solicitor handbook. Jimmydiggs in this thread is a good example of this; I watched with a mixture of amusement and disappointment as he kept on trying to construe the conversation in ways that would fall neatly into one of his familiar textbook arguments.

Second, many of us have histories with the Christian body and have observed that, as you note in this thread, Christians are more concerned with the management of homosexuality than many, if not all, other sins. We know how much money Christian churches have spent on us while ignoring the question of many other more societally destructive sins, the poor, etc. We do not believe the Christian obsession with the legislation of homosexuality has anything to do with the Bible; this is just a convenient excuse which, were it true, would manifest in other ways.

Finally, we're often told, directly or obliquely, that we can't understand or agree or that any disagreement must come from our misunderstanding. Jimmy is again a good example here, quoting 1 Corinthians 2:14 in a one-liner without commentary. I believe, however, that I know the Bible better than many Christians and its conclusions are relatively straightforward as far as it concerns homosexuality. It's not that I don't understand, that I lack some sort of enlightenment, but that I think it's wrong on this. The Reformed have an easy out built into their theology (and they exercise it so frequently that it characterizes their attempts at evangelism) but your average believer should know better.
 
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I should add some qualifiers, by the way. When I say Christians, I mean most Christians I have personally interacted with. Not all, however. I once spoke to a Catholic ex-monk who had taken over the RCIA program at the local parish. I was considering the possibility of becoming Catholic but, as a relatively honest person, didn't want to come into communion under false pretenses. I talked for a while about my questions and struggle and he asked me if I understood what the Catholic church taught about homosexuality. I explained as best I could - I even referenced encyclicals.

He said I'd clearly done my homework and that he didn't have anything to add about it. Then, and I'll remember this for as long as I live, he sat back and shrugged. He pointed to one of the other catechumens, who was out of earshot, and said she was prone to outbursts of irrational anger. She hadn't confessed it to him - we'd all observed it in practice.

"She'll get in. And you won't."

I spent a lot of time in confession with him. Not sacramental, of course, but confession nevertheless. That's the first time a Christian has let me talk about my anger, my fear and disgust of the homeless, my (mostly latent but nevertheless real) racism and sexism...

He encouraged me to continue in prayer, to continue struggling, to continue in ruthless honesty, and never give in to easy answers. Honestly, it's the first time I'd felt I had a genuine conversation with a Christian. I'd heard The Gospel(tm) a thousand times, but I'd only rarely experienced it. With him, I felt a little like the Samaritan at the well. How different from those Way of the Master zealots, the cage-stage Calvinists...

Anyway. That's my qualifier.