I just want to throw in the towel
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Hi there, sorry to hear what has happened and you are going through a lot right now. It must be very very hard and traumatic. I’m also glad that you are talking to a marriage counselor and try to work things out with your husband. It’s true that the bible did say God hates divorce and I can see why. Divorce not just separates the couple but it also causes a spiral downward effect on the people around us - our kids or our related families. God knows how much pain and anguish a divorce can caused to an individual going through that. I’m a divorcee myself and I’m not saying that you need to put up with his behavior but what I’m really hoping that you will do is to take all that you are going through now, commit them in your prayer to God. The Lord is always closest to the brokenhearted. He is. He will never leave you especially not in moment like this. Hang in there ok? Keeping you in my prayer. God bless!
Always seek God first. Pray and ask him to speak to you and to give you undeniable signs. God hates divorce. Also, when the Bible was translated, they changed some of the words. In Matthew 5:32, it says you can get a divorce if your spouse has committed adultery. The Greek word here is porneia, which means fornicate. When Joseph found out Mary was pregnant he said he would divorce her quietly, because back then a promise to marry, was as serious as being married. If a woman was found to not be a Virgin, then the man could take her back to her fathers house and divorce her. That’s why after having sex on there wedding night, her father would take the sheets, the blood on them would prove she was a Virgin. If a man claimed she wasn’t a Virgin and the father could prove that she was, the man would never be allowed to divorce her. Remember, satan came to kill, steal and destroy. Destroying families is his top priority. Our number one weapon against him is prayer. #2 is being obedient to God and his word. Friends, family and even people on here can guide you down the wrong path. Most of the time Gods way will be hard and painful. As a true Christian, that means following and trusting all of God’s word, not just picking and choosing what we want to follow and believe. Jesus said to pray for our enemies, and that’s what it will feel like your husband is. Pray for him day and night even when you don’t feel like it. Remember, you are not fighting against flesh and blood. Don’t hate your husband, hate the sin.
“Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants.”
**2 Timothy *2:25-26 *NLT
Stay in the word.
May God bless you and your marriage.
“Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants.”
**2 Timothy *2:25-26 *NLT
Stay in the word.
May God bless you and your marriage.
I can fully understand what you are going through. I was a man like your husband and while it took time, God has changed me. Counseling is the way to go and separation, to give yourselves the space to set yourselves before God. Do not take any un Godly advice. You are aware there will be faults on both sides and that there will be issues behind all of what's happening that stem from each others pasts that are behind different behaviour patterns in each of you. Always remember the love you have for God and the love that bought you together. Try, as hard as it's going to be on this path, to remember forgiveness and that our God is a God of miracles and healing. A Brother In Christ.
Hi:
Just a short story. I knew a woman who loved her husband with all her heart. She was a beautiful and desirable woman in every way and, yet, she married a man who just cheated and cheated. Most of the time he lied to her about it. Twice he gave her Venerea Disease. Not once, but twice!
He put her down in many ways all through the marriage, acting like she was stupid and too unworldly for him. She put up with it because she loved him so much. But she suffered. And one day he died.
My point is this: The problem was him. Of course when they were courting, he acted wonderfully and charmingly. And whenever she said she was leaving he would promise and act nice for awhile. But then he would always do it again.
This man had no respect for her in any way (and this was his issue) NOT hers.
He has been dead for six years now and she is much older now .. (50 years of marriage) so she is alone. Please, please, please get counseling about abusive relationships. Go alone without him. Check out domestic violence hotlines online because they include the cheating, btw.
Please dont end up like her. Life is too short. You dont deserve this.
Wishing you well and willing to chat anytime you want ... just PM me.
Take care.
Laurie
Just a short story. I knew a woman who loved her husband with all her heart. She was a beautiful and desirable woman in every way and, yet, she married a man who just cheated and cheated. Most of the time he lied to her about it. Twice he gave her Venerea Disease. Not once, but twice!
He put her down in many ways all through the marriage, acting like she was stupid and too unworldly for him. She put up with it because she loved him so much. But she suffered. And one day he died.
My point is this: The problem was him. Of course when they were courting, he acted wonderfully and charmingly. And whenever she said she was leaving he would promise and act nice for awhile. But then he would always do it again.
This man had no respect for her in any way (and this was his issue) NOT hers.
He has been dead for six years now and she is much older now .. (50 years of marriage) so she is alone. Please, please, please get counseling about abusive relationships. Go alone without him. Check out domestic violence hotlines online because they include the cheating, btw.
Please dont end up like her. Life is too short. You dont deserve this.
Wishing you well and willing to chat anytime you want ... just PM me.
Take care.
Laurie