See, now, that's part of the problem. God set things in an order and that order has been reversed. Just like everything else in this world. Relationships are a partnership, but one has to lead and the other support in order to move in the right direction. God gave that lead role to man (it was Adam before Eve). And that's not to say that a woman shouldn't take advantage of the opportunities of today. But if you're going to be in a relationship with someone, the man should take the lead.
That stuff about the hair and jewelry - harlots and whores have a certain dress and bling that's been consistent thru all generations. The point of these passages is, don't dress like the harlots and whores. Don't act like them either.
There's no reason you need to dress like an Amish woman, there's no reason you need to kneel to every man who crosses your path. Do your part, and let your man be your lead if and when you find one.