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nautilus, NO I did NOT "assume that because the guy had looked at porn, he was automatically a pedophile." I never even MENTIONED anything about pedophilia. YOU are assuming that I thought he is a pedophile. Also, a friend of mine is the police chief here--I could ask him about it, and tell you exactly what percentage of porn found on computers also includes kiddy porn. I'm sure he could give me a pretty accurate answer, seeing as how he IS a police officer and deals with this everyday.
Anyway, child porn is not the question of the OP. I suggest you quit focusing solely on MY posts, and get back to the question of the OP, which is: should she leave him or not. 
Just to clarify, I said nothing about addiction. I think its jumping to conclusions to presume a young man has an incurable addiction because he's accessed some porn. Most have, and they out-grow it without the necessity of a 12 step program. I picked-up a Playboy on occasion in my younger days, and no heavy counseling was necessary. While I agree that the boyfriend should refrain from it since it bothers his girlfriend, I also believe its premature to condemn him as a permanent pervert.
you do realize your commenting on a thread that has been closed, right? LOL. Read her update on page 2.
Read her update on page 2.
R
you give the devil an inch and he will take a mile.
[h=3]Psalm 1: 1-2[/h]Blessed is the one
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
2 but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
and who meditates on his law day and night.
Do not walk, stand or sit but delight in the law of the Lord and meditates on his law day and night.
it is possible that those who love photography delights in it and meditates on it day and night. That my friend is a sure recipe for disastrous relationship. Am sure that you can find an honorable God fearing man sooner or later and do not throw away your life it is not worth it.
Risen
[h=3]Psalm 1: 1-2[/h]Blessed is the one
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
2 but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
and who meditates on his law day and night.
Do not walk, stand or sit but delight in the law of the Lord and meditates on his law day and night.
it is possible that those who love photography delights in it and meditates on it day and night. That my friend is a sure recipe for disastrous relationship. Am sure that you can find an honorable God fearing man sooner or later and do not throw away your life it is not worth it.
Risen
R
[h=3]Psalm 1[/h]1 Blessed is the one
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
2 but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
and who meditates on his law day and night.
Very simple: Do not walk, stand or sit....... for those who loves photography obviously delights in it, meditates on it day and night. That is a sure recipe for a disastrous relationship. This is emergency...... please run for your life..... It is demonic and you need to escape!!!!
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
2 but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
and who meditates on his law day and night.
Very simple: Do not walk, stand or sit....... for those who loves photography obviously delights in it, meditates on it day and night. That is a sure recipe for a disastrous relationship. This is emergency...... please run for your life..... It is demonic and you need to escape!!!!
R
Psalm 1
1 Blessed is the one
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
2 but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
and who meditates on his law day and night.
Very simple: Do not walk, stand or sit....... for those who loves photography obviously delights in it, meditates on it day and night. That is a sure recipe for a disastrous relationship. This is emergency...... please run for your life..... It is demonic and you need to escape!!!!
1 Blessed is the one
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
2 but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
and who meditates on his law day and night.
Very simple: Do not walk, stand or sit....... for those who loves photography obviously delights in it, meditates on it day and night. That is a sure recipe for a disastrous relationship. This is emergency...... please run for your life..... It is demonic and you need to escape!!!!
C
I'm not trying to condem or judge anyone. I'm just saying "be careful" because some men never change. I'm glad addiction didn't happen to you, that's great. But not everyone is the same in this area. Some men are much, much weaker than others. Also, I'd like to note that porn has come a long, long way since Playboy! Today's porn is much more explicit and hardcore in nature. Some people would be shocked to know this stuff IS in fact legal.
S
I'm sorry this is happening to you. It's painful when you find out someone you love is betraying you and lying to you. If he's doing this now, I guarantee you, he'll be doing it when you're married and it'll be worse. I know you wrote that you've been together for a long time, but it will only get worse. I've seen this kind of situation with friends and people I've known in our church. Without the proper counseling and support and most importantly, without a personal desire to change and remorse about what he's done, he won't change, no matter how much you try. It's an addiction and one that he needs help for.
There are guys out there who do love God more than themselves. All men struggle but not all men give in. I think if he shows you that he is willing to do whatever it takes to win you back, then maybe wait and consider it, but if you don't see that kind of eager attitude to change, then I would move on and not look back.
There are guys out there who do love God more than themselves. All men struggle but not all men give in. I think if he shows you that he is willing to do whatever it takes to win you back, then maybe wait and consider it, but if you don't see that kind of eager attitude to change, then I would move on and not look back.