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Quest 20 I know how hard it is but you should count blessing you were not married to him.
SURE IT HURTS. And I pray you heal from that hurt. But yu see it takes one mistake to throw you into the dark side. you might be a good girl not dating much but it means nothing when you make one mistake and fall on the wrong person.
trust me even the right person makes mistake.
I didn't date much either. my ex husband was my first boyfriend and everything. still I was betrayed to the worst possible way, now I am a single mum like any other single mum out there, I am divorced like a big curse on me and looked down in church and I had to check myself from STDs too even though I was married.
It is only God that heal my heart and the road is long but I know He has cleansed me. You need to find the strength somewhere to battle this depression and regain control of your life. Do not hand it over to pain but to hope and trust God. It's the only way.
SURE IT HURTS. And I pray you heal from that hurt. But yu see it takes one mistake to throw you into the dark side. you might be a good girl not dating much but it means nothing when you make one mistake and fall on the wrong person.
trust me even the right person makes mistake.
I didn't date much either. my ex husband was my first boyfriend and everything. still I was betrayed to the worst possible way, now I am a single mum like any other single mum out there, I am divorced like a big curse on me and looked down in church and I had to check myself from STDs too even though I was married.
It is only God that heal my heart and the road is long but I know He has cleansed me. You need to find the strength somewhere to battle this depression and regain control of your life. Do not hand it over to pain but to hope and trust God. It's the only way.
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alot of men are dogs. This guy is no different. He's obviously a player, and probably has several women beyond you, his fiancee and his ex-wife. People who play games never stop, they enjoy it. Their selfish and greedy in that aspect. You are so much better off without him because if you think it's hard NOW, think how much more difficult it wouldve been after you had married him. His fiancee is gonna find out fast about what a player he is. Don't waste any more of your time or tears on this bum. You deserve so much better than a dog with fleas..lol.. 
Are you saying that the other fiancée is "artificial" because she has a nice house and cars? And are you calling the other fiancée a "floozy" and assuming that Quest20 would have been the loving wife/girlfriend in this equation? What if the other fiancée had written this thread? Would you be trying to convince her that surely Quest20 is "artificial" and... that other thing you said? Do you think that the other woman would be delighted to find out that her fiancé was engaged to Quest? Do you realize that they are in basically the same position as each other? Why are you trying to vilify one of them for no real reason?
They change, by God's grace and with His help, if they want to change.
They change, by God's grace and with His help, if they want to change.
Ummm...my parents.
They met in June, were engaged in July and married in November...and it will be 50 years this November.
Also, my sister. She had the first date with her husband the Friday after Thanksgiving and were engaged on New Year's Day and married in September. It's been nine years for them.
So, ya know, it happens....and sometimes it works.
They met in June, were engaged in July and married in November...and it will be 50 years this November.
Also, my sister. She had the first date with her husband the Friday after Thanksgiving and were engaged on New Year's Day and married in September. It's been nine years for them.
So, ya know, it happens....and sometimes it works.
Nobody said that the other woman thought she had to have a lot of material possessions, or that she valued materialism above everything else. She has possessions, but that does not necessarily make her "artificial".
You are still assuming much. Quest had never said that the other woman knew about her or even is aware of her now (though she might be, I don't know). I take issue with you calling her a "floozy" and assuming that she is the villain and not a loving girlfriend, when in fact that might be exactly what she is.
I agree that the guy is a player. He obviously should not have two fiancées. But the other woman might not have done a single thing wrong. Can we at least not call her names?
The guy in question doesn't want to change, is not repenting, and should definitely be dumped. No argument here. But you said that cheaters never stop, in fact cannot stop cheating, and that is what I disagreed with. They most certainly can, though of course many do not want to.
You are still assuming much. Quest had never said that the other woman knew about her or even is aware of her now (though she might be, I don't know). I take issue with you calling her a "floozy" and assuming that she is the villain and not a loving girlfriend, when in fact that might be exactly what she is.
I agree that the guy is a player. He obviously should not have two fiancées. But the other woman might not have done a single thing wrong. Can we at least not call her names?
The guy in question doesn't want to change, is not repenting, and should definitely be dumped. No argument here. But you said that cheaters never stop, in fact cannot stop cheating, and that is what I disagreed with. They most certainly can, though of course many do not want to.
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Quest, I sincerely feel your pain! I know how hard it is, but you need to distance yourself from all things having to do with him and his friends and family. It will get easier with time if you stay true to yourself and avoid these situations as much as possible. However, being around other women who are also hurt in the same way can help. It just isn't good to mourn your lost relationship all the time. Go have some fun or quiet time. Whichever you prefer. And when you do, don't give him a second thought.
He missed out on a great thing. You narrowly escaped a terrible thing. Try celebrating your escape and see if you feel better.
Hang in there. Stay strong! God is with you. I am praying for you.
He missed out on a great thing. You narrowly escaped a terrible thing. Try celebrating your escape and see if you feel better.
Hang in there. Stay strong! God is with you. I am praying for you.