Maybe you should boast in Christ because you do not understand .
I'm not the aunthenticator of what God does but at least i can boast that i understand what is being said here.
The mysteries are to men, not God and of course if you babble in front of me, it is mystery to me. You can only love God by loving others, there's no such thing as loving and speaking directly to God while speaking mysteries to fellow men. If you speak mysteries to me, you do not love me and don't fool yourself for a minute by thinking that you love God. You have to love me (others) and speak things that i will understand (my edification), and only in this way will you be showing love to God.
You have no grasp of what Paul is saying here.
Q. How is self edification not self seeking?
The mysteries are to men, not God and of course if you babble in front of me, it is mystery to me. You can only love God by loving others, there's no such thing as loving and speaking directly to God while speaking mysteries to fellow men. If you speak mysteries to me, you do not love me and don't fool yourself for a minute by thinking that you love God. You have to love me (others) and speak things that i will understand (my edification), and only in this way will you be showing love to God.
You have no grasp of what Paul is saying here.
Q. How is self edification not self seeking?
"If you speak mysteries to me, you do not love me and don't fool yourself for a minute by thinking that you love God. "
1cor 13 is instructing the church that operation and use of the gifts are not self-serving and the motivation to use them is for the betterment of all. That is what 1cor chapter 12 says the gifts are for. Your humanist understanding that caused you to think if ones speak mysteries to you, and there is no understanding to you the hearer it is not showing you love, I would agree IF verse 5 were not written. That is why tongues have to be interpreted. Then is does edify exhort and comfort . as 1cor 14 states.