Thanks gotime for bringing up a subject which is of most importance. Love gets ignored and distorted, as if it is a taboo subject, whether one is spiritually minded or not. As with many of the responses here, the focus is 3rd person to it at least, interesting love isn't even mentioned in their comments, like it is some kind of icky word. But it really is all about love, it is that simple. We humans like to complicate things, and in that, encounter our own complex problems.
Love is a state of mind, love is a perspective, love is the way, the truth and the life, and without it, you cannot see God, you cannot know God.
What point is ALL of your own developed intelligence, if you do not place LOVE, as the highest intelligence. And what/who is the highest intelligence? God of course. God is love. And if you do not love, the same way God loves you, then you are out of union with God. If you align yourself with love, you align yourself with God, and the commandments come through you 'naturally'. If you have love as a higher intelligence than your own, you don't look at the commandment like they are rules to follow and that makes you a good person and God loves you 'BETTER THAN THEM'. You get my point? This is how the ego which places itself as the highest intelligence views things, it compares itself. The commandments so to speak are a pointer to where you are in yourself.
I see God, I see love, I see Jesus, in various people, and they don't necessarily have to be Christian for me to say that. Maybe even a child hasn't become 'religious' yet, so then, why do people see more of these attributes in them, than they do in each other who have grown an adult belief system that is more important than the natural state of God that we were all born with, in God's image?
Judgement is the block to love. That is why, our enemies have something to teach us. If we cannot love our enemies, and therefore see them as friends (whether we keep them close or stay from them in peace), then don't we judge them as enemies, and therefore we are not align to God, or the holy spirit?
I work on my judgements every day, they are the greatest challenge right? All our experiences, our fears, our self-doubt, all of these are what creates an outer world of apparent enemies, danger, hostility.
However there are two types of judgement, carnal judgement, and spiritual judgement. If one lacks self-awareness, they will be stuck with carnal judgement, because they will lack empathy and the ability to put themselves in someone else's shoes. Empathy is something we were all born with too. And when we kill our soul, in different ways, mainly through sin, and that can even be self-pity, or seeing yourself as a victim (to an enemy that you do not love because you do not forgive) we start to lose our empathy. This is something I've observed in people as they get older, I've been observing it since I was a child.
To me, becoming an adult is part of a dysfunction of man, that takes people away from God. Our mind grows, it experiences, pain, suffering ESPECIALLY to do with love, someone we lost, someone who hurt us, someone who lied to us. But how do people cope with it? Do they turn to God and become more loving people, or do they build more walls and decide who is the enemy? And they may read the bible a hundred times, or be the best at quoting scripture, or they may always have a biblical answer to everything, but DO THEY HAVE A LOVING ANSWER?
I say that becoming an adult (is there some kind of transformation like caterpillar/butterfly? I don't think so), is part of the dysfunction of man, because this is exactly what Jesus was saying when he said 'only by becoming like this child can you enter the kingdom of heaven.' Yes only, by becoming like the child you were born, again, are you born again. Now there will be certain people who won't want to give a loving response to that. They developed a different coping strategy which was to follow the crowd, to follow the congregation, to put God on a pedestal, and Jesus on a pedestal. Why do people worship false idols, or become stuck in idolatry? Because getting stuck in idolatry gives them a purpose. Gods purpose however, is for us to be filled with love. That we be filled with love in a way that the commandments are natural to us, not like we had a though about breaking one but we were a good boy because we resisted doing it. The sin has already occurred in the mind.
Sin happens because of the absence of love. People hurt others because of a lack of love. People become monsters because of a lack of love. And how are we supposed to cure that? By being loving in the face of evil. Love is more powerful than evil, because God is love. Fear is not love, but it will come out in our judgements, and our judgements will come out wrapped around some self status of superiority, self-righteousness. You know those type of people right? They have an answer for everything, but not particularly a loving answer. They will say that being corrective is loving. No this is self-intelligent design, it's not God's design. And their perfect weapon? They will take your words and turn them against you, very self-intelligent design. When you observe this in people, you know this is one of them.
But I ask, which is more important to love God without loving others so much (self-importance, misguided as being selfless), or to love people as God loves you (selfless in the way others come first). Most importantly do you think God loves you, despite your flaws?