dothackzero:
The "I'm a victim", self-pity mentality, comes from the devil. It is what he uses to keep you trapped in fear. What the enemy does is convinces you that you need to hold on to self-pity in order to protect yourself or to justify the fear in you. But you aren't the one who put the fear in you in the first place. The enemy put it in you and convinced you that you needed fear to cope with your surroundings, otherwise it wouldn't be safe and you wouldn't be able to handle rejection from others. This is the reason you are holding on to your fear. These lies of the devil keep you afraid to let go of your coping mechanisms(fear) when you are around people, and all that needs to happen is that you break your agreement with these lies and embrace the truth that you are a dearly Loved son of God. You have a Father that cares for you dearly in heaven, and it is safe to approach Him and be under His protection. Your identity as a person has nothing to do with what people think of you and everything to do with what God thinks of you.
When you practice getting your self-esteem and identity from your Father in heaven, it won't even matter what people think of you, because your security is no longer in people, but in Him. My intention is not for you to feel guilty about this or feel attacked, but to write about things that I have observed from the things you have written. I write this in Love, as something I feel God showed me, with the hopes it will help you figure out why you are in your current condition.
Much Love,
Matthew