Not everyone knows what a narcissist is, or how to recognize one...Just as an experiment, I would bring up the word narcissist to people, and they would say "What is that?" It took me until I was in my 40's, to know what was one. I learned through my healing, of being a scapegoat. I had always wondered why people in my family, were the way they were. My parents taught, accept everyone, and do not judge.