I Need Courage, and a lot less crying

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So I went to see hubby, and he wanted to know who I keep thinking I married. lol

I wasn't afraid he'd hate me or divorce me. I was ashamed I failed.

So he laughs ad says, "Isn't that the story of mankind, forever ashamed and surprised we fail, when God knew all along we would fail? It's not an excuse to quit trying. It is the reality of our sin. The surprise should be when God stops us from failing. So, we keep trying until then."

Yup. That's the man I married and the God I serve, except I keep feeling ashamed anyway. (It's still embarrassing.)

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Oh, and of course. We had a whole half hour with no one coming in the room, simply because I wasn't worried someone would come in the room seeing me cry. lol

bikerchaz · May 6, 2016

'Champix' I think I spelled it right, I took them (one a day) for 12 weeks before I gave up we can get them from a smoking cessation officer within the NHS. 4 years last December, not a thought for one well nearly not a thought. But the tax has made them £5 a pack of 20 about $7.50 so its not so hard not to think of them they are so expensive.

The tablets are for depression and stopping smoking was a side effect that was not expected, they are not too expensive and I believe God had His finger on my addiction. (Varenicline (Champix®) you are still supposed to smoke until one day you forget about them. ask at the pharmacy they will sort you out.

I have read through this and am very upset that you are so upset, I am standing with you and your hubby. I am glad he is up and about, give him my best regards. You are in my prayers
Yours in Jesus, Chaz

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coby2 said:

Hey! I'm now doing that method! lol

(I didn't take any with me, in hopes I could kick start immediately. Ha! I think I have to kickstart in the morning. Don't feel good + stopping smoking is too tough today.)

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Willie-T said:

How do you ignore someone when they don't even know who Eric Clapton is? M-u-s-t ed-u-cate. lol

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BeyondET said:

I just found a thread in the singles forum for those of us trying to quit.

hoss2576 · May 6, 2016

I want to offer a few tips that might help those who are trying to quit:

- Reduce your coffee drinking or switch some coffee to decaf. When you reduce your nicotine intake, your body will metabolize caffeine differently.

- Drink more water. It helps with cravings.

- Avoid your smoking friends for awhile or at least being around them while they're smoking. Again the smell and situation will be a trigger.

- Buy some hard cinnamon candy or gum. For a lot of people ciinnamon will mess up the taste of a cigarette.

- Before your quit date keep a journal of when you are smoking in order to identify your triggers. Once your triggers are identified, develop strategies to address each trigger.

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Miri said:

Pssst, read first post. I had four then. Almost a pack now.

Brainfreeze · May 6, 2016

hoss2576 said:

I like some of these, I'm quitting today, cold turkey... My last bad habit, good riddance. I prayed to Jesus that He help me through it as He's helped me through other things in the past, I would suggest a lot of prayer, definitely helps. I've gone through the day with no overbearing urges, and when I did get a pretty decent urge I just went for a walk, it worked! I think I'm going to try this gum and cinnamon thing and more water... and yes I'm a coffee drinker to (fraps with lots of espresso) or just espresso,

so maybe more water and v8 juices ?..

and i I live with smokers .. Going to be hard, but can be done... Watch Jesus walk me through this!

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bikerchaz said:

$200 here. (Insurance won't cover it.) Although here it's called Chantix. And that's only for two weeks. Hubby's friend tried it, and it worked. BUT he also had night terrors for those whole two weeks, so it makes me nervous financially and mentally. (I roll my own, so $200 IS about what I pay for tobacco for 5 weeks, just to compare.)

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hoss2576 said:

-- Don't drink coffee and gave up caffeine decades ago.
-- Actually had to cut down on how much I drank because I'm not supposed to eat or drink anything 15 minutes before to 15 minutes after taking the nicotine lozenge and the lozenges take 30-35 to melt all the way down. (Thirsty all the time, because I sip decaf diet soda all day usually.)
-- Last person in my family that smokes, now including hubby. Don't have friends, because I can't go out long enough to do anything friends do. (Hubby is my friend.)
-- Cinnamon is like liver. Not. Ever. For. Either.
-- I already figured my triggers and avoided them. The one I can't drop long enough was the one that got me. Disabled, so I have to relax a lot. Relax = smoke. I have been busy cleaning the house so much the reason I am disabled hit me like a ton of bricks. I can't keep doing stuff without causing more pain. So... I had to sit and endure more-pain. Needed cigarette.

keepitsimple · May 6, 2016

Depleted said:

So I went to see hubby, and he wanted to know who I keep thinking I married. lol

I wasn't afraid he'd hate me or divorce me. I was ashamed I failed.

So he laughs ad says, "Isn't that the story of mankind, forever ashamed and surprised we fail, when God knew all along we would fail? It's not an excuse to quit trying. It is the reality of our sin. The surprise should be when God stops us from failing. So, we keep trying until then."

Yup. That's the man I married and the God I serve, except I keep feeling ashamed anyway. (It's still embarrassing.)

Big hugs sis'. God understands ... and still loves you

biblerahel · May 6, 2016

Lord Jesus, I pray for Depleted, please touch her heart, and give her courage to stop smoking. Please hear our prayers and let her feel your spirit and get more and more confident in her own life. I bind all the frustration, lack of faith and guiltiness in the name of Jesus. Amen

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biblerahel said:

Can we bind guiltiness? (Really asking, 'cuz that would be cool!)

BenFTW · May 6, 2016

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Obviously your husband doesn't condemn you and you also know God doesn't condemn you. Jesus loves you. You want a revelation that'll give you peace in your heart? The moment your fingers are holding that cigarette to your lips and you take your first puff God still loves you, doesn't condemn you, and you are still, through God's imputation, the righteousness of God in Jesus Christ. That very moment, that first inhalation, God is still for you, loves you, and wants the best for you.

There are testimonies of people who have grasped the grace of God and in two weeks got set free from nicotine addiction. One man every time he went and smoked, in that very moment He would say "I am the righteousness of God, in Jesus Christ" He would speak life and come in agreement with God's word that he is new creation, that he is the righteousness of God, in Jesus Christ (all while still smoking).

So my recommendation for you to be set free from the guilt and condemnation? Realize the Judge, God, doesn't condemn you and even in the midst of your sin loves you infinitely. Also, start putting that into practice. "I am the righteousness of God, in Jesus Christ." You'll soon find out that your actions don't align with who God says you are and you'll notice there is an identity crisis going on.

God bless and good luck.

Blain · May 7, 2016

I may not have a addiction to smoking but I have an addiction to caffeine and I have truly tried to quit but I have not been able to, I have however been able to cut down on the amount of caffeine my bodies requires(or thinks it requires) I found quitting cold turkey is not the healthiest way to quit an addiction, think of this if your going down a steep hill you don't just run down it or else you will fall and start rolling like a ball and get hurt a lot in the process. You instead walk calmly and steadily looking forwards it doesn't matter how slowly you reach your goal at the bottom of the hill as long as you make it and so you pace yourself.

If you notice there is a very common pattern with God he is really into the slow and steady not the fast and now, in our growing in him it's always a slow and steady process he gives us bit by bit which is a genius tactic because while he teaches us gives more understanding more of him more of his heart we are never truly filled always hungry and so we continue to seek him out all the more. And tree which takes years to fully grow becomes beautiful and a home for many creatures. the key is to go slow and steady and look forwards keeping our eyes on him, believe me I know very well that we sometimes stumble and fall and when we are down and out feeling weak and hopeless thinking we will never beat this thing feeling nothing but shame regret and the downpour of tears from our eyes he is lifting our heads looking at us with those shining caring and understanding eyes and says get back up and rejoice for I am with you and will keep you strong I will help you to carry this cross and I will show you why they call me the overcomer.

The only reason i was able to make it as far as I have which isn't much in my battle with my addiction is because no matter how many times I fell my hearts eyes were solely locked on him not myself or my weakness or my failings and because of this he gave me the strength to keep getting back up.

Miri · May 7, 2016

Depleted said:

Thats still 5-6 packs, maybe more, than you would have had. Hurray!

bikerchaz · May 7, 2016

I didn't realise the cost. They cost me nothing because we have the NHS, I looked it up to see if I could get some and post them, but a full 12 week course is £248 prob $340
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I wasn't far off with my guess, so I am going to keep praying for help for you to accept who you are just Like Jesus does, cigs and all, if you don't stop until He comes back at least you will then, bless Him.
God bless.

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Newest attempt.

Since nicotine itself won't kill me, but the habit has me whipped, how about I go for the nicotine without all the stuff that will kill me with it? Ecigs?

The only reason I couldn't do ecigs before was because they're heavier than regular cigs, so I dropped them. Well, I just spent 5 days trying different things to avoid a cig, so I think adapting to that one problem would have to be easier.

Added bonus -- it's just vapor, so it won't harm hubby or me.

resurrection33 · May 7, 2016

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Newest attempt.

Since nicotine itself won't kill me, but the habit has me whipped, how about I go for the nicotine without all the stuff that will kill me with it? Ecigs?

The only reason I couldn't do ecigs before was because they're heavier than regular cigs, so I dropped them. Well, I just spent 5 days trying different things to avoid a cig, so I think adapting to that one problem would have to be easier.

Added bonus -- it's just vapor, so it won't harm hubby or me.

No, you need to give up nicotine. Don't give up.

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