Ultra bored with my church

[JeremiahsCup]

I love my church family and friends and love my church, but man I am getting bored with it.
It's mostly elderlies, and children and there just isn't anything there for me to do.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy listening to my elderly friends share their experiences, but I prefer that sitting on a porch or lawn chair with a jar of tea.
Pastor preaches good messages and only once have I disagreed with something he preached and the was such a minor thing that it ain't worth discussion. It's just that there isn't any place to grow.
I even tried to play with the worship team, and at one time loved playing music, but I don't care to anymore.
It's kind of sad, but I may have to find someplace else to go, in order to be challenged, and have a place to grow. I want to learn more, and share what I have learned.

Well I would say disagree more with them then. As counter-intuitive as that sounds, the debate adds spice. For my church we have a Bible Study Group, I'm the lone millennial, so I understand what you mean by being surrounded by people ain't your peers being a lil awkward. I find the boomers love it if you are young and have read your Bible and can actually hold your own. Granted for me the Bible Study leader is the brother of my neighbor so we can kinda discuss and debate a lil more intimately since we know eachother out of the church doors, but if you been at the church for a while I imagine you probably know some of the people. You just have to find the right service for it, of course you can't be going back and forth during a main service, but at like a Bible Study type setting, spice that up, turn it from a boring lecture into a true discussion. I think you'll have more fun and so will the old people, and to boot you'll get to learn some more of the Bible as it is a lot more easy to learn if you are engaged rather than just passively having wind blown in your face.

 

[Locoponydirtman]

Mmmm, the first thing that comes to my mind is, what are your reasons for attending church? Entertainment? A sense of personal fulfillment? Enjoying the fellowship of like-minded individuals? What do all of these have in common?
We should not attend church to receive something, dear one, but to offer our worship and service to our Creator, the lover of our souls. Put your heart into "give mode" before you give up on your church family. Give it a try. Just sayin.
Maybe you could start a youth outreach? Instead of jumping ship, maybe you would be the one the Lord would use to bring in more young people to your Church. Be the change.

Welcome to the forum.
Did you bother read what I wrote or just impose your emotions on what I wrote?

 

[Locoponydirtman]

Well I would say disagree more with them then. As counter-intuitive as that sounds, the debate adds spice. For my church we have a Bible Study Group, I'm the lone millennial, so I understand what you mean by being surrounded by people ain't your peers being a lil awkward. I find the boomers love it if you are young and have read your Bible and can actually hold your own. Granted for me the Bible Study leader is the brother of my neighbor so we can kinda discuss and debate a lil more intimately since we know eachother out of the church doors, but if you been at the church for a while I imagine you probably know some of the people. You just have to find the right service for it, of course you can't be going back and forth during a main service, but at like a Bible Study type setting, spice that up, turn it from a boring lecture into a true discussion. I think you'll have more fun and so will the old people, and to boot you'll get to learn some more of the Bible as it is a lot more easy to learn if you are engaged rather than just passively having wind blown in your face.

It's kind of hard for me to ruffle elderlies, but I did enjoy what you wrote, and I could imagine if they were not quite so elderly it might be fun to challenge them some.

 

[JeremiahsCup]

It's kind of hard for me to ruffle elderlies, but I did enjoy what you wrote, and I could imagine if they were not quite so elderly it might be fun to challenge them some.

Oh you're just being passive man. I mean you don't have to like scream at em or nothing, but you can stick out a lil. I don't necessarily mean you have to like heatedly argue, heck you don't even have to necessarily disagree to just parse out a discussion. The older folk love it, their generation wasn't so snowflakey, cagey, and snakey as our generation, so they like it if you actually talk. I mean heck a lot the older people survived that Vietnam War, a lil talk ain't gonna give em a heart attack.

 

[FollowingtheLamb]

Welcome to the forum.
Did you bother read what I wrote or just impose your emotions on what I wrote?

I did read what you wrote. I'm sorry for offending you brother(?). I wish you the best, and I beg your pa

Welcome to the forum.
Did you bother read what I wrote or just impose your emotions on what I wrote?

I'm sorry for offending you. And yes, I did read your post. No imposition of any kind was intended. Sometimes I do make the mistake of casting my pearls.....where they are not wanted. God bless.

 

[FollowingtheLamb]

Off track, this is about the roll of church in my life, not all the wondrous works that one could engage in.

That pretty much says it all.

 

[Judges1318]

You just have to find the right service for it, of course you can't be going back and forth during a main service, but at like a Bible Study type setting, spice that up, turn it from a boring lecture into a true discussion. I think you'll have more fun and so will the old people, and to boot you'll get to learn some more of the Bible as it is a lot more easy to learn if you are engaged rather than just passively having wind blown in your face.

 

[Locoponydirtman]

I did read what you wrote. I'm sorry for offending you brother(?). I wish you the best, and I beg your pa

I'm sorry for offending you. And yes, I did read your post. No imposition of any kind was intended. Sometimes I do make the mistake of casting my pearls.....where they are not wanted. God bless.

You never have to apologise to me, I am never offended.
My point is that my post actually does answer all your questions.
But we as humans often filter those words through our emotions.
Not anger not offense.

 

[Judges1318]

You just have to find the right service for it, of course you can't be going back and forth during a main service, but at like a Bible Study type setting, spice that up, turn it from a boring lecture into a true discussion. I think you'll have more fun and so will the old people, and to boot you'll get to learn some more of the Bible as it is a lot more easy to learn if you are engaged rather than just passively having wind blown in your face.

The pastor will have more fun too.
They need inspiration just like we do.
Discussion does that.
Cold dead liturgy? Not so much.

 

[Locoponydirtman]

That pretty much says it all.

You have no idea what works I engage in outside of my church, which is the context of this statement. Which is off topic of the OP.
Once again caught up in the filter of your emotions. Rather than content and context. It's a bad idea to stay so emotive. So we can back up and start again or you can stay in your emotions.

 

[Dave-L]

I love my church family and friends and love my church, but man I am getting bored with it.
It's mostly elderlies, and children and there just isn't anything there for me to do.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy listening to my elderly friends share their experiences, but I prefer that sitting on a porch or lawn chair with a jar of tea.
Pastor preaches good messages and only once have I disagreed with something he preached and the was such a minor thing that it ain't worth discussion. It's just that there isn't any place to grow.
I even tried to play with the worship team, and at one time loved playing music, but I don't care to anymore.
It's kind of sad, but I may have to find someplace else to go, in order to be challenged, and have a place to grow. I want to learn more, and share what I have learned.

I think the greatest challenge is to live the Sermon on the Mount no matter what church you attend. And enjoy the fellowship while in church. Being around those who love people by nature gives you a chance to touch base with reality. And helps keep the world in its place.

 

[Timothy5378]

If one looks at the men who wrote the NT and their women counterparts that lived along side them and certainly Christ one will see they were moving around in teams...and constantly preaching the gospel and God's Word reaching out to others 24/7/365

How we ever ended up with Sunday morning building religion I'm not sure...but only a third of Americans attend church and it would seem the Devil has gotten everyone almost to think that attending the Sunday service is the main thing....Jesus was drug out of Nazareth to the cliff to be killed from his home synagogue...The leaders in the temple had the same reaction...so from experience you get faith like Christ wants the system will never be enough

The solution is doing and living the NT... and that means going out each day helping spread the gospel and winning souls...giving time and money to do it...

Loving the word and seeing that the system is corrupt and failing today as it was in Christ's time...finding others to read and live with and be with each day in the Lord...some find it joining a ministry like Hudson's etc...but really mastering the whole Bible and spreading that...

Praying and doing every verse...

Once a person really loves God and His Word going to church may just make you mad that a system like that was ever to come about...

We preach Christ crucified...not church

The NT was not about building buildings and getting people to come to my building to listen to my pastor...it was about breaking bread and living and working all The time with other believers to one's death

I hope this helps...most people are lost...so there are plenty of lost to share the gospel and God's Word with...then to say come to my church...people don't have to do church to be saved...for some that may be good for them now...but to a real hungry person it does not work...

You fill your days reaching out you will meet people
..lots and they you can be with in homes or...etc and talk and share life with them...not a seat next to someone you may not know for an hour one day a week

GOD BLESS YOU

 

[ForestGreenCook]

I love my church family and friends and love my church, but man I am getting bored with it.
It's mostly elderlies, and children and there just isn't anything there for me to do.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy listening to my elderly friends share their experiences, but I prefer that sitting on a porch or lawn chair with a jar of tea.
Pastor preaches good messages and only once have I disagreed with something he preached and the was such a minor thing that it ain't worth discussion. It's just that there isn't any place to grow.
I even tried to play with the worship team, and at one time loved playing music, but I don't care to anymore.
It's kind of sad, but I may have to find someplace else to go, in order to be challenged, and have a place to grow. I want to learn more, and share what I have learned.

It has been my observation that a lot of church goers are going to be entertained, instead of going to grow in the knowledge of the word. In my learning of how the early church started off, The first split was over to pastors disagreement in following, only what the scriptures authorized in church worship, which is singing (making melody in your heart, without musical instruments), praying, and preaching. The other pastor wanted to add several other means of attracting bigger congregations, even to the point of offer to entice them with money, and other means of entertainment. This information is not spelled out in the scriptures, but a lot of today's worshipers seem to follow that pattern. Newborn babes in Christ will grow up spiritually malnourished if they do not feed upon the knowledge of the word.

Isaiah 28:9-10, Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breast. For precept must be upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little, and there a little. Most of the newborn babes in Christ never mature enough to digest the meat of the word, and are preaching, and teaching false doctrines.

 

[ForestGreenCook]

I think the greatest challenge is to live the Sermon on the Mount no matter what church you attend. And enjoy the fellowship while in church. Being around those who love people by nature gives you a chance to touch base with reality. And helps keep the world in its place.

I agree with you. The second greatest commandment, following to love your God, with all your heart, soul, and mind, is to "love your neighbor as yourself".

 

[ForestGreenCook]

If one looks at the men who wrote the NT and their women counterparts that lived along side them and certainly Christ one will see they were moving around in teams...and constantly preaching the gospel and God's Word reaching out to others 24/7/365

How we ever ended up with Sunday morning building religion I'm not sure...but only a third of Americans attend church and it would seem the Devil has gotten everyone almost to think that attending the Sunday service is the main thing....Jesus was drug out of Nazareth to the cliff to be killed from his home synagogue...The leaders in the temple had the same reaction...so from experience you get faith like Christ wants the system will never be enough

The solution is doing and living the NT... and that means going out each day helping spread the gospel and winning souls...giving time and money to do it...

Loving the word and seeing that the system is corrupt and failing today as it was in Christ's time...finding others to read and live with and be with each day in the Lord...some find it joining a ministry like Hudson's etc...but really mastering the whole Bible and spreading that...

Praying and doing every verse...

Once a person really loves God and His Word going to church may just make you mad that a system like that was ever to come about...

We preach Christ crucified...not church

The NT was not about building buildings and getting people to come to my building to listen to my pastor...it was about breaking bread and living and working all The time with other believers to one's death

I hope this helps...most people are lost...so there are plenty of lost to share the gospel and God's Word with...then to say come to my church...people don't have to do church to be saved...for some that may be good for them now...but to a real hungry person it does not work...

You fill your days reaching out you will meet people
..lots and they you can be with in homes or...etc and talk and share life with them...not a seat next to someone you may not know for an hour one day a week

GOD BLESS YOU

Heb 10:25, Not forsaking the assembling of yourselves together, as the manner of some is.

 

[Timothy5378]

IT DOES NOT SAY THAT YOU ASSEMBLE ON SUNDAY THE WAY CHURCH BUILDING RELIGION DOES TODAY...THAT IS NOT WHAT WAS IN THE NT AT ALL

 

[ForestGreenCook]

IT DOES NOT SAY THAT YOU ASSEMBLE ON SUNDAY THE WAY CHURCH BUILDING RELIGION DOES TODAY...THAT IS NOT WHAT WAS IN THE NT AT ALL

I admit that the church, is not a building, and the early church met in each others houses. but having a designated place to worship together is convenient, and practical.

 

[Locoponydirtman]

It has been my observation that a lot of church goers are going to be entertained, instead of going to grow in the knowledge of the word. In my learning of how the early church started off, The first split was over to pastors disagreement in following, only what the scriptures authorized in church worship, which is singing (making melody in your heart, without musical instruments), praying, and preaching. The other pastor wanted to add several other means of attracting bigger congregations, even to the point of offer to entice them with money, and other means of entertainment. This information is not spelled out in the scriptures, but a lot of today's worshipers seem to follow that pattern. Newborn babes in Christ will grow up spiritually malnourished if they do not feed upon the knowledge of the word.

Isaiah 28:9-10, Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breast. For precept must be upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little, and there a little. Most of the newborn babes in Christ never mature enough to digest the meat of the word, and are preaching, and teaching false doctrines.

Are you saying that the reasons that I gave are not my reasons, that I am lying? Are you accusing me of seeking entertainment rather than what I said was the problem? I loathe revivalism so don't accuse me of it.


Please don't address me if you are going to completely ignore what I actually said.

 

[Locoponydirtman]

IT DOES NOT SAY THAT YOU ASSEMBLE ON SUNDAY THE WAY CHURCH BUILDING RELIGION DOES TODAY...THAT IS NOT WHAT WAS IN THE NT AT ALL

Who are you shouting at?
What is your point?

 

[Aerials1978]

Perhaps you’re not getting the spiritual food you need. Is the preaching soft?