I thought I was justified in blaming my abusive foster parents for my screwed up life.
Nope! Holding grudges & playing the blame-game was literally killing me! I had to learn (actually still learning) through professional counseling how to work through all of the pain, how to forgive for real, how to establish boundaries in my life and deal with people in matter-of-fact ways rather than reacting from impulsiveness and false perceptions.
As I said, I'm still learning, praise the Lord! \
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