What is the godly way to deal with anger ?

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Mooky

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Something about the people that you describe in your op make you insecure about yourself. Instead of facing whatever that insecurity and or fear is in you, you focus on what you perceive to be fault in them. Like Danalee said, anger is generally a secondary emotion with fear/insecurity as it underlying cause. If I was to guess it has something to do with your family of origin in an unresolved conflict.

Well , I don't know if this is true ...but I am seeing a therapist , so I will certainly bring this possibility to the fore.Thanks for your input.Much appreciated.
 
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danalee

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You're welcome.

I've had the same thing to deal with, to be quite honest with you. Sometimes I refuse to go on facebook because while I'm struggling to live day to day (like the last week when I had no food for two days and was so thankful for the fresh bread, yes bread, someone bought me).

I sat there for a minute and thought, I am actually praising God to the high ends of heaven for this: bread.

It was like a rite of passage or something. haha

God loves you, he loves you enough to ask you to trust in his personal revelations to you from his work in your life.
Yeah, that was an incomplete sentence. I had to sleep on the floor last night because I moved all my stuff in storage, which meant no sleep. I am now officially homeless. YAY

Yet, would you even guess that in the past two days every prayer that was an earnest need was answered, and as they were answered the more I praised it turned into things I didn't pray for but unexpectedly happened in my favor.

So I'm actually way ahead of where I feared I'd be. It's just ridiculous how he works to bring me to a level, which brings humility, so in that he can reveal his glory. This is how I work, if things go my way and I have power, I think my life is good because I'm good at life. When I'm stripped of all power and my life is contingent on God helping me, I have these beautiful moments with him where I feel absolutely thankful and this lifts me out of the darkness. The greatest gift he can give us in the belief in him and his love.

This is my deepest fear, and he works on my disbelief in the way I will respond. And this is one stubborn gal right here.

Alright, I'm going back to bed, er floor. God bless.
 
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Sirk

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If you could put on the perspective.....this person makes me uncomfortable....why is that......they are in my life to help me grow to be more like Jesus.....then you will have better relationships. Ask God in your quiet time...what is it in me that makes me feel this way? Then listen for His answer. Blessings to you friend. :)
 
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Mooky

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Wow ! what amazing ppl are on cc.!!!Thanks to all who posted in this thread.It has given me much to ponder :)
 
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Sirk

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Wow ! what amazing ppl are on cc.!!!Thanks to all who posted in this thread.It has given me much to ponder :)
BTW...great job going to therapy. Even the best parents will put us in that chair one day.
 

john832

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Do you compare yourself to others?
Very good question to ask here...

2Co 10:12 For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.

Php 2:3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
Php 2:4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

And finally, when a person becomes angry, they should hit their knees and cry out for help. Don't hang on to it...

Eph 4:26 "BE ANGRY, AND DO NOT SIN": do not let the sun go down on your wrath,

it will destroy you...

Eph 2:2 in which you once walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience,
Eph 2:3 among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.

There is a lot of meat in these verses and the their context. Some private study might help.
 

damombomb

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We live by faith and what we speak or say has power:
With our words we are justified
Matthew 12:37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shall be condemned


Lord i am not angry or resentful, i am the righteousness of God


Put off the old man daily.
 
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Mooky

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Well , I believe we should speak the truth at all times.Positive confessions are Word of Faith rubbish.Totally unbiblical and to be rejected in no uncertain terms.
 

SweetShelly35

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Ideally I bite my tongue and go into another room and pray. I am not perfect though so sometimes I stoop to levels I am not proud of, like talking back and arguing.
 
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Ideally I bite my tongue and go into another room and pray. I am not perfect though so sometimes I stoop to levels I am not proud of, like talking back and arguing.
Short fuse issues are relevant to the fact that 'when He was reviled, He reviled not again, when He suffered, He threatened not, but committed Himself to Him that judges righteously' (1 Peter 2.23).
 
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gleener

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Just wondering how to deal with resentments in my life...especially of being angry at the blessings of those who I deem unworthy of those blessings.
Any godly advice appreciated.
here is some scripture Ephesians 4vrs 26 be angry but do not sin and let the not the sun go down on your wrath 27 nor give place to the devil and vrs32 and be kind to one another tenderhearted forgiving one another, just as Christ forgave you