Your post is riddled with fallacy HeartLove.
First of all, there's nothing INAPPROPRIATE about a society restricting marriage to absolute monogamy as it is fully supported not just theologically but also secularly per natural law making your assertion to the contrary false.
I've read all the pro-homosexual arguments about Sodom and Gomorrah and every one of them is incorrect and fallacious. Without a doubt homosexuality is condemned as a sexual immorality, regardless of whether the people engaging in the behavior thought it to be their "orientation" or not, in the bible. You obviously have no real genuine theological understanding with respect to what the bible teaches about homosexuality or sexual immorality in general. But, I'm qualified to educate you on that topic if you like.
But first you need an education of what Jesus meant about judging
since you're making patently false assertions about that. Here's a suggested starting point for you:
What Did Jesus Mean by "Judge Not"? | PARSE
Secondly, immorality is not equitable with morality and there are always negative consequences that result when a society begins to legalize immorality and simultaneously intolerantly pass laws that persecute the righteous when they maintain their human right to a free moral conscience aligning with God's normative morality (e.g. natural law) and religious liberty to not facilitate or condone immorality which up until very recently was always strongly protected under the Constitution.
The real penchant for control over others we see presently emanates from "liberals" seeking to sacrilegiously desecrate the holy sacrament of the marriage covenant that God ordained for humanity in the context of strict monogamy. Recent attempts to use the government criminal justice system to force moral people to accept that which is patently immoral are now well documented up to and including bankruptcy and imprisonment.
And bullying goes both ways. Surveys show that Christian children are being bullied by non-Christians for retaining a moral conscience and belief system and refusing to compromise it when pressured to do so in a public school system that is pro-homosexual today (exactly the opposite of what you're asserting) and in some states like the one I live in (e.g. CA) it's the rule of law to teach the homosexual agenda to children K-12th.
You're falsely accusing people of being hypocrites when they're really aligned with God Himself on issues you do not understand.
Furthermore, you obviously don't understand the theological relationship of government to God. Hint, government is not God. Government which pass de facto man-made laws that conflict with God's de jure moral law are immoral by definition and to be resisted and, if necessary disobeyed, until they can be overturned.
God does not cosign, support, nor promote wickedness regardless of whether or not people manage to have it codified into a man-made law. In whatever form government takes, higher powers (e.g. government authority) are always "under" or "below" God and never possess God's approval in instances where they contradict His holiness.
The Gospel accounts are clear that Jesus did not accept all legal and governing authorities as ultimate dispensers of God’s will. Wherever he went, he bucked the system, upset the status quo and challenged the authorities’ claim to the right and the truth. And in the context of a life of disciple of Jesus, countless martyrs rightfully gave their lives because they resisted ungodly decrees of the authorities and purposed to obey God where they conflicted. A genuine view of scripture prevents us from viewing the demands of society and its rulers with uncritical acceptance and automatic approval.
Paul’s argument is this: It is God’s intent that human life in the context of community will be life in harmony and peace and order (see Rom 12:10, 18). Since life in community becomes chaotic and anarchistic without the presence of regulatory laws enforced by authorities, the presence of these are part of God’s overall intent for human existence. Therefore, insofar as the state and its rulers exercise their authority
in keeping with God’s intent, they act as God’s ministers for the common good of society.
If, however, the authority of the state runs counter to this divine intent, then that authority should not be understood as God-given. In fact, it becomes quite clear from Revelation 13 and 18, as well as other places in the New Testament, that the state which persecutes Christians, which dispenses injustice instead of justice, which supports moral decay, which tramples on the weak and powerless, has been usurped by demonic powers and forces diametrically opposed to God’s intents and purposes.
Because your ignorance of scripture is colossal, and leading you into all sorts of error, I suggest you begin rectifying it by submitting yourself to what the bible you presently misrepresent calls "sound doctrine." Peace.