I have severe anger issues that, most likely, go way back. For as long as I can remember I've been an angry person. I can't seem to control it either. I know the Bible says, "Be ye angry and sin not". I'm definitely sinning in my anger. It comes out the worst when I perceive I'm being done wrong (e.g., ignored or not heard, excluded, rejected, blamed, &/or falsely accused); & when I'm involved in a conflict & the other person doesn't take responsibility for their part, or, in other words, entirely blames me for the problem, which makes me even more angry. Ugh!
I know my perception of being done wrong is more often than not a result of one of my many dysfunctions. I will take the bulk of the responsibility for that.
I also know I can't make someone admit to their wrongdoing, so how do I truly love this person, while at the same time standing up for God's Truth? Do I let them stay in my life, even though I've forgiven them? I'm only willing to take responsibility for my part in the conflict, which, I think, is no more than the other person. Is to think, & believe that, Biblical? Is it Biblical to not take them back as long as they refuse to acknowledge their part?
I know I need professional help with the lack of self-control and I've prayed about it. It just seems to break loose at a moment's notice. So, I'm asking if whomever reads this to pray for me also?
I've lost a lot of people from my life because of my anger & I just can't let it go on like this any longer. Still, it seems to me, I have this deep need to be validated, but it also seems to me I don't ever get it. I just get blamed & rejected.
What Would Jesus Do?
Thank you all for any help y'all can give because I desperately need it!
I know my perception of being done wrong is more often than not a result of one of my many dysfunctions. I will take the bulk of the responsibility for that.
I also know I can't make someone admit to their wrongdoing, so how do I truly love this person, while at the same time standing up for God's Truth? Do I let them stay in my life, even though I've forgiven them? I'm only willing to take responsibility for my part in the conflict, which, I think, is no more than the other person. Is to think, & believe that, Biblical? Is it Biblical to not take them back as long as they refuse to acknowledge their part?
I know I need professional help with the lack of self-control and I've prayed about it. It just seems to break loose at a moment's notice. So, I'm asking if whomever reads this to pray for me also?
I've lost a lot of people from my life because of my anger & I just can't let it go on like this any longer. Still, it seems to me, I have this deep need to be validated, but it also seems to me I don't ever get it. I just get blamed & rejected.
What Would Jesus Do?
Thank you all for any help y'all can give because I desperately need it!