Living together after wedding: Awesomeness vs pitfalls?

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kiwi_OT

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So Im getting married in under 6 weeks and Im pretty excited.
Im very happy with my choice of husband. We've been celibate for our entire relationship, despite both of us having come short of biblical standards in the past.

This weekend we're going to sign the lease on the apartment we will live in (he will move in straightaway and I will join him shortly after wedding).

Its getting to the point where I am thinking about being married (ie and all the perks we've been waiting for lol) ALL THE TIME. I know the bible says lust is a no no except in marriage but what about the weeks comming up to marriage like in my case?

Secondly, I don't want to fall into the trap of thinking marriage (at least the first year anyway) is just going to be lots of sex (see can't help it!). You think I have it bad? My fiance has been celibate A LOT longer than I have and its driving him crazy as well.

Neither of us have lived with each other before and we've tried to go over things that we individually do as habits around the house so as to prepare each other, but sometimes a habit is so ingrained you may not even know its a habit. And I mean like little things like leaving the toilet seat up, the way a person squeeses toothpaste or how a person washes the dishes etc.

So heres an even bigger question to the married ladies here:

What habit did you not know your hubby had until you lived together? And what did you do about it?
 
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choZn

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My husband throws things away instead of using up the last of anything. Toothpaste, shampoo, cereal, ketchup- you get the idea. I can get as many as 4 or 5 more uses out of the things he throws away. As a result, I'm always the one draining the bottom of whatever it is. In his defense, he didn't know he was marrying Ms. Frugal who hates waste. What do I do about it? I squeeze every last drop without fuss. And I don't replace things until they are used up. It's a small consolation and reminder of my humanity that I have habits that drive my husband crazy, too. Enjoy each other, focus on God, and try not to let the little things trip you up. Best wishes to you.
 
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wolfywolfs

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if i thought marriage gets me lots of sex i would of done that by now by as i get enough sex anyway i guess meh to marriage
 
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wolfywolfs

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o little spolier the first time is bad but funny at the same time
 
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AnandaHya

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choZn said:
It's a small consolation and reminder of my humanity that I have habits that drive my husband crazy, too. Enjoy each other, focus on God, and try not to let the little things trip you up. Best wishes to you.
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:) so true my husband I both do things that annoy each other but we love each other more then we are annoyed by our bad habits. :) learning how to love as God loves us helps a lot. God loved us even as were were sinners He forgave and told us we are loved and invited us home. :)

 
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kiwi_OT

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choZn said:
My husband throws things away instead of using up the last of anything. Toothpaste, shampoo, cereal, ketchup- you get the idea. I can get as many as 4 or 5 more uses out of the things he throws away. As a result, I'm always the one draining the bottom of whatever it is. In his defense, he didn't know he was marrying Ms. Frugal who hates waste. What do I do about it? I squeeze every last drop without fuss. And I don't replace things until they are used up. It's a small consolation and reminder of my humanity that I have habits that drive my husband crazy, too. Enjoy each other, focus on God, and try not to let the little things trip you up. Best wishes to you.
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Hehe, throw this piece of scripture at your husband next time he thinks your weird for being thrifty -

"Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD." Prov 19:14
 
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kiwi_OT

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wolfywolfs said:
o little spolier the first time is bad but funny at the same time
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I dont really find your statements helpful, as your neither a woman nor married.
Plus, Im not a virgin so theres nothing you can spoil that I don't already know.
 
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kiwi_OT

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kiwi_OT said:
I dont really find your statements helpful, as your neither a woman nor married.
Plus, Im not a virgin so theres nothing you can spoil that I don't already know.
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ie I lost my virginity from sin from a previous relationship
 
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wolfywolfs

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kiwi_OT said:
I dont really find your statements helpful, as your neither a woman nor married.
Plus, Im not a virgin so theres nothing you can spoil that I don't already know.
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wasnt trying to be helpful :p
 
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choZn

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Wolfy, Wolfy, Wolfy...what can I say? I would not try to condemn you. You feel the way that you feel. Besides, I haven't forgotten you and I have been praying for you for awhile now. I'm glad to see you are still here.
kiwi_OT, wanna join me in praying for Wolfy? Oh, and thanks for the scripture. I laughed. Remember to do that. Alot. God must have a great sense of humor. He often puts people together who are such complete opposites that it's easy to forget it's not what you have in common that's important, but finding common ground. I hope you'll let us all know how it's going after awhile.
 
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