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If his family and your family have connections outside your relationship; you can't reasonably expect him to withdraw from his family's connections because your relationship has ended.
I suggest that, when his family and yours do things together, you relate to him the same way you did before your relationship with him started. You did right to break away from him; but you should not put a wedge between your family and his.
Q
His brother and friends were there so I knew he would hear about it. But, for him to actually get into his car and show up....
Of course I didnt give my family the horrid details of what happened. I never bad mouth to anyone. So I had the honor of watching him speak to my family and mingle. He even greeted my dad. Someone really out of the loop gave him congrats on his new baby.
I may need to find a job in a new city and move. I cant live like this. I am really going threw the ringer. I cant believe it after being so faithful to God all these years
Of course I didnt give my family the horrid details of what happened. I never bad mouth to anyone. So I had the honor of watching him speak to my family and mingle. He even greeted my dad. Someone really out of the loop gave him congrats on his new baby.
I may need to find a job in a new city and move. I cant live like this. I am really going threw the ringer. I cant believe it after being so faithful to God all these years
Maybe being put through the wringer is God's way of doing this:
But even if it has nothing to do with that, we were never promised a life without trials. In fact we were assured of the exact opposite.
Our own choices can lead to consequences, and actions lead to reactions, both good and bad. If someone makes any random bad choice, yes God will forgive them but they still might have to deal with consequences resulting from their actions.
And even beyond that, the story of Job proves that jank can and will happen, even if we do nothing to cause it.
But even if it has nothing to do with that, we were never promised a life without trials. In fact we were assured of the exact opposite.
Our own choices can lead to consequences, and actions lead to reactions, both good and bad. If someone makes any random bad choice, yes God will forgive them but they still might have to deal with consequences resulting from their actions.
And even beyond that, the story of Job proves that jank can and will happen, even if we do nothing to cause it.
Q
I pray for strength tonight and a reason to pull through this beating. It feels like no sooner than I get ahead, something else pulls me down.
A conversation that he had with my brother found its way back to me. I feel like he knew it would. So, he basically wanted me to know that he lives with a woman he cheated with in a new town and that he frequents strip clubs
A conversation that he had with my brother found its way back to me. I feel like he knew it would. So, he basically wanted me to know that he lives with a woman he cheated with in a new town and that he frequents strip clubs
God is certainly not responsible for his behavior. Be thankful that you learned the truth before you married him; and realize how much better off you are without him.
You can be quite sure the other girl is in for similar heartaches.
He has given you no reason to expect anything good from him; so expect the worst from him and all your surprises will be pleasant!
Meanwhile it is time to move on and trust that God has something better for you!
Oh My Sister. I have been there. One day you will look back on this time in your life, and thank God that you got through it. Thank- you for being so honest about how you are feeling. I get it, if he just would cry, and ask forgiveness, and WANT you then you'd know that it wasn't you-- it was him. I am telling you, IT'S NOT YOU, it's him. Regardless of you truly acknowledging this, you do recognize that this was not a healthy relationship. You will get through this. Cast your cares upon Him (God) because he Cares for you.
Q
I went from sexual abuse as a kid, which resulted in me not trusting anyone and not having friends through school, i was severely depressed by my senior year, then my mom fell ill with a mental illness that weighed me to the ground. Then, i thought i found love and had a normal life. But sike,Quest! He proposed to some other woman while with me. I am tired of darkness.
I shared so no one thinks i am just sobbing over a man
I shared so no one thinks i am just sobbing over a man
ok..you have vented...hope you feel better, but honestly..this is between you and GOD..the world does not need to actually endulge in your past drama....leave it at the foot of the CROSS, let JESUS bear your burdens like HE says HE will...and move forth with your head held high..must we know the sordid details of the 'other woman" , honestly? Must we mail you a hanky or accept anymore of this pity party affair? Has anyone ever been this blunt and straightforward? This is not in meaness or disrespect..but you have really got to get a grip on this and grow from it..otherwise, what you have here is good soap opera material that hs already been covered a million times.
pwrnJC,
Why are you on the thread if you are not ready to be sympathetic or helpful? Quest's cry for help doesn't cost you anything. She has been betrayed and she needs that God, whether directly or through His faithful, is still there for her.
Unless or until you have been devastated by a betrayal you have no basis for criticism.
pwrnJC,
Why are you on the thread if you are not ready to be sympathetic or helpful? Quest's cry for help doesn't cost you anything. She has been betrayed and she needs to know that God, whether directly or through His faithful, is still there for her.
Unless or until you have been devastated by a betrayal you have no basis for criticism.
Why am I on the thread? Seems to me that when someone posts anything, it is open season for all kinds of responses from anyone. I am here for her and care, but..caring is not always 'THERE, there dear, sit down and let us have a continual cup of coffee and donuts while you let it all out to me". JESUS, although highly compassionate, did not chase after anyone, continually trying to gather up their teardrops. He acted upon it. He lifted up HIs face to His Father and openly prayed (which I have), He would give them hints of what to do (go sell all your have and come follow ME, or RISE UP and walk, or Go present yourself to the temple priests, etc.), but HE never kept coddling. He simply tells us to cast all our burdens on HIM. There comes a time, through anyone's crisis situations, that ultimately, the victim has to totally assured with where they stand with JESUS during their trials. One on one, face to face, aside of the internet and aside of all the tons of advice from those in this chatroom. Nobody will say to JESUS one day..'BUT LORD, uh, they told me that I should do this and that I should do that...I was only following their advice!
I manage a homeless shelter..my passion and compassion can only go so far..if I did not motivate our residents to make better choices and to rise above their present circumstances (and yes, some much worse than this one), I would be enabling them to continue to drown in their own sorrow, or keep spinning their wheels.
Do not take my comments as harsh criticism.
I manage a homeless shelter..my passion and compassion can only go so far..if I did not motivate our residents to make better choices and to rise above their present circumstances (and yes, some much worse than this one), I would be enabling them to continue to drown in their own sorrow, or keep spinning their wheels.
Do not take my comments as harsh criticism.
Q
I awaken with pain resting in my stomach. It is not as sharp as the days before, but nevertheless the pain is still there. Some days i want to nod back to sleep in order to not feel the pain, but I must press forward.
I saw the baby, it isnt cute. Perhaps that is my jealousy speaking. Perhaps it is my ego fighting to exist again. The truth is I feel stupid that so much was going on but it seemed logical that most of his time was spent raising his kids, working and not having much time for a woman. Oh but did he.
I continue to pray that all of these feelings are washed away. I hadnt dated much, so i tell myself that this was my crash course. I experienced everything in it. Very painful stuff but what am i not ready for now?
I have a visual of putting this main in a trash bag, tying it and putting the bag into a shredder. That is what he is. A faithful, honest, transparent, diverse, god loving man is on his way to me. I will continue to build a good life for the right man to join, not improve but join
I saw the baby, it isnt cute. Perhaps that is my jealousy speaking. Perhaps it is my ego fighting to exist again. The truth is I feel stupid that so much was going on but it seemed logical that most of his time was spent raising his kids, working and not having much time for a woman. Oh but did he.
I continue to pray that all of these feelings are washed away. I hadnt dated much, so i tell myself that this was my crash course. I experienced everything in it. Very painful stuff but what am i not ready for now?
I have a visual of putting this main in a trash bag, tying it and putting the bag into a shredder. That is what he is. A faithful, honest, transparent, diverse, god loving man is on his way to me. I will continue to build a good life for the right man to join, not improve but join