Isn’t it human nature to want to have something that is uniquely your own and show it off? Or in the case of the pastors wife I mentioned...she feels ignored by the husband being the church and draws attention to herself quietly by ‘speaking’ in tongues. Which is what I was getting at. I can’t know everyone’s reason for speaking in tongues..but I would argue if everyone speaks the same language at church..then is there ever a reason to speak in tongues?
How are tongues unique to one person? Do you suppose Peter was showing off? Maybe Paul?
About the Pastor's wife. Have you personally spoken to her and has she told you that she feels ignored and desires to have attention?
If not, are you gossiping about her? Or did you decide that all on your own? Are you a counsellor that the Pastor's wife has confided these things to you?
You know, unless you approach what scripture states from a perspective of being open to what is actually written, it seems you are going to stick with your own narrative. Sadly, that appears to include the Pastor's wife, whom, it would seem, you look upon with disdain.
Do you know why the Holy Spirit was given to indwell believers? Perhaps start there. Use scripture to find the answer to that one and maybe you might begin to understand why it is so important.
God has determined to give the gifts. YOU nor I, do not decide whether or not tongues are valid. There is actually a number of very good reasons to have the gift of tongues. However, if you insist your reasoning overrides any biblical instruction, then that is how you will continue.
Again, I have no desire to convince anyone to speak in tongues. If I had a desire, it would be for people to receive proper instruction and that from SCRIPTURE.