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I put my kids in timeout until they calm down enough to talk with. They aren't allowed out until they tell me why they were put in time out, apologize for their behavior, and know a better way to communicate what they want without screaming and yelling.
I try to teach them they should not tell unless in pain or bleeding.
I try to teach them they should not tell unless in pain or bleeding.
Here is a Fact, kids will do whatever they think they can get away with. If they throw a tantrum How do you respond. If they continue to throw tantrums then something you are doing is what they want. For example if you give them a lot of attention when they throw a tantrum, they will throw more tantrums to get that attention.
Kids are going to throw tantrums. How you respond to those tantrums will either increase them or decrease them.
Here is my suggestion. If for example you give your kids a snack every day. When they throw a tantrum, in a calm voice say if you do not stop throwing a tantrum you get no snack tonight. If they do not stop, then for Heavens sake, DON"T give them a snack. If you do, you have taught them that you are a liar, and that they will still get their snack even if they continue to throw a tantrum. Hopefully they will soon learn every time they throw a tantrum, then don't get a snack. Some will learn this slower or faster than others. Having several kids is a plus, because when the others get a snack and they don't, this is very beneficial too. The others did not throw a tantrum. Be prepared for them to throw a tantrum then also. But do not cancel their snack for the following day, if you continue to do that, they would soon realize they are never going to get a snack anyways and throw more tantrums. The next day if they throw a tantrum, tell them if they continue they will not get their snack later. Soon they will learn, if they want their snack they will stop throwing a tantrum.
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Kids are going to throw tantrums. How you respond to those tantrums will either increase them or decrease them.
Here is my suggestion. If for example you give your kids a snack every day. When they throw a tantrum, in a calm voice say if you do not stop throwing a tantrum you get no snack tonight. If they do not stop, then for Heavens sake, DON"T give them a snack. If you do, you have taught them that you are a liar, and that they will still get their snack even if they continue to throw a tantrum. Hopefully they will soon learn every time they throw a tantrum, then don't get a snack. Some will learn this slower or faster than others. Having several kids is a plus, because when the others get a snack and they don't, this is very beneficial too. The others did not throw a tantrum. Be prepared for them to throw a tantrum then also. But do not cancel their snack for the following day, if you continue to do that, they would soon realize they are never going to get a snack anyways and throw more tantrums. The next day if they throw a tantrum, tell them if they continue they will not get their snack later. Soon they will learn, if they want their snack they will stop throwing a tantrum.
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Long ago heard about the broken record technique. Like if child says/asks something but impolite or whats asked for is not safe or good, you can repeat what u first said about it. Ex. I want a pellet gun. You say, You can play with this and this so you wont be hurt... but child insists again. . and again. Then you can also repeat what u said calmly, and again calmly. Til he gives up, because he knows he'll get the same answer.
Sori. got to post and pelet gun was what i thought of just now, tho it isnt what tddlers typically play with!
Sori. got to post and pelet gun was what i thought of just now, tho it isnt what tddlers typically play with!
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Probably but someone else might get on and have the same question...
Side note.. I don't believe in withholding food as punishment or giving kids more food then they need.
All daily snacks should be healthy things like fruit, cheese, etc...
I might withhold candy...but the poster does have a point. Dont threaten punishment or consequences you are not willing to carry out.
Side note.. I don't believe in withholding food as punishment or giving kids more food then they need.
All daily snacks should be healthy things like fruit, cheese, etc...
I might withhold candy...but the poster does have a point. Dont threaten punishment or consequences you are not willing to carry out.
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I also would not say..."if you don't stop your tantrum, we won't...." because they link the two together in their minds.
Instead I would say "we were planning on doing....but if you would rather chose to throw a tantrum, we won't have time to do this fun activity I had planned."
Natural consequence and gives the toddler the choice to behave or waste time being miserable.
Instead I would say "we were planning on doing....but if you would rather chose to throw a tantrum, we won't have time to do this fun activity I had planned."
Natural consequence and gives the toddler the choice to behave or waste time being miserable.
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Love is the basis of everything we need.. First take all of your cares to God.. Ask the holy spirit to guide you on how to discipline your children. Each child is different, what works with one will not work with another. Giving into tantrums just to pacify is never a good idea. The bible tells us to let our yes be yes and our no's be no... Giving into tantrums only feeds them.. Also its important that you and your husband are in agreement with one anther.. If my daughter has tantrums (she's 9 now so this dosent really happen) I would just walk away and allow her to kick scream and get angry then tell her we could talk when she is ready. We all express ourselves in different ways. Tantrums are always a result of not getting our own way. Toddlers are allowed to be dissapointed and angry just like we are. Its how we respond to it that really makes the end result. I pray that the peace and love of God would be the centre of your home 
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