Brody, you said you rushed into marriage to do right by God, and have had a rough go since. Now you are tempted by a seductress. Let me put this in simple terms, you have a habit of thinking with the wrong head. If you truly have a heart for God then put to death the desires of the flesh. Men all claim these to be natural feelings and desires, fair enough but everything in nature dies naturally. Christ died unleashing the the Holy Spirit which if we align ourselves to His purposes strengthens us supernaturally. Flesh is flesh, so recognize it as such. Your "need to breed", is a carnal instinct, nothing more. Do not overestimate the power of the flesh. If you feed your desires, through fantasy and flirting, allowing her to build your ego, then it will grow. Starve it and feed your spirit, by praying, fasting and loving your wife. This will conquer the flesh. I get it I do, your wife can be a thorn in the flesh. There are women you just can't satisfy. This isn't about her. Love her and pray for her but thinking your happiness is an entitlement is Satanic. She may never be your ideal woman. News flash, no woman is. Even if she seems like that when you get together or get married, she will change. Life, hormones, stress, kids, incompatible love language will cause this dream girl to become your worst nightmare. But, lets face it, we all change. That doesn't mean you find a new dream girl to repeat the cycle. You deal with it and adapt, hopefully with God's help. This is not a rebuke, just some helpful Christian advice. Man up and quit acting like a horny teenager. Storms will come and storms will go. Some will last longer than others, but they will pass. In light of eternity, this life is like a blink of the eye. Stay strong brother! I've been married 17 years with more than enough storms. Sure I've been tempted but I can tell you I have no regrets about remaining faithful.
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So..you've aired your 'dirty laundry" for the world to see..whether they want to or not..and then you want a response that does not include what you perceive as an attack or seeing you as a jerk? lol lol lol That is like saying "I am a glutton, I eat constantly, can't get enough sweets and food" but please don't think of me as obese or a jerk..just pray for me. lol lol lol What do you honestly expect?
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Yeah. Not sure what I've done to YOU but I don't expect anything honestly. I hoped however Godly people would respond as they have giving me truth in an area where I am falling. Perhaps if there is ever a time YOU struggle with a sin that you didn't think you ever would, you would then understand the need for mercy and uplifting rather than beating them over the head with your irrelevant tantrums. Take care of yourself my friend.
And you never know who might go through something similar to what I'm going through with no one to personally discuss it with that one person might come across this post of 'dirty laundry' one day and just like me need someone to help him think straight without seeing him as a scumbag but seeing his/her potential and what Christ saw in the woman caught in adultery. That person could be you.
They brought her and threw her like a dog at the feet of Jesus and said they caught her in the very ACT of adultery Christ responded and said whichever one of you has no sin go ahead and be the first to throw a rock, everyone fell back, and he embraced her like obviously no one else could not scolding her but in love man. We don't deserve the love of Christ, obviously but man if I have the chance to love on someone you better believe I will and do because I'm no better or any worse than any other sinner or faithful church believer.
And you never know who might go through something similar to what I'm going through with no one to personally discuss it with that one person might come across this post of 'dirty laundry' one day and just like me need someone to help him think straight without seeing him as a scumbag but seeing his/her potential and what Christ saw in the woman caught in adultery. That person could be you.
They brought her and threw her like a dog at the feet of Jesus and said they caught her in the very ACT of adultery Christ responded and said whichever one of you has no sin go ahead and be the first to throw a rock, everyone fell back, and he embraced her like obviously no one else could not scolding her but in love man. We don't deserve the love of Christ, obviously but man if I have the chance to love on someone you better believe I will and do because I'm no better or any worse than any other sinner or faithful church believer.
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Brody, thank you for being open with your experience and struggle. I'm praying for you, man. My prayer is that (as was my earlier advice) that you both do whatever it takes to get this marriage back on track. In 10 years, you'll look back on this time of struggle and be able to be a blessing to another young marriage in peril. Keep at it man, go get her and win her back. WOO her again. Seek to make your marriage right with God and with your wife. God bless you both as you embark on THAT adventure!!
Jesus simply wants a total surrender of your life, as apart from Him we can do nothing. "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing." John 15:5 (NIV). Its so easy to justify sin at times. Even as Christians there can be times of testing, but when the enemy gets his way & temptation wins, its can be devastating to your life & marriage. A total surrender of the Heart to the Lord is a Beautiful thing!