Betrayed by Husband. Need Advice from People Who Have Been There.

[oopsies]

There can be no missed time where you dont know where he is, there can be ABSOLUTELY no contact

I don't claim to know how people feel as they go through this type of thing... but wouldn't that drive one insane?

 

[imoss]

I dont know... My husband & I have been together almost 20 years & I've never once wondered where he was & vice versa. I used to have a boyfriend who would disappear... he was cheating.

Its not about controlling their every move its about having the courtesy in our relationship that neither of us is worried about the other (well unless he's working 250ft in the air on the mine conveyor roof... that worrys me) I've always knows where he is & he's always known where I am and we've never gone a day without speaking to one another at least twice. Not cause we control but because we love respect and miss one another.

I'm kinda sorta but not really certain that i'm probably most likely not insane.

 

[oopsies]

well, perhaps i will find out when or if i ever get married lol

not about the cheating thing - the knowing where she is and she knowing where i am thing

 

[Wootie]

It says that you have to forgive and forget, as Christ did for you. It is VERY HARD, but you have to! If you don't then it says somewhere, you are putting yourself higher than the Lord-who does forgive.

 

[navyairwarrior]

Like I said before. No one here is in your situation. You did forgive him and he still is unfaithful. I don't think anyone has the right to judge you and tell you what god wants you to do. You know what feels right and until god actually comes down from the clouds and tells you to stay with him you shoudn't tolerate his cheating.

 

[navyairwarrior]

I mean do some of you people actually think about your logic? Just because the bible says you should not divorce you think this woman should stay married to a cheater? How can divorce always be bad? My mother in law was married to a drug addict and also to a man who physically beat her. Should she have stayed married? This is the problem I have with the logic of you people. You will follow your book no matter what, or you will judge someone who does not follow it no matter how illogical it would be to do so. And if any of you hypocrites actually read the book you live your life by you would have come across Matthew 5;32, and 19;9.

Take a moment to actually be logical about what you are advocating and thing about walking in this womans shoes. And please actually read your bible since you all want to throw it in her face. According to it she has every right to divorce him.

For those of you who find reading and researching too hard take a look at this.

"But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery."

 

[imoss]

Its not just a book, its the word of God. And you correctly quoted the word. If it is in a womans heart to honor her marriage in spite of the mans fidelity failings thats ok too you know. I would never condone what happened to your mom though & I'm sorry for how seeing that must have effected you just as it effected your mom knowing you witnessed that, how terrible. welcome to Christian Chat airwarrior!