Problems in a relationship that are not fixed, will continue to be problems throughout the entire relationship, no matter how much you or both of you try to sweep the problem under the rug, or think "forget the past, lets start over"
He has issues. You have issues. If these issues are not corrected, they will continue to be issues.
i have read many of these posts, and it seems to me, both of you need more Jesus in your lives. His biggest problem is not having Jesus in His life. People like him do not seek help, until they have lost everything, and have hit rock bottom, then they will seek God. But as long as he has you in his life, he has not lost everything. If you Truly Love him, then you would let him go, knowing that would be the best thing for him. He has to lose everything in order to realize he needs help, that is losing you too. People like him, need to lose everything, family, friends, job, wife, girlfriend, house, vehicle, EVERYTHING, than they will seek God for help. And it will be then, that God will help change his life for the better.
If you two decide to get back together, both of you need to seek counseling. Both of you have issues that need to be addressed, NOT covered up, or hidden. He has anger issues, they will not go away, until he addresses that issue. You say that you have low-self esteem, that will not go away either, until you address the issue and learn WHY you are feeling the way that you do. You say you are weak, WHY? So then both of you have issues, seek counseling to address those issues. If he is unwilling to go to counseling, then he does not love you very much, and is unwilling to address the issues that he has, which might one day accidentally kill you or your son, because of his anger issues, that he was unwilling to fix. If he is not willing to go to counseling, then you should not be wiling to take him back, PERIOD! Don't wait until your in an argument and he gets mad and throws something across the room, not realizing your son came into the room, and now laying on the floor. To realize that his anger issues should have been addressed prior to your son being accidentally hurt or killed. If he is not willing to get help, you should not take the chance with him.
If you are not with him now, and you are lonely, get involved in a Church, they will keep you so busy, you will not have time to be lonely. my Mother who is single and use to be lonely, crying herself to sleep at night, has gotten involved with her Church, and now she is so busy, helping, cleaning, organizing, baking, and the such, she does not have time to be lonely. She has the entire Church. She even now has ladies over to her house to play cards and the such every week. Get involved.
Also i would like you to know, that God usually uses others to give messages to His Children, These people on this thread gave you good wisdom, that the Holy Ghost has given them, to give to you. If you will not listen to them, how will your life improve? If you are looking for answers, and come to Christian Chat seeking those answers, but do not do what they advise you to do, being that they have been through what you are going through now, then why did you come looking for answers that you will not do when you hear them? What you have been deciding to do, has not worked. So listen to them, and see if that works.
And i too will tell you this wisdom. If he does not get help with his issues, your relationship will NOT work. And that is the TRUTH.
^i^
He has issues. You have issues. If these issues are not corrected, they will continue to be issues.
i have read many of these posts, and it seems to me, both of you need more Jesus in your lives. His biggest problem is not having Jesus in His life. People like him do not seek help, until they have lost everything, and have hit rock bottom, then they will seek God. But as long as he has you in his life, he has not lost everything. If you Truly Love him, then you would let him go, knowing that would be the best thing for him. He has to lose everything in order to realize he needs help, that is losing you too. People like him, need to lose everything, family, friends, job, wife, girlfriend, house, vehicle, EVERYTHING, than they will seek God for help. And it will be then, that God will help change his life for the better.
If you two decide to get back together, both of you need to seek counseling. Both of you have issues that need to be addressed, NOT covered up, or hidden. He has anger issues, they will not go away, until he addresses that issue. You say that you have low-self esteem, that will not go away either, until you address the issue and learn WHY you are feeling the way that you do. You say you are weak, WHY? So then both of you have issues, seek counseling to address those issues. If he is unwilling to go to counseling, then he does not love you very much, and is unwilling to address the issues that he has, which might one day accidentally kill you or your son, because of his anger issues, that he was unwilling to fix. If he is not willing to go to counseling, then you should not be wiling to take him back, PERIOD! Don't wait until your in an argument and he gets mad and throws something across the room, not realizing your son came into the room, and now laying on the floor. To realize that his anger issues should have been addressed prior to your son being accidentally hurt or killed. If he is not willing to get help, you should not take the chance with him.
If you are not with him now, and you are lonely, get involved in a Church, they will keep you so busy, you will not have time to be lonely. my Mother who is single and use to be lonely, crying herself to sleep at night, has gotten involved with her Church, and now she is so busy, helping, cleaning, organizing, baking, and the such, she does not have time to be lonely. She has the entire Church. She even now has ladies over to her house to play cards and the such every week. Get involved.
Also i would like you to know, that God usually uses others to give messages to His Children, These people on this thread gave you good wisdom, that the Holy Ghost has given them, to give to you. If you will not listen to them, how will your life improve? If you are looking for answers, and come to Christian Chat seeking those answers, but do not do what they advise you to do, being that they have been through what you are going through now, then why did you come looking for answers that you will not do when you hear them? What you have been deciding to do, has not worked. So listen to them, and see if that works.
And i too will tell you this wisdom. If he does not get help with his issues, your relationship will NOT work. And that is the TRUTH.
^i^
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