GOD WILL NOT TOLERATE ABUSE!!!!!!!

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zeroturbulence

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AnandaHya said:
that is very tramatizing and I'm sorry that you had to go through it. but Remember that GOD heals us of all our hurts.

have compassion for those who have low self esteem and remind them that God loves them and remind yourself that God loves YOU too :)

YouTube - God's love letter

Sometimes we just sit with God and cry and He listens and tells us it will be ok. Sometimes that is what we need to do for others, just sit, listen and hold them and show them that Love still works in this world. Just listen to God's heart and take comfort in that. :)

<internet hugs>

May God's peace and love keep you.

PS. I've got some triggers that freak me out and I have to retreat and just pray to God to comfort and save me from my fears and troubles
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Thank you. I think that one good thing did come out of it. I believe my desire to help others and to empathize with them came from it. I do love to sit and bask in God's presence and communicate with him on a spiritual level, and it often brings me to tears. I also have some triggers like you mentioned, and I ask the Lord to remove the fear and doubt from my mind and I remember that we should trust in him and not lean on our own understanding. God bless you. I believe you and I may share a similar attitude towards the Lord. :)
 
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i totaly agree with you zeroturbulance . my dad used to whack me the slipper hard, when id done nothing to deserve it, was brought up with alot of verbal chritisim , bullying at school , especially been ignored sent to coventry for no reason other than they just dont like you or just ignore/aviod and you dont know why ... that stuff kinda stays with you and effects your self esteam and still does even now
 
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princessbella

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protection Retributiion i think theres alot of stuff god hates like, like injustice , oppresing and hurting the vunerable, abuse , is the tone of your question asking well if he doesnt tollerate it why doesnthe stop it?
 
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zeroturbulence

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princessbella said:
i totaly agree with you zeroturbulance . my dad used to whack me the slipper hard, when id done nothing to deserve it, was brought up with alot of verbal chritisim , bullying at school , especially been ignored sent to coventry for no reason other than they just dont like you or just ignore/aviod and you dont know why ... that stuff kinda stays with you and effects your self esteam and still does even now
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Oh I'm so sorry you went through that. And I always thought that fathers loved to spoil their daughters. My sisters never got hit or anything except maybe yelled at a few times. They were like angels in my parents' eyes. They also ended up getting good grades in school while I barely got by with my grades. I got bullied in school too. Yes its sad that it stays with us through the years, but God saves all our tears in a bottle (psalm 56:8) and He says He will wipe them away when we get to heaven (Rev 21:4).
 
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zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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A lot of things seem overrated when you're 14 lol.
 
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My stepfather would choke, slap, push and hit me just because he could. He would threaten me, for things I may have done when my mom was around (talking back etc) he would tell me "wait till your mom leaves", then he would unleash on me.

I was a willful kid, my parents divorced when i was young, my mom was always yelling, my stepdad always angry...this culminated into an emotional child who was never taught how to express herself in conducive ways and was disciplined for the shortcomings of such. If I didn't actually do anything, he would bate me (flick me in the head, nitpick chores he told me to do) until i had an emotional outburst, then he would hit me for it.

This was a man who said he believed in God, when i was young once I said i didn't believe in God, and he actually threatened to BEAT me if I didn't take it back. THIS is my impression of the trustworthiness of religion in general. This is why as an adult I question everyone's motives and trust no one until they have earned my trust.

I have issues with FAITH. Faith in people, faith in promises and faith in a God who did nothing to stop an innocent child from being hit for 10 years.
 
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Ramon

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Dece81 said:
My stepfather would choke, slap, push and hit me just because he could. He would threaten me, for things I may have done when my mom was around (talking back etc) he would tell me "wait till your mom leaves", then he would unleash on me.

I was a willful kid, my parents divorced when i was young, my mom was always yelling, my stepdad always angry...this culminated into an emotional child who was never taught how to express herself in conducive ways and was disciplined for the shortcomings of such. If I didn't actually do anything, he would bate me (flick me in the head, nitpick chores he told me to do) until i had an emotional outburst, then he would hit me for it.

This was a man who said he believed in God, when i was young once I said i didn't believe in God, and he actually threatened to BEAT me if I didn't take it back. THIS is my impression of the trustworthiness of religion in general. This is why as an adult I question everyone's motives and trust no one until they have earned my trust.

I have issues with FAITH. Faith in people, faith in promises and faith in a God who did nothing to stop an innocent child from being hit for 10 years.
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My good friend. I love you in Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ died for you, and you can know this that anyone who messes with someone whom Jesus died for will not be held blameless. But my friend. I know that hell is a terrible, terrible, place, and I would now hope that for anyone.

I too had problems with trusting people, and I still do, and I will until I see the Lord. But there is one that I can trust, and that is Jesus Christ. He is alive, he is very alive my friend. And when other people leave you he will remain there. Even if you feel he has left you at times, which is how we all feel, he is still there, and he will reveal himself to you. I love you so much, and I pray the Lord heal not only that issue of faith, because there is so much more he wants for you, but that he heals your very body.

My friend, God can take anything that SATAN meant for evil and turn it to good. Sometimes we suffer to the glory of God. It is not God who causes it, but Satan does this. So blaming God will get you nowhere. Satan wants you to blame God for something he did. It is because of sin that things happen this way, and why evil people do evil things. Well, I will be praying for you my friend. But your enemy is not God, it is Satan. May Jesus bless you.
 
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AnandaHya

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Dece81 said:
My stepfather would choke, slap, push and hit me just because he could. He would threaten me, for things I may have done when my mom was around (talking back etc) he would tell me "wait till your mom leaves", then he would unleash on me.

I was a willful kid, my parents divorced when i was young, my mom was always yelling, my stepdad always angry...this culminated into an emotional child who was never taught how to express herself in conducive ways and was disciplined for the shortcomings of such. If I didn't actually do anything, he would bate me (flick me in the head, nitpick chores he told me to do) until i had an emotional outburst, then he would hit me for it.

This was a man who said he believed in God, when i was young once I said i didn't believe in God, and he actually threatened to BEAT me if I didn't take it back. THIS is my impression of the trustworthiness of religion in general. This is why as an adult I question everyone's motives and trust no one until they have earned my trust.

I have issues with FAITH. Faith in people, faith in promises and faith in a God who did nothing to stop an innocent child from being hit for 10 years.
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I know what you mean, my dad tried to kill my little brother when I was 8 and he was just 4. I think why I trust is that my mom and my brothers we loved each other and stuck together. My mother would take beating for us and give us food and go days without eating so that we could eat. I didn't realize how ungrateful I was as a kid until I was about 7 and noticed that some days my mom didn't eat anything. She always lied to us and said she ate before, but I started watching her. We were very poor and my mom was the only one who had a job, she did everything for us: fed, clothe, work, etc even before she got a divorce from my biological dad. She had bruised that she wouldn't tell me where she got them and she didn't fill for divorce until my dad snapped and begin to say my little brothers were not HIS KIDS and tried to kill them. my youngest brother was 3 months old.

My adoptive grandmother who helped my mom with the divorce is a beautiful Christain lady but I did not listen to her message that we should forgive my dad for what he did. She told my mom he was mentally ill and actually made her feel guilty for getting a divorce, which I could never understand.

What part about HE TRIED TO KILL MY LITTLE BROTHERS didn't she understand?

I told some people on the site that I see demons and angels and they think I'm delusional, but I think its just a survival mechanism that God gave us. If I saw a demon in the house, I knew we had to run to the back room and hide and barricade the door. If there were angels, we could play in the living room and watch TV.

You just learn to TRUST GOD, pray and listen. God loves you.

The Enemy will put people and do things to make you doubt or question or lead you astray or tell you that you are not loved, but don't listen. LISTEN TO GOD

HE LOVES YOU.

YouTube - God's love letter

Tell you the truth I think God has blocked some memories of my childhood from me, I don't remember most of it and neither do my brothers. But I remember the angels and they told us that God loves us and cares for us and He catches each tear we cry and can heal a broken heart.
 
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Dece81

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AnandaHya said:
I know what you mean, my dad tried to kill my little brother when I was 8 and he was just 4. I think why I trust is that my mom and my brothers we loved each other and stuck together. My mother would take beating for us and give us food and go days without eating so that we could eat. I didn't realize how ungrateful I was as a kid until I was about 7 and noticed that some days my mom didn't eat anything. She always lied to us and said she ate before, but I started watching her. We were very poor and my mom was the only one who had a job, she did everything for us: fed, clothe, work, etc even before she got a divorce from my biological dad. She had bruised that she wouldn't tell me where she got them and she didn't fill for divorce until my dad snapped and begin to say my little brothers were not HIS KIDS and tried to kill them. my youngest brother was 3 months old.

My adoptive grandmother who helped my mom with the divorce is a beautiful Christain lady but I did not listen to her message that we should forgive my dad for what he did. She told my mom he was mentally ill and actually made her feel guilty for getting a divorce, which I could never understand.

What part about HE TRIED TO KILL MY LITTLE BROTHERS didn't she understand?

I told some people on the site that I see demons and angels and they think I'm delusional, but I think its just a survival mechanism that God gave us. If I saw a demon in the house, I knew we had to run to the back room and hide and barricade the door. If there were angels, we could play in the living room and watch TV.

You just learn to TRUST GOD, pray and listen. God loves you.

The Enemy will put people and do things to make you doubt or question or lead you astray or tell you that you are not loved, but don't listen. LISTEN TO GOD

HE LOVES YOU.

YouTube - God's love letter

Tell you the truth I think God has blocked some memories of my childhood from me, I don't remember most of it and neither do my brothers. But I remember the angels and they told us that God loves us and cares for us and He catches each tear we cry and can heal a broken heart.
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My mom did nothing, i would cry and beg for her to not leave to go shopping or to work overnight because i was scared and she said I was being "dramatic" and "emotional". Even to this day she says "are you sure you arent just making it up, you were an emotional child."
 
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AnandaHya

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Dece81 said:
My mom did nothing, i would cry and beg for her to not leave to go shopping or to work overnight because i was scared and she said I was being "dramatic" and "emotional". Even to this day she says "are you sure you arent just making it up, you were an emotional child."
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I'm sorry she was weak and preferred a lie to doing what she should have to keep you safe. Don't let it or her poison your life.

Forgiveness is not for the person being forgiven but for us to let go of the pain and lay it on the altar of God and trust that God will be Just and punish them as they deserve.

Healing takes one day at a time moving forward to live your life in joy, peace, love and trust in God's plan for your life.

Acceptance of your past is not forgetting about it but not allowing it to poison your present or future relationship, don't give them that power over your mind or your life.

You are beautifully and wonderfully made. God loves you.
 
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