Am I horrible?

[J-Kay-2]

I want to thank everyone who took the time to respond. My current husband is not the first man I married. I married my second husband...Then became a Christian and was baptized.

I have worried about this issue for quite awhile now. I have called an elder from my church who is supposed to be getting back with me in the next few days to give me his view on my particular problem but I have to say that those who have responded here have helped to put my mind and heart at ease a little. I have prayed about this and my heart is more at ease.

I will let everyone know what my church says.

OpalAnn~ Thank you for getting back and let us know you are still here.
I, having the same issue as you had, can relate and must say I know God
did not hold me accountable before I was saved. After the desertion and
divorce as at age 18, I did remarry at age 19. Still unsaved. Then in 1969
I received Christ as my Savior and like you, was concerned about the scripture.
I repented of being divorced, and was put at ease when I discovered my sin
was before I got saved, and I was set free to let my light shine as a Christian
and my husband then got saved. We have been married 50 years and I am
not going to fret about scriptures that would put me back into bondage of
fear that I have sinned all these years. I know God gave me the husband I
have.

I just read a devotion earlier about how the enemy (devil ) loves to torment
us in our mind. The Author tells us to tell the enemy "I will not think these
thoughts, because God is greater. " God bless you and I know you are going
to be free in your spirit. I pray Gods Holy Spirit will envelope you in His loving
arms as you go about your walk with Him and as a wife to your husband. ~

 

[Notqoethyourtime]

The first church wasn't built until hundreds of years after the first marriage.

 

[Crazylove]

If u weren't saved th first time, God didn't put u 2 together, u did! Yet u do hav 2 go to ur first husband(this is usually done b4 u marry again) and c if he unbinds th marriage oath(doesn't want to b married 2 u) if so u r free from ur oath and can remarry, if not totally differ. Othr wise it is adultery, if th only reason 4 divorce was becuz it didn't wrk. as a Christian we r th church, so wher u married doesn't mattr, when u wed u made a promise not only 2 th man u married, but also to God.

Marriage is serious! Divorce is serious! Plz pray about it and search scripture urself, becuz being right w/ God is th most important my sistr! Salvation is more than a sinners prayer, or baptism, it is th desire for Christ and knowing that u've sinned against God. I feel ur not in an adulterous relationship, but my opinion isn't what matters, look for God's opinion on this mattr.

 

[karen7574]

The Person or persons who told you that are trying to pluck a tiny speck out of your eye they believe they can see around the huge log in their own eye.

You were not a Christian during your first marriage, you divorced remarried and became a Christian during your second marriage. When you became a Christian, you asked God to forgive you of your sin. If confronted with this lie about your second marriage being sin, ask the person or people if they believe God forgives all sin from our lives. When they respond 'yes' let them know that all your sin is forgiven. If the respond 'no' then they don't know the promises of God.

Sadly some people are happiest when they can stir up trouble for others.

 

[J-Kay-2]

Does anyone know if OpalAnn has responded and what the
outcome is ? It is so good to get a follow up. I pray she was
helped knowing she had many who cared enough to encourage
her.

 

[mystdancer50]

Many years ago I married at the age of 18 and subsequently divorced. Neither of us were ready for marriage and at the time weren't aware of how to work at it.

13 years ago I remarried my current husband and we had a child. After the birth of our first child I was baptized for the first time in my life. We have a STRONG, love filled marriage that is wonderful.

Both marriages were civil marriages preformed at the courthouse.

I was recently informed that my current marriage is adulterous and not good in the eyes of the Lord. That I should dissolve the marriage.

I am looking for someone who can tell me if this is true or false. While I am hoping it is false because I love my family very much and want to be a good Christian, I don't want someone to just tell me what I want to hear.

were either union even considered marriages in the eyes of the Lord because they did not take place in the church?
Am I causing my husband to commit adultery because of my previous marriage?
What do I need to do to make this right?

You are not horrible. Whoever self-righteously placed such condemnation on you is wrong. You're legally divorced from your first husband, legally married to your second, and you're a Christian. Stay in your marriage and celebrate the blessing this marriage is. There is no condemnation in Christ.

 

[dcontroversal]

Many years ago I married at the age of 18 and subsequently divorced. Neither of us were ready for marriage and at the time weren't aware of how to work at it.

13 years ago I remarried my current husband and we had a child. After the birth of our first child I was baptized for the first time in my life. We have a STRONG, love filled marriage that is wonderful.

Both marriages were civil marriages preformed at the courthouse.

I was recently informed that my current marriage is adulterous and not good in the eyes of the Lord. That I should dissolve the marriage.

I am looking for someone who can tell me if this is true or false. While I am hoping it is false because I love my family very much and want to be a good Christian, I don't want someone to just tell me what I want to hear.

were either union even considered marriages in the eyes of the Lord because they did not take place in the church?
Am I causing my husband to commit adultery because of my previous marriage?
What do I need to do to make this right?

David took Bathsheba and committed adultery and Bathsheba became pregnant. After numerous sneaky plans and orders to get Uriah to sleep with Bathsheba, David had Uriah carry his own orders of execution to the front lines and was in essence murdered by David. Upon confrontation with the truth of the Murder and adultery David confessed. It cost him the death of his firstborn son and the sword in his house all the days of his life as well as disease in his older age as evidenced by the Psalms. Having said that, David's sin with Bathsheba was forgiven and in the end grew to love David and even had her son Solomon sit on the throne of Israel. My point is, God can and does forgive the foolishness of our youth and has healed and blessed numerous marriages such as yours. Pray to God and let him lead you in this and He will.

 

[RedTent]

There are so many people today who face this problem. Christians understand about Godly marriages where the two become one in every way, and that God does not want that dissolved.

But when we take our sins to the Lord in repentance and asked to be cleansed, it is not right for us to not accept what God so freely gives. If God says we are cleansed, if we have repented and asked forgiveness, then we don't have to think about it again. God does not lie.

There are results we have of sin. If we steal something we can go to jail as payment, after God forgives us. We pay the price here on earth, but between us and God, when God forgives it is truth and we can bank on it.

God gave you a good marriage, thank God and glory in it!! You answer to God, not to earthly critics.