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Dec 28, 2016
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According to this persons profile (Trapqer) he is not a Christian.

The carnal mind is at enmity with God; Romans 8:7. Fact. But, God can change persons blinded minds, 2 Corinthians 4.

We were all there at some point in our state before Christ.
 

tourist

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Your marriage was probably over before it started. I man that loves his wife does not even think about cheating on her let alone do it. He actions destroyed whatever marital trust existed and can never be restored.

Your husband also committed a serious crime that probably irreparably harmed the young child not to mention the heartache to her family. You need to report him to the police. You need to get a divorce lawyer. In that order.

Sorry to have you join in such terrible circumstances but glad to have you as part of our family. Hopefully, you will find comfort, support and understanding from the members of this site. Welcome to CC.
 
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tourist

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God is not shocked, in fact if we take a spin back to the oldie testament time's we will see that God would command the taking of young virgin girls for wife's.

I don't think God care's if you marry a 14 year old, but you do, so who's right and wrong.
The guy is married and is a criminal. I hardly believe that God would approve of the nonsense you suggested. Totally ludicrous.
 

Trapqer

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Which shows your utter ignorance as to how to read the Bible. First, KJV has a bad translation. Young Woman is the best translation.


"Now therefore kill every boy, and kill every woman who has had sexual intercourse with a man. 18 But all the young women who have not had sexual intercourse with a man will be yours." Numbers 31:17-18 NET

But the root of the issue is:
1. After a battle to cleanse Canaan of the non-Believers.
2. Kill the young men and older women. Take young women who are ceremonially clean for yourselves.
3. Cleanse yourself for 7 days outside the camp.
4. Purify your wool, skins and goats hair.

So, if you want to capture a young woman, after a battle, also you MUST kill the young men, the older women, and be prepared to not come into the camp for 7 days, because you have killed and you are unclean.

THEY ALL GO TOGETHER!!

So, are you a Muslim, or just an ordinary pedophile?

As for the OP, she is aiding and abetting someone who has committed statutory rape, and needs to obey the law and report him immediately. Or haven't you read Romans 13?

"Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except by God’s appointment, and the authorities that exist have been instituted by God. 2 So the person who resists such authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will incur judgment 3 (for rulers cause no fear for good conduct but for bad). Do you desire not to fear authority? Do good and you will receive its commendation," Romans 13:1-3 NET

This woman is not obeying the law, as God commands, because she has not reported him for statutory rape. Obey the Bible, especially the NT. We are not under those Old Testament laws at all, even if this were more straightforward.
Such a kind God too.
 

Trapqer

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The guy is married and is a criminal. I hardly believe that God would approve of the nonsense you suggested. Totally ludicrous.
According to your God having more than one wife or concubine's is just fine. You Christian's really need to grow a pair and do the thing's God actually expects.
 

maxwel

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you have to accept how God sees relationships, not the state.

Ahh... well God would see this as adultery, where a grown man not only cheats on his wife, but he also seduces and preys upon a girl so young she can't defend herself mentally or emotionally and she's easily manipulated.

Oh, and since God tells us to abide by the laws of our country... uhhh... he'd also see it as statutory rape.




At the very least you should tell your pastor, and tell the girl's family... so the girl can get counseling, and her family can decide how they'd like to proceed.

But then that doesn't really make you look very good... covering up a serious crime for 2 years.





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tourist

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According to your God having more than one wife or concubine's is just fine. You Christian's really need to grow a pair and do the thing's God actually expects.
No, actually that would be according to Moses and others, not God. I find it reprehensible that you are defending who cheated on his wife as a child molester and then say that now he should marry this child. That's not how if works in this country. The guy needs to go to prison and the hurt wife needs to file for divorce. If God really wants this guy to marry this child after he sexually assaulted her then I probably should consider becoming an atheist because I would not want to serve such a god. You apparently don't have a clue on what God expects and seem to have a problem knowing right from wrong.
 
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I am struggling with a decision. I have prayed and having a hard time. My spouse (34) about 2 years ago had a sexual relationship with a 14 year old girl. I try to hold my wedding vows I made before God, but I feel I need to report him. I don’t think it is right what he did and it is really eating at me because I am a mother and I feel as a mother the mother of this young lady would want me to do what is right by her child. I have prayed to God about my marriage and I believe it is over. I am hurt And my love for him is gone* I feel God is not listening and has left me[/
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it is 'you' who is not listening, for Yeshua never leaves His own - you are in disobedience and your so called
'wedding vows' were a sham from the beginning, and you know it!

if you Love God, then keep His Commandments and obey and walk in His steps...

you call yourself a 'mother' and have not actually 'done anything about this 'mess'???
shame on you - and you say that 'you' are 'hurt' - what about the '14' year old baby???